Very Embarrased Please Help!

[BoredBlond]

Hello,
I am new on here and decided that this is a very honest good place to ask for help. I recently ordered a vibrator through the internet as my husband seems to have lost interest in me sexually and it is good but...
It's too good! When I use it (twice now) I lose control of my body My legs spasm, my mouth goes wide open and my jaw shakes.
Also and the most embarassing issue is that today I actually seemed to wee a bit ( I checked and it was not wee it just felt a bit like i needed too at the time IYKWIM.
Aaarg what do i do, spend the rest of my life being sexually frustrated or trashing around on the bathroom floor feeling like I have wet myslef.
Please, please help me.

 

[elib257]

... lay back and enjoy it

The wee thing could just be general vaginal lubrication or it could possibly be a g-spot orgasm. Either way, it's nothing to be ashamed about and something to embrace. You'll get used to the feeling eventually, but it won't make it any the less special...

As I said before, lay back and enoy it.

Also, welcome to lit...

 

[mjl2010]

Aaarg what do i do, spend the rest of my life being sexually frustrated or trashing around on the bathroom floor feeling like I have wet myslef.
Please, please help me.

You masturbate on the bathroom floor? Wouldn't it be more comfortable laying on the bed? If you're concerned about making it wet, just put a towel or two down. As elib said, it's probably just a copious amount of your lubrication or it might even be girl cum.

Relax. Enjoy. Buy lots of batteries.

MJL

 

[alaskabibear]

BB, don't know your whole situation, but perhaps your husband and you could use the vibrator together...you never know what good things might develop...we have been married over 30 years and sometimes it's fun for me to just satisfy her with our toys (I know it's not talked about, but sometimes guys just don't feel up to "it" either)... me knows another thing too; my wife is a different and happier person when she is sexually satisfied, it's an important part of who and what were are as human beings - so I vote for the "thrashing" to continue if that is your only option.

 

[JamieB]

Just

Use it in the bathtub before you shower. Sounds like it doesn't take long for the fasten seatbelts light to start flashing and the oxygen masks to drop.

J

 

[fgarvb1]

Well newbie,

If the vibe thing is the worst problem you ever have...You are truly blessed!

I guess a vidio is to much to hope for?

 

[Bandit58]

Hello,
I am new on here and decided that this is a very honest good place to ask for help. I recently ordered a vibrator through the internet as my husband seems to have lost interest in me sexually and it is good but...
It's too good! When I use it (twice now) I lose control of my body My legs spasm, my mouth goes wide open and my jaw shakes.
Also and the most embarassing issue is that today I actually seemed to wee a bit ( I checked and it was not wee it just felt a bit like i needed too at the time IYKWIM.
Aaarg what do i do, spend the rest of my life being sexually frustrated or trashing around on the bathroom floor feeling like I have wet myslef.
Please, please help me.

I know what you mean It does sound like you experienced a G spot orgasm - lol my first one was amazing except that I was standing at the time and thought that I had wet myself (and the carpet!)

Don't be embarrassed it's a wonderful experience There's a thread on here called Try This and Report Back which is about finding the G spot and lots of people (including me and my Husband Gil_T2) have posted their experiences.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[khlarrissa]

So I think the important question is ...

What vibrator is this?!

 

[littlebitshe]

So I think the important question is ...

What vibrator is this?!

I second that! Do Tell!!

 

[pellso27]

sounds yummy please show pics

 

[Lurnk]

So I think the important question is ...

What vibrator is this?!

Inquiring mind here, as well.

You could possibly take comfort in knowing other women are shaking and wetting themselves, thanks to this seemingly wonderful toy.

 

[BoredBlond]

Just so you all don't think I am totally nuts! The reason I am on the bathroom floor is because it is the only room in the house that has a lock and I can muffle anysounds in there by running the shower KWIM. My husband would not like it if he new and I have a baby as well and I don't want him too hear those sort of noises.
Thankyou all for you suggestions and reassurance.
The vibe in question is called the Rabbit Rouser, I know rabbit are pretty common but this is my first time with a vibe and I had no idea I would have these kind of reactions!
Obviously I have got a bit wet in sex but this was bizzare! It was like a small puddle or something, lucky I was in the bathroom on a tiled surface. I didn't even know this was possible for women.
JamieB that sounds like a really good suggestion being in the bathtub, anymess goes down the plughole!
I know people think its women who lose interest in sex and not men but since I have been pregnant and had a baby he has gone off me, I know it is actually quite common as men see you as a mother not as a sexual woman anymore. Also I have somestrecth marks now! TMI I know. My boobs are big since breastfeeding but a bit less ahem perky than before too.
Anyway thankyou for all the help!

 

[Bandit58]

I made the mistake of telling my first husband that I masturbated. I was so excited because I'd discovered orgasms at the age of 22 (yes I know ) and thought he'd be happy that I could. No such luck, he told me that if I was horny I should have waited for him to get home We'd been married 3 years by then and I had never had an orgasm I also never saw him masturbate, he said he didn't (go figure, all men masturbate it's right there to be played with so Gil says!)

So like you I masturbated in secret for many many years....I didn't have any toys though, not until I left that idiot and bought a standard plastic vibe. The orgasms became more intense but I never came with a partner until I met my 2nd husband (Gil_T2 on here)....he's quite happy for me to masturbate if I need to and I'm much more relaxed about sex now.

 

[aimouse]

Never see an orgasm as a bad thing. It might be badly timed, but it's never bad!

It may well be dificult, but you might want to think about talking to your husband about your sex life. (I say this as someone who can talk about pretty much any aspect of sex to pretty much anyone ... except my wife so I know difficult this can be.)

Don't think that being a mum stops you being sexy. Ever heard the expression MILF?
If your hubbie doesn't see you as sexy, that doesn't mean you're not, just that he's not seeing you like that at the moment. And that's not to say that he won't again. (I doubt he's noticed the stretch marks - we men can be really blind sometimes!)

It also sounds like you're a bit down on yourself, re body image, as well, and that won't help.

Buy some new sexy underwear that makes you feel sexy and let him see you in it, but don't throw yourself at him. (This can be quite off putting if he's not in the mood.)
Be affectionate without trying to seduce him.
And slowly build up. Treat it like dating again.
Don't be ashamed of your new found freind, the rabbit, but don't leave it round for hubby to find - agian it could be counter-productive.

And in the meantime, enjoy the orgasms ... it's a shame to waste the optential.

 

[TBKahuna123]

My husband would not like it if he new...

This seems pretty common amongst guys, and I for the life of me can't figure out when. Guys egos just dont' seem to realize that no matter how good a toy is, there are things the a woman can never get from them, that they can get from us. I don't know, maybe I'm just mature enough to realize that trying to out perform a machine designed for a specific task is useless, especially a Rabbit. Lord knows we can't perform like that, and if we tried, we'd all ahve our dicks in traction for weeks.

I know people think its women who lose interest in sex and not men but since I have been pregnant and had a baby he has gone off me, I know it is actually quite common as men see you as a mother not as a sexual woman anymore. Also I have somestrecth marks now! TMI I know. My boobs are big since breastfeeding but a bit less ahem perky than before too.
Anyway thankyou for all the help!

Again, you are right, this is quite common. It is also quite narrow minded. Whatever you do, don't let his issues hurt YOUR self-esteem, because these are his issues, not yours.

 

[Jeanx2storm]

Viva la Vibrator!

TBKahuna is right, though any orgasm is awesome, the rabbit just can't do everything another naked body can!

 

[Abradix]

Embrace it. Let him join the fun. Stop repressing your sexuality!

 

[Bandit58]

Embrace it. Let him join the fun. Stop repressing your sexuality!

Read my post above. It's very hard to "embrace it" when your husband thinks all you should need is his "magic dick" to have an orgasm

She's not repressing her sexuality, on the contrary she's exploring by herself because her hubby is showing no interest in her.

 

[noteasybeingree]

No reason to be embarassed

I really think there is no reason to be embarassed. I don't know your husband, but personally I love the thought of the woman I love masturbating. I don;'t know if there is any way that you might feel comfortable including your husband in this. Maybe telling him about it, maybe describing it, and eventually building up to the point where you can masturbate in front of him...Speaking as a guy, if this is something that you haven't explored, it could be an incredibly HOT opportunity to explore your sexuality...

 

[nippleslut]

How do you know that your hubby doesnt want you to pleasure yourself??? I am only asking becuase my last few boyfriends had problems with me doing it. So I also hid it from my now Hubby. well he came home early from work one day and "caught me" -we talked and he told me that he has no problems with it becuase he knows that my sex drive is higher then his. He knows that no matter how good the o is with the toy its nothing like having them with him. Also yes it sounds like you had a g-spot o the firdt time i had one i thought i had peed myself too and i was sooo embarrased. Now they are normal (see what happens when your s/o knows how to get you off) that putting towels down on the bed before sex is the norm.

 

[simpleman911]

Thanks

THANKS FOR YOUR HONESTY. mAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR HUSBAND AND SEE HOW HE TAKES IT. THEN GIVE HIM SOME TIME. US GUYS ARE MORE UNDERSTANDING THAN WE GET CREDIT FOR. RELAX AND ENJOY YOURSELF. REALLY.
RAY

 

[JADED_ONE1969]

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[subwannabe]

Sooner or later you are going to have to communicate with your husband about your sexuality. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to tell him about your new toy. It would be better to do it sooner rather than later. Even though I highly encourage you to explore your sexuality and enjoy it, you can't forget about your husband and just masturbate on the bathroom floor for the rest of your life. There may be a whole host of reasons why he doesn't want to do it anymore and you have to communicate with him to find out why or you will never solve the problem. Some possibilities are:

he didn't want to have a child in the first place and wants to make sure it won't happen again

having a baby is more than he anticipated and he is afraid of adding to the brood again

maybe you're not as attractive to him since having a baby

maybe he really liked sucking on your nipples but now that grosses him out

maybe it's just hard for him to get in the mood with a baby crying or wanting attention or he misses the spontanaity of the past and now sex has to be planned in advance or done at a time of the baby's choosing instead of his or yours

100 other reasons

 

[great lover]

... lay back and enjoy it

The wee thing could just be general vaginal lubrication or it could possibly be a g-spot orgasm. Either way, it's nothing to be ashamed about and something to embrace. You'll get used to the feeling eventually, but it won't make it any the less special...

As I said before, lay back and enoy it.

Also, welcome to lit...

^^^^What she said ^^^^

 

[akatrex]

BOB

Battery Operated Boyfriend

You ladies!

Thats OK I keep one in the Car, Luggage, Shower and Nightstand for my S.O.

You just never know when you might feel the need.


How do you spell relief..........BOB