Vasectomy anyone??

[redfunguy]

What are the pros and cons of this procedure? We just had our second and last child and we have talked about me going under the knife. My wife wants to know if i will be different afterwards. Anyone care to enlighten me a little?

 

[bob69_bob6969]

I had it done over 23 years ago, and the only difference you will notice, is that you will be more relaxed because you won't have to worry about pregnancies. Just be sure to wait a couple months before you have unprotected sex, because it takes awhile to be sure all your swimmers have left. I think it was one of the best things I ever did.

 

[gregor2001us]

One of the best things I ever did

I had a vasectomy after our second child. It went without a hitch, I even masturbated the next morning. It made sex so free and wonderful, not having to worry about birth control. I would highly recommend it.

Gregor

 

[CuriousGeorgeIV]

i plan on getting one when im done having kids. Its easier to reverse than a female having an operation too if you decide you wanted kids again you could go back and have another operation.

 

[Sabledrake]

My husband had one last year. The surgery itself was a simple matter, outpatient, no problems.

He was uncomfortable for a few days, there was some swelling -- not the fun kind -- and he had to spend most of a week with a package of frozen peas in his lap.

Once he recovered, everything was fine. Another method of birth control is necessary until the samples come back okay (took a few months for the all-clear). There's no change in performance or ejaculation.

-- Sabledrake

 

[fille]

My husband also had a vasectomy last year, and it was really pretty easy (even he says so). There's certainly been no adverse effects.

 

[hydrex]

What are the pros and cons of this procedure? We just had our second and last child and we have talked about me going under the knife. My wife wants to know if i will be different afterwards. Anyone care to enlighten me a little?

is there a reason you have to get the vasectomy and your wife isn't getting her tubes tied?

 

[fille]

is there a reason you have to get the vasectomy and your wife isn't getting her tubes tied?

A tubal ligation is major surgery compared with a vasectomy. Besides, she gave birth to the babies - can't he contribute something?

 

[hydrex]

A tubal ligation is major surgery compared with a vasectomy. Besides, she gave birth to the babies - can't he contribute something?

Ahhh ok. I wasn't trying to be chauvanistic, I just didn't know.

I do have one little problem though.

"she gave birth to the babies - can't he contribute something?"

You make it sound as though she had children against her will or something.
It's almost as if you feel he should pass a watermelon just to be in equality with her.

 

[fille]

"she gave birth to the babies - can't he contribute something?"

You make it sound as though she had children against her will or something.
It's almost as if you feel he should pass a watermelon just to be in equality with her.

Not at all. It was just that you seemed to think that she should be the one to do it, and were wondering why he was having to do it instead. I was just pointing out that she had already done quite a bit of physical labor, as it were.

 

[Candee]

Hubby was done just over 2 years ago 2 months after our second child was born. It was the best thing he did. Even he agrees.

there was no change in our sex life or anything else other than we didn't have to worry about getting pregnant again!

 

[redfunguy]

im getting it done because its easier, cheaper, and im a nice guy
wife isnt a very good patient

i dont understand seomthing though....why does it take a few months to know if it worked? if the vas are cut then they are cut....i could see maybe a little being in them and might come out the first couple of times you cum but spending a little time on Lit could solve that and flush out everything

 

[angelicminx]

im getting it done because its easier, cheaper, and im a nice guy
wife isnt a very good patient

i dont understand seomthing though....why does it take a few months to know if it worked? if the vas are cut then they are cut....i could see maybe a little being in them and might come out the first couple of times you cum but spending a little time on Lit could solve that and flush out everything

My husband knew within 2 weeks. He was told to ejaculate a minimum of 10 times then take a sample in. I was more than happy to help him...

 

[haha_on_me]

I agree with everyone else, there's virtually no difference in feeling during sex, except maybe since the sperm is cut off, it's not as deep of an orgasm. Oh yeah, I think they must put a sign out front advertising the vasectomy, because when I had mine, I think something like 50 women walked in and out of the room while the procedure was being done. The sign probably read something like this: "women, free admission, vasectomy going on, another man bites the dust". I don't know, I'm just guessing from the turnout.

 

[angelicminx]

What are the pros and cons of this procedure? We just had our second and last child and we have talked about me going under the knife. My wife wants to know if i will be different afterwards. Anyone care to enlighten me a little?

I found it to be an aphrodisiac myself. Knowing that he can't get me pregnant is a major turn on.

He stays hard longer.

I haven't noticed any other changes.

 

[seohdwm46]

im getting it done because its easier, cheaper, and im a nice guy
wife isnt a very good patient

i dont understand seomthing though....why does it take a few months to know if it worked? if the vas are cut then they are cut....i could see maybe a little being in them and might come out the first couple of times you cum but spending a little time on Lit could solve that and flush out everything

I had it done after my second child. First of all, this is a minor procedure for men to have done as opposed to what it takes to tie a woman's tubes. The risk factor is 1000 times less. Secondly, you will notice no difference at all. Everything works the same. You would need a strong microscope to notice any difference.
As to your question about why wait : Have you noticed how when you unhook a garden hose there is still some water left in the hose? Also, the tubes are cut and tied, you want to make sure nothing is able to get through until the cuts heal over.
You will be glad you did.

 

[Eilan]

Whatever you decide, be sure you're making the decision as a couple. Although it's possible to reverse surgical sterilization, it should be considered permanent. Insurance companies generally won't pay for tubal/vasectomy reversals, anyway.

I chose to have a laparoscopic tubal ligation after the birth of my last child--and I don't regret it one bit. My husband and I weighed the pros and cons of both surgical methods, as well as nonpermanent methods of birth control. About 7 years ago, when my husband was married to his ex, he'd had surgery to repair a variocele, which was creating infertility problems for him. I don't think he was too keen on having more surgery, especially since the incision from the earlier procedure was three times bigger than the doctor said it would be.

In hindsight, I might have done things differently, because I discovered that I'm a wuss when it comes to surgery!

Seriously, though, we made the decision that was right for us, and that's what you and your wife have to do--make the decision that works for the two of you.

Good luck!

 

[redfunguy]

I agree with everyone else, there's virtually no difference in feeling during sex, except maybe since the sperm is cut off, it's not as deep of an orgasm. Oh yeah, I think they must put a sign out front advertising the vasectomy, because when I had mine, I think something like 50 women walked in and out of the room while the procedure was being done. The sign probably read something like this: "women, free admission, vasectomy going on, another man bites the dust". I don't know, I'm just guessing from the turnout.

you are not the first person that has told me that women come in and watch

someone up there also mentioned a scar or something....heres my reply to that
Chicks dig scars,bones mend, bruises fade and glory is forever.
Now i will banana dance in your direction....

 

[pupper]

I got mine 13 years ago after the birth of our second child,The only woman that watched was my wife.I was swimmer free within two weeks.I have noticed no difference in orgasm,if anything I have stronger orgasms now than when I was younger I am 43 now.

 

[fille]

im getting it done because its easier, cheaper, and im a nice guy
wife isnt a very good patient

i dont understand seomthing though....why does it take a few months to know if it worked? if the vas are cut then they are cut....i could see maybe a little being in them and might come out the first couple of times you cum but spending a little time on Lit could solve that and flush out everything

It used to be that they could reattach, but I thought that they had improved the process to keep that from happening. I guess they have to make sure you're "all clear" before you go without other protection.

 

[LadyTemptress]

My hubby had it done 8 years ago and he would say it's the best thing. Although he did hurt like a bitch for about two weeks. Reading these other threads makes me think he could have had a better doctor or something.

 

[uncutdad54]

I had it done about 12 years ago after the birth of our 5th son. No regrets, less of a hassle than for my wife. Now we practice recreational sex instead of procreational sex.

 

[fathom7]

Here's a spin on perspective:

Across most Western societies it is more incumbent on the woman to be the holder of the reproductive keys so to speak. In other words - we of the Male gender are more reliant on the woman for birth control. this is most likely due to a combination of factors -- chief among them is the domination of major sciences by MEN. That said:

The determination to have a vasectomy is a choice that MEN can make. It involves a simple procedure that can even be reversed in most instances. The alternatives to this burden women with things like: tubal ligation (as noted in an earlier post a not entirely simple procedure); ingesting additional hormones (call this birth control pills) that can have serious long-term health consequences or some other form of contraception involving devices (other than rubbers) that are not truly as simple as the male counterpart.

When I made the decision to have my vasectomy -- the thoughts included the fact that there is no real reason why women should have to carry the unbalanced burden of contraception. I was single at the time and that conscious decision was one I have never regretted. I didn't look at it as a "gift" to women -- allowing them to not concern themselves with the matters of birth control but rather I considered it my fair share of responsibility as the male of the species.

Anyone who makes the determination to have one should fall into one of two categories:

1. Part of a monogamous couple who have determined ABSOLUTELY that they do not wish to procreate any more..
2. A male with the good sense to realize that they can and should participate in contraception -- especially at the more permanent level.

My experience was amazingly positive. My favorite tale of it involved after the procedure. Since I was not allowed to drive myself (owing to the anesthsia) I had to friends pick me up and drive me to a party to celebrate the procedure. Two gay women friends.

Anyway -- for God's sake men -- do your fair share.

 

[nelbuts5256]

I had it done 11 years ago. Been horny ever since.

No shit want sex all the time. I guess just to check to make sure it still works!

 

[hillblazer]

My wonderful lady wants me to do this. She is 43 and I tell her the chance of getting preggo at that age is very slim. Am I wrong? What are the chances?