Virgin Female

[SpiritRaven]

My girlfriend and I are planning on having sex and she is a virgin. I know I'll have to go slow and talk with her the whole way through to reassure her it's ok. However, is there anything else I can do to ease the experience? Perhaps some KY? Fingering her first? Also, can a women safely go on the pill when she's a virgin?

 

[lovetoread]

Yes she can go on the pill.

I was on it for a year before I had sex.

Make sure she is relaxed. Give her an orgasm before you go inside of her.

If she is a bit dry, k-y jelly would work well.

Just make sure she is having fun and feeling good.

 

[guest1977]

When the time comes, you might want to consider the cowgirl position.

(You flat on your back, while she stradles your hip. Possibly resting on her knees, crouched down, or resting upon the balls of her heels and the hands whilest leaning backwards)

It allows her to control the depth of the penetration and the speed. This might make her feel a little less nervous.

Another bonus is the fact that you can play with her clit, as well as her breasts and nipples. That ought to further help her with enjoying the encounter.

Though lovetoread is quite correct, helping her reaching the big O or several of them (can you say cunnilingus and g-spot rubbing??) will definitely help with the situation. It'll make her more relaxed.

Plus she won't think you an insensitive pig only interested in getting your own rocks off. Guys like that give the rest of us a bad name. Show her that you care about her, show that you are interested in her having a wonderful experience. And DON'T forget to cuddle afterwards.

Afterplay is as important as foreplay. The wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am routine is not very conductive towards a loving relationship. Not that it can't be fun. But there is a difference between just fucking (if you'll pardon my French) and making love. The latter is far more fulfilling in the end. Least for me anyway.

 

[kay1eigh]

Yes, make sure you give her an orgasm before you penatrate her. I agree with all they said. Don't just rely on the pill though. Use a condom-it has a better protection rate or whatever you want to call it. Anyway, there is pretty much nothing you can do to stop it from being painful at first. You can make it better, but it is going to hurt her at first.

 

[guest1977]

Yes, make sure you give her an orgasm before you penatrate her. I agree with all they said. Don't just rely on the pill though. Use a condom-it has a better protection rate or whatever you want to call it. Anyway, there is pretty much nothing you can do to stop it from being painful at first. You can make it better, but it is going to hurt her at first.

One thing I have wondered about though, if it might be possible to use the endorphins released during the height of an orgasm to mask the pain of going through her hymen.

Provided she has one (hymen) that is, lot of ways for her not to have one and still be a virgin..

If so, then eating her out, and pricking through the hymen with the fingers might be a solution to remove the pain aspect.

Might not be very standard or "manly", but then ensuring that both partners are having a fun time would seem more important to me, than some silly societal concepts.

 

[KingDingaling]

note to thread:

her riding it is not the best position ......... that will put her in more pain than most postions


missionary is the best option.





and just remember ........... I'm King Dingaling