Vaginal orgasm?

[Ruffian_13]

I have only ever been able to orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation - I mean don't get me wrong, it's better when other things are going on too, but I have always needed my clit rubbed (or tongued!) in order to climax. However, a couple weeks ago when I was having sex with my boyfriend, I found myself on the verge of having what I'm guessing would've been a vaginal orgasm. Of course, I started to overthink it and wrecked it for myself, but it got me to thinking about training myself to cum this way.

Said boy has also since fingered me in such a way that I was on the verge of an orgasm. I didn't think I was even capable of it, but maybe my body is figuring its shit out as I get older? Anyway, I just tried using my vibrator with only the vaginal part on vibrate - I still had some mild stimulation on my clit as the vibrations seemed to travel through the whole toy, but I was able to cum twice.

This may not seem like a big deal to many of you, but for me it is! Just wondering if anyone has any advice on other things to try, either by myself or with my partner, in order to help me along this new pathway. Also any advice about getting out of my head would be great, as I can sometimes think myself right out of a good orgasm. Thanks!

 

[suckonsimon]

I recently opened a thread on similar lines - setting the theme really broadly because that is my understanding of a woman opening up to this. There may just be something posted there which may chime for you? Click to it from my signature list - the second thread.

And meanwhile - let that bf of yours give you what he gave you and enjoy the possibilities of it. Maybe it will be a few times before that happens again but it will! Enjoy the exploration and, if you can, miss out on the clit stimulation while you're at that together, even if it means a few times you miss out on an O at all; there's the next time.

Simon

 

[Clea74]

I have only ever been able to orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation - I mean don't get me wrong, it's better when other things are going on too, but I have always needed my clit rubbed (or tongued!) in order to climax. However, a couple weeks ago when I was having sex with my boyfriend, I found myself on the verge of having what I'm guessing would've been a vaginal orgasm. Of course, I started to overthink it and wrecked it for myself, but it got me to thinking about training myself to cum this way.

Said boy has also since fingered me in such a way that I was on the verge of an orgasm. I didn't think I was even capable of it, but maybe my body is figuring its shit out as I get older? Anyway, I just tried using my vibrator with only the vaginal part on vibrate - I still had some mild stimulation on my clit as the vibrations seemed to travel through the whole toy, but I was able to cum twice.

This may not seem like a big deal to many of you, but for me it is! Just wondering if anyone has any advice on other things to try, either by myself or with my partner, in order to help me along this new pathway. Also any advice about getting out of my head would be great, as I can sometimes think myself right out of a good orgasm. Thanks!

I'm actually quite the opposite! Where as I always have an orgasm through vaginal penetration. Usually the times I struggle are actually when I am masturbating only via clitoral stimulation.

But I'm probably just odd lol.

 

[JulieAnn42]

I'm actually quite the opposite! Where as I always have an orgasm through vaginal penetration. Usually the times I struggle are actually when I am masturbating only via clitoral stimulation.

But I'm probably just odd lol.

I climax from penetration, but it is important his pelvis is pushing against mine so my clitoris gets properly stimulated. Nothing feels better than a climax during sex.

 

[Ruffian_13]

Simon, thanks for the link. It is interesting to read about other people's experiences! He always makes sure I have at least one orgasm, and usually before we have sex, so this would just be the icing on the cake if it happened. Will keep trying and playing around, our most common position seems to be the one that gets me closest Thanks everyone for your perspectives!

 

[Que]

Simon, thanks for the link. It is interesting to read about other people's experiences! He always makes sure I have at least one orgasm, and usually before we have sex, so this would just be the icing on the cake if it happened. Will keep trying and playing around, our most common position seems to be the one that gets me closest Thanks everyone for your perspectives!

That sounds to me like a healthy, fulfilling, sexual relationship.

I often marvel at God, the trickster amusing himself with such mismatches as how orgasmic each partner is or far more devious, mismatched libidos.

In my first and very long term pairing, we were kind of a-typical. I required a lot of stimulation and time to orgasm and she could orgasm walking across the room in tight jeans.

With a lot of practice we could simultaneously orgasm because she knew what my mental buttons to push were and came to know when she was riding the edge of one. While that is nice it is completely not necessary. Taking turns is totally fine. Be playful with it, have fun.

Your body will likely change over time as will your responses. Enjoy the surprises when they happen.