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wishin41mi
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Start small and use a lot of lube as you work up to big!WyldSpirit
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If it hurts, you're doing it wrong, or atleast doing it too fast. As wishin said, you just have to take things slow and use lots of lube. Start out with a finger, then two, then maybe a small plug, dildo, or vibe. Pretty soon you'll be being fucked with the best of us
Have fun!
Have fun!
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I had a f-buddy for years when I was younger. When I first fucked him he got very sore. I think part of it was that he had prostate problems years before we met. (When he was younger, he had some prostate infection for which he had to take antibiotics for a few months.) As a result I think his first experiences at getting fucked, kind of hurt him. However, after that first time, he seemed to like it. Some of the things I thinked helped were:
1) We tended to make love to each others bodies -- not just grab for the private parts. Such abilities come with time and familiarity as EVERY person has different erotic zones. For some reason perhaps ours were similar so it was easier to find his zones.
a) I would do lots of foreplay ignoring his genitles:
i) lick and carress (like a feather ) the mammary lines.
(All mammals female (and even males) have sensitive areas from the nipple down to the groin. Primates normally have just two nipples (some have extra ones that pop up, but its rare). If you've ever seen a female dog you know they have multiple nipples on each side going down the sides of there stomach. Those nerve endings also exists on the sides of human bellies, you just don't see the nipples since we evolved to just 2.
ii) lick and carress the areas of the behind
This is the area where low cut jeans (hip huggers) hit the flesh.
If the guy is wearing briefs, you'd be pulling down his underwear just a little bit to lick him or to just barely carress his skin.
iii) Play with his feet
Suck his toes & message his sole (NOTE: Some guys really love a deep foot message, some guy's cannot take this for very long.)
iii) Give a back message for a LONG period of time
I would give him anywhere from a 15-30 minute message. It would include from his scalp to his ankles. Again, you avoid the private parts for the moment.
b) Start going for what you want.
After all that attention, he was like puddy in my hands. I would rim him which would drive him crazy. I would get him to loosen up this way. Then I would start to lube him up and use my fingers to softly/slowly fuck him. While I was using my fingers, I would l lick around his behind where I mentioned above. I would then go back to messaging his back, but I would let my cock rub up and down his crack, and his lubed hole. Every now and then, I would let it kind of slip in. Since he was so relaxed from all the above there was not the typical tightness. After a few of these slips, I would find him wanting me to stop teasing, and would rear back for me to enter him completely.
c) Even when you finally are in, take your time and watch the guy for his comfort.
I would always try to pay attention to make sure he was enjoying the activities: I would watch: his eyes (if open), look for any signs of tightening of his facial muscles, notice any tightness in his body movements, and also check his cock. (The guy's cock really differs from person to person. Some guys can totally enjoy being fucked, but won't be the slightest bit hard. Some guys will be very hard. My favorite is guys regardless of hard/soft who start dripping precum. Again, guys are all different, so you have to learn this about the guy. If you do detect any discomfort, figure out what needs to change. You may need to pullout and lube more. You may need to stay in, but just don't move until he has adjusted a bit more. You may need to let him get up and go to the bathroom. You may even need to call it quits. The goal isn't to get your rocks off one time, by forcing something uncomfortable on your man. It's to get him to love it, and let you do it again in the future. So sometimes you have to pass on the present encounter.
d) Do everything in your power to try to get the guy on the bottom off.
I think this is the most important thing a top should do. The bottom may not be in pain, if you do things slowly to get him in the mood, but there is a very good chance that regardless he may get a little sore the next day. Thus, unless you are only into one-time fucks, you want the guy to have enjoyed it enougth that he will let you have him again -- either that night or another day. And no matter how great it feels to reach orgasm inside a guy, it's even better if the bottom reaches orgasm. There is nothing more powerful than feeling your man's ass ring and prostate go into uncontrolled, strong, ejaculatory spasms while your inside him.
Again, all I said needs to be customized for the individual man. Its just kind of a guide. This particular f-buddy was so sexually compatable with me, but he had his faults too. He would never admit he was a really a bottom. I think that is because it was difficult for him to accept the fact that he was both a hairy, masculine man and I was inside him. I think that was also why he never wanted to kiss.
Some bottoms want you to fuck them fast and hard. I never could understand that , but I would do my best to adjust. I figure they got off on this idea of an animalistic fucking from a strong man. Some bottoms don't want you to help them get off. Perhaps they prefer to masturbate about what transpired later after you aren't around. Some guys want you to say debasing things to them as you fuck them. Some guys want you to put your entire weight on them. There are just so many differences between guys, that you need the experience of that particular man to make it good for him.
The secret for the bottom is to find a top who works with you to find what you need in order to find satisfaction. I don't recommend your first time being with a stranger as you don't know much about him. I'm not saying to wait untill you are ready to setup house, but just make sure he gets to know your body, your reactions, etc. Your more likely to go away with a sense of satisfaction if he is someone you know and trust to care for your needs and limitations.
1) We tended to make love to each others bodies -- not just grab for the private parts. Such abilities come with time and familiarity as EVERY person has different erotic zones. For some reason perhaps ours were similar so it was easier to find his zones.
a) I would do lots of foreplay ignoring his genitles:
i) lick and carress (like a feather ) the mammary lines.
(All mammals female (and even males) have sensitive areas from the nipple down to the groin. Primates normally have just two nipples (some have extra ones that pop up, but its rare). If you've ever seen a female dog you know they have multiple nipples on each side going down the sides of there stomach. Those nerve endings also exists on the sides of human bellies, you just don't see the nipples since we evolved to just 2.
ii) lick and carress the areas of the behind
This is the area where low cut jeans (hip huggers) hit the flesh.
If the guy is wearing briefs, you'd be pulling down his underwear just a little bit to lick him or to just barely carress his skin.
iii) Play with his feet
Suck his toes & message his sole (NOTE: Some guys really love a deep foot message, some guy's cannot take this for very long.)
iii) Give a back message for a LONG period of time
I would give him anywhere from a 15-30 minute message. It would include from his scalp to his ankles. Again, you avoid the private parts for the moment.
b) Start going for what you want.
After all that attention, he was like puddy in my hands. I would rim him which would drive him crazy. I would get him to loosen up this way. Then I would start to lube him up and use my fingers to softly/slowly fuck him. While I was using my fingers, I would l lick around his behind where I mentioned above. I would then go back to messaging his back, but I would let my cock rub up and down his crack, and his lubed hole. Every now and then, I would let it kind of slip in. Since he was so relaxed from all the above there was not the typical tightness. After a few of these slips, I would find him wanting me to stop teasing, and would rear back for me to enter him completely.
c) Even when you finally are in, take your time and watch the guy for his comfort.
I would always try to pay attention to make sure he was enjoying the activities: I would watch: his eyes (if open), look for any signs of tightening of his facial muscles, notice any tightness in his body movements, and also check his cock. (The guy's cock really differs from person to person. Some guys can totally enjoy being fucked, but won't be the slightest bit hard. Some guys will be very hard. My favorite is guys regardless of hard/soft who start dripping precum. Again, guys are all different, so you have to learn this about the guy. If you do detect any discomfort, figure out what needs to change. You may need to pullout and lube more. You may need to stay in, but just don't move until he has adjusted a bit more. You may need to let him get up and go to the bathroom. You may even need to call it quits. The goal isn't to get your rocks off one time, by forcing something uncomfortable on your man. It's to get him to love it, and let you do it again in the future. So sometimes you have to pass on the present encounter.
d) Do everything in your power to try to get the guy on the bottom off.
I think this is the most important thing a top should do. The bottom may not be in pain, if you do things slowly to get him in the mood, but there is a very good chance that regardless he may get a little sore the next day. Thus, unless you are only into one-time fucks, you want the guy to have enjoyed it enougth that he will let you have him again -- either that night or another day. And no matter how great it feels to reach orgasm inside a guy, it's even better if the bottom reaches orgasm. There is nothing more powerful than feeling your man's ass ring and prostate go into uncontrolled, strong, ejaculatory spasms while your inside him.
Again, all I said needs to be customized for the individual man. Its just kind of a guide. This particular f-buddy was so sexually compatable with me, but he had his faults too. He would never admit he was a really a bottom. I think that is because it was difficult for him to accept the fact that he was both a hairy, masculine man and I was inside him. I think that was also why he never wanted to kiss.
Some bottoms want you to fuck them fast and hard. I never could understand that , but I would do my best to adjust. I figure they got off on this idea of an animalistic fucking from a strong man. Some bottoms don't want you to help them get off. Perhaps they prefer to masturbate about what transpired later after you aren't around. Some guys want you to say debasing things to them as you fuck them. Some guys want you to put your entire weight on them. There are just so many differences between guys, that you need the experience of that particular man to make it good for him.
The secret for the bottom is to find a top who works with you to find what you need in order to find satisfaction. I don't recommend your first time being with a stranger as you don't know much about him. I'm not saying to wait untill you are ready to setup house, but just make sure he gets to know your body, your reactions, etc. Your more likely to go away with a sense of satisfaction if he is someone you know and trust to care for your needs and limitations.
robbie_boy1
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tslvr2 said:
hi,
it is going to hurt the first time, may hurt the tenth time but the feeling you get at first you need to just bite your lower lip and let it happen. Once your partner is in your ass the pain will give over to pleasure....I have been fucked a few times bareback, but only with one I know really well and would never advise it. Takes a while to get comfortable..lube is nice but until you learn to allow a cock to enter your ass you are going to be a bit uncomfortable....a good way to try it at first is when your man enters...take it in, pause.....make like you want to shit.....then tighten the dark star and keep doing it until your mate is in....once in if you are uncomfortable ask your top to take time till your ass adjusts........you will come to like it...most people that like to get butt fucked do......in my experience anyway...i have been at it awhile...
thank you for the post...it makes me feel and think of days gone by and days that I cherish
be safe
r
bimori
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Try to suck cock before you try anal . This way you can be in more control of the speed . If someone fuck's your ass and goes to hard or fast you may not go back . Just go slow and don't try to be a expert your first time . You will find out what you like the best . You can practise by tasting your own cum . To see if you like the taste . Try to selfsuck if you can . You don't need to get the cock in your mouth as long as you get the cum . 
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