Virgin/Some Tips?

[juggerknot17]

Ok im still a virgin and i have been dating this girl for about a month or two and i think we are ready to move to the next step but shes is not a virgin and i need some tips on Foreplay and fingering? i have seen tons of porn and stuff but im sure gettings some tips from people that know where im coming from would be a bit better? i mean i know im at least alright? i have never tried it but im scared that i wont meet her expectations? anyone got some tips or somthin? mainly forplay...thats what i suck the most at?

 

[Bobmi357]

Ok im still a virgin and i have been dating this girl for about a month or two and i think we are ready to move to the next step but shes is not a virgin and i need some tips on Foreplay and fingering? i have seen tons of porn and stuff but im sure gettings some tips from people that know where im coming from would be a bit better? i mean i know im at least alright? i have never tried it but im scared that i wont meet her expectations? anyone got some tips or somthin? mainly forplay...thats what i suck the most at?

There's got to be a first time for everyone. So my first suggestion would be to tell your girlfriend that this is your "first" time and ask her to provide a little coaching...

However, if that thought doesn't float your boat, here's some advice.

1) Foreplay doesn't mean diving for the goal posts! Spend some time nibbling on her neck, hold her tightly, caress her breasts with the backs of your hands. Your fingers are likely to have callouses on them, the backs of your hands are softer, and covered in a fine hair which can tickle a little if you use a soft touch.

2) Breasts are not playdough or bread dough, generally unless she asks for a rougher touch, its safe to assume that you should be gentle with them. Nibble lightly and slowly around each breast, slowly circling inwards. When you reach the nipple capture it with your lips and try pulling a little while rubbing your tongue over it. BE VERY CAREFUL with your teeth. It might be ok to scrape your teeth across a nipple, but you can really hurt someone with your teeth if you aren't careful.

3) Take your time, and keep your eyes and ears open! Even if you haven't told her you are a virgin, and she isn't directing your efforts, her responses can still tell you what works for her. Watch her, does she sigh and close her eyes when you do something? Does her breath quicken? Or is she laying there staring at the ceiling thinking about what color scheme would be good for this room? The reactions you're looking for will vary from woman to woman. But you'll be able to tell for your woman. Also watch her hands, she might not be giving you verbal directions, but sometimes what she's doing with her hands is just as good of a clue.

Additionally it wouldn't hurt if you popped up every so often and ask "Do you like this?"

4) TEASE and entice! Instead of diving right in, try kissing and gently rubbing along the inside of her thighes, and around her vagina without touching it.

5) Try alternate erogenous zones. The back of the neck, inside of the wrists, the small of her back, the backs of her thighes, her buttocks.

6) Lots of kissing. LOTS OF KISSING. Did I mention LOTS OF KISSING? Also, gently push the hair from out of her eyes, kiss her forehead. Take your time, relax. The more pleasure you give, the more you will enjoy the experience.

Ok I'll admit I'm old fashioned, but I view a woman giving herself to me as a priceless gift of sorts. I've been with my wife now for over 10yrs and each time we have sex of one sort or another, its a wonderful experience. Its the one time I feel like I can reach out and touch god.

How long should foreplay last? That depends on both of you. There are times when one partner can get so worked up that nothing short of an animalistic fuck will suffice. And other times when you make love for a long time, reveling in the delights of your partner. In the beginning, and as this is your first time, you probably won't last long. BUT you have a quick recovery time. So if you find yourself popping off after 3 minutes, hold her close and tell her that you'll be ready in a few more minutes so just cuddle and caress, keeping her fire burning til you're ready again. If you end up lasting long enough to force her to say "Stop teasing and fuck me damnit!" you'll have an idea of whats ideal for you.

- Bob

 

[wicked woman]

Ok I'll admit I'm old fashioned, but I view a woman giving herself to me as a priceless gift of sorts. I've been with my wife now for over 10yrs and each time we have sex of one sort or another, its a wonderful experience. Its the one time I feel like I can reach out and touch god.

Beautifully put Bob....great advice too

 

[Selflessness]

how do you tease (not the sexual tease)?

 

[sheath]

Re: Re: Virgin/Some Tips?

Ok I'll admit I'm old fashioned, but I view a woman giving herself to me as a priceless gift of sorts. I've been with my wife now for over 10yrs and each time we have sex of one sort or another, its a wonderful experience. Its the one time I feel like I can reach out and touch god.
- Bob

Ah...wow. That made me smile this morning.

S.

 

[pleased2eatyou]

CONDOM'S !!!!!

By the way get a couple of good condoms, if it's your first you may want to try "Durex" a good brand and "Performax" one of there types of condoms has a lube that will allow you to last a bit longer than normal...Helpful if you get really excited by the first time thing, at least until you learn a bit of control. AND I can't recommend enough the Thread "Try this and Report back" by MR G great info for someone just starting. You may want to wait a few times before you try any of these things with your girlfriend though, they may be a bit aggressive for your first time together.
Good luck, we have all been there at one time or another. And BOBMI's gave you some really sound advice so read through it several times so you confortible with it when you get together...
Pleased

 

[bobsgirl]

Re: Re: Virgin/Some Tips?

Ok I'll admit I'm old fashioned, but I view a woman giving herself to me as a priceless gift of sorts. I've been with my wife now for over 10yrs and each time we have sex of one sort or another, its a wonderful experience. Its the one time I feel like I can reach out and touch god.

See, this is why I always read anything posted by Bobmi. Your wife is a lucky woman.

BG