Very Serious...

[HOPEFUL_DREAMER]

Like most men, my dream is to be with two women at the same time. I have wanted this ever since I can imagine. I had a close opportunity once but it just didn't work out. Now I am 32 years old, married, no children, and still have that urge for a threesome. My wife says there is no way she would ever be with another woman.

Is there any advice that anyone could give me? I consider myself to have better than average looks. I am 6'1'', 210 lbs., blue eyes (which I always get great comments about), brown hair, and a love for the outdoors.

Sincerely,

Hopeful

 

[robbie_boy1]

just my opinion...we wish you luck

Like most men, my dream is to be with two women at the same time. I have wanted this ever since I can imagine. I had a close opportunity once but it just didn't work out. Now I am 32 years old, married, no children, and still have that urge for a threesome. My wife says there is no way she would ever be with another woman.

Is there any advice that anyone could give me? I consider myself to have better than average looks. I am 6'1'', 210 lbs., blue eyes (which I always get great comments about), brown hair, and a love for the outdoors.

Sincerely,

Hopeful

My honest opinion is to keep your fantasy a fantasy... If you wish to move forward with your plan, you should plan on a good lawyer as well... perhaps your good looks and your height will get you a discount but we doubt it. Telling a lie or living a lie is the easy way to find yourself divorced. If you want a divorce do what you think is best....any route will get you there.

I am up front with my wife ...always ... be it three way or man to man...

We wish you luck...

rnc

 

[Auxar]

get 2 lesbian hookers and go at it? if that's what you really want to do anyway........

 

[Chicklet]

Like most men, my dream is to be with two women at the same time. I have wanted this ever since I can imagine. I had a close opportunity once but it just didn't work out. Now I am 32 years old, married, no children, and still have that urge for a threesome. My wife says there is no way she would ever be with another woman.

I'm not very pro-threesome. It's complicated in so many ways. So many people have insecurities about themselves and about their relationships, and for me, personally, the threesomes I've involved myself in ended up hurting one party or another. Even my long term commited relationships.

I agree with robbie. Keep it a fantasy. It's no shame to have fantasies that never come to pass. And who knows? Maybe some day she'll change her mind, but don't ever force her to do this unless she wants to.

 

[BitterIchor]

We all have fantasies. And many fantasies are best kept as fantasies. Sexual adventures are nice, but not when they makes a mess of things in the rest of your life. If you want my advice, a loving wife is more important than any porno-inspired fantasy.

 

[gingermango]

If both parties to a relationship are open to swinging and sharing with others, there's no problem with your idea. But the first time one party has a problem with it, that's when things come to a screeching halt.

It sounds to me like it's very clear that your wife is fundamentally opposed to adding a second lady. Given that, if you want to remain married to her you better file your fantasy under "Not Gonna Happen" and move on with life. However, if you have no kids and are unhappy sexually and emotionally, there's no particular reason to prolong a relationship with such fundamental incompatibilities is there? My first marriage was like that and I found myself very unhappy most of the time. The second time around I got it right, but if I'd stayed marrried to my first wife I'd never have had the opportunity to meet the love of my life.

All that said, we've had the pleasure of meeting and playing sexually with some amazing people since we started swinging and I would hate to try to go back to a totally monogamous, "conventional" relationship ever again. Been there, done that, got the divorce and now enjoying my life instead!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

If both parties to a relationship are open to swinging and sharing with others, there's no problem with your idea. But the first time one party has a problem with it, that's when things come to a screeching halt.

It sounds to me like it's very clear that your wife is fundamentally opposed to adding a second lady. Given that, if you want to remain married to her you better file your fantasy under "Not Gonna Happen" and move on with life. However, if you have no kids and are unhappy sexually and emotionally, there's no particular reason to prolong a relationship with such fundamental incompatibilities is there? My first marriage was like that and I found myself very unhappy most of the time. The second time around I got it right, but if I'd stayed marrried to my first wife I'd never have had the opportunity to meet the love of my life.

All that said, we've had the pleasure of meeting and playing sexually with some amazing people since we started swinging and I would hate to try to go back to a totally monogamous, "conventional" relationship ever again. Been there, done that, got the divorce and now enjoying my life instead!

I wholeheartedly agree. Decide for yourself which matters more, this particular woman or compatibility in matters of sexual preferences and such. Bear in mind that your wife's chief objection is to be that she is apparently heterosexual. A big hurdle to leap, my friend.

And I really doubt that porno was required to inspire this fantasy. That's putting the cart before the proverbial horse. Porno reflects fantasies like this. It's just that some people get the distorted idea that everyone is bi. I am bi. My gf is bi. A lot of people are not, including your wife.

So, there it is. Choose which matters more: your wife or your preferred lifestyle (which evidently isn't monogamy, and I can understand that, as I'm not monogamous either). I hate to be a hard-ass, but there it is. It's not fair to you or your wife to pursue a double life of threesomes with other women. Ask yourself what you would feel if you found out that your wife cheated on you to have an MMF threesome. The lies would probably upset you, right? There you go. Be honest with yourself and deal with the ramifications of whatever life you choose. Either way, I hope that it turns out happy and well for you.

 

[Xenolan]

Like most men, my dream is to be with two women at the same time. I have wanted this ever since I can imagine. I had a close opportunity once but it just didn't work out. Now I am 32 years old, married, no children, and still have that urge for a threesome. My wife says there is no way she would ever be with another woman.

Is there any advice that anyone could give me? I consider myself to have better than average looks. I am 6'1'', 210 lbs., blue eyes (which I always get great comments about), brown hair, and a love for the outdoors.

That first paragraph could have been written by me. I'm in precisely the same position.

Here's what I've done: I've put aside $400 that my wife doesn't know about, more than enough to get me a half hour with two women at one of the local "lingerie studios". I've compiled a CD of music to play, chosen my outfit for the evening, selected exactly where I want to go, and driven past a few times to make sure it's there. I went inside once on the pretense of scouting for a bachelor party location so I could see what the girls looked like (hot) and then after five minutes of scouting the place, faked a cell phone call to have an excuse to leave without sampling the services. In short, I've done everything but take the final step.

So far, I've had exactly four opportunities that I could have gone and taken care of business without her ever knowing about it. All four occasions have slipped by without incident. Once I had my keys in my hand and was ready to head out the door, but something, call it conscience, stopped me cold.

What I would suggest is that you do essentially what I've done: make it so it's entirely possible for you to fulfill your fantasy without getting caught, and then... don't. Next morning, see how you feel about it. Do you regret not having taken the opportunity when it was there, or do you feel good about having resisted temptation?

At the very least, at that point, you may reach an understanding about whether you really want to do this or let it remain a fantasy. I haven't fully answered that question myself, so I keep setting myself up to take a fall, so to speak.

I think it would be a really bad idea to pursue a personal ad or similar means to this end. Such things open you up to emotional entanglements, blackmail, or other dangers. It's not like sex-for-hire is completely risk-free either, but generally speaking the stripper/hooker will view the matter as strictly business and will be more interested in collecting her fee than calling up your wife and ruining a potential repeat customer.

What I will eventually probably do is go through with it, though I doubt I'll go in for actual intercourse; just some serious foreplay-style action. And if I do it, I'll do it ONCE - just one time, to get it out of my system and satisfy my curiousity.

Right now, though, those are still IFs. It may never happen. That's something both of us just might have to accept.

(and by the way, one of my stories is about this very thing - you might enjoy it! Click below to read it)