Update on stalker

[sexy-girl]

Well, at least he knows where you stand......There is definately no mistaking you are not interested.....So hopefully he takes it and leaves.....

Sending flowers may have been innocent, but having the expectation that sexy-girl would swoon and fly away for the weekend........creepy to me too.....

thanks april ... take note guys being romantic isnt easy ... theres right ways of doing it and wrong ways

yes part of why i found it weird was that he was fully expecting me to jump at his invite and fly happyly with him too monaco

and tyrael dont worry he wasnt shy i doubt he had been rejected by many girls in his life before

 

[april-wine]

Re: DAMN!!!

Note to self:

Cancel flowers to april-wine. Cash in plane tickets.

ahhhhhh Mensa, I'll run away to the falls with you.........

 

[Mensa]

Re: Re: DAMN!!!

ahhhhhh Mensa, I'll run away to the falls with you.........

COOL! I love sightseeing and, with you there, I could check out a few special sights.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

*calls florist to cancel lilly / orchid assortment to Lisa*

Bitch, I was going to do that.

I want her boots

 

[Unclebill]

Well, sexy-girl, I'm not with the group who say you over-reacted.

Considering your past experience, merely receiving the flowers anonymously wasn't in and of itself offensive.

I would even say that a courteous offer of dinner when he revealed himself would not be out of line either.

But to me he seems an awfully presumptious ass to follow one anonymous order of flowers with an invitation for a weekend in Monaco no matter who he is or how rich. It's a tacit implication that he figured you were for sale; cheap! Says a lot about his respect for women, I figure.

So I stand behind your response; he deserved what he got. Good on ya, girl!

BTW, on the other thread, I misinterpreted what was implied about lisa's response. Not being aware of her sensitivity to the prior stalking, I made the erroneuos presumption that her response was jealous. My apology to her for the misinterpretation.

 

[sexy-girl]

thanks unclebill ... and no worrys i never revealed all the info in my first thread on this because it didnt seem like i should


and i agree with you totally about what you said about him thinking i would fly with him for the weekend when i didnt even know him


chef i have a feeling that av will be returning soon

 

[Svedish_Chef]

chef i have a feeling that av will be returning soon

That and you chatting to me babe...

Go Palace.

 

[Shhh]

Anonymous flowers

Next time flowers show up, simply call the police. Lay charges.
No-one should have to tolerate receiving anonymous flowers!
The unmitigated NERVE! To actually send flowers and ask you out! How dare anyone!

"Invading your life"? Invading?

Does a man who sends you a bottle wine in a restaurant get a lecture on stalkers? How about the one who holds a door for you?

When "anonymous flowers = stalking" something is wrong with the world. What ever happened to, "Thanks, but no thanks"?

I understand "once bitten, twice shy," but there's also something called, "Crying wolf." Not every man who smiles and says hello is a threat. No more than all women who respond, "Thanks, but no thanks," is a lesbian.

Do you assume it's a stalker every time the telephone rings and you don't recognize the voice?

You mention your "private place of work". One presumes that you would not have been any more or less enthused about the posies had they been delivered to your home, or left on the hood of your car. I doubt the place of delivery has anything to do with it.

PAY YOU to go out with him? Jumpin' Jesus on Skis!
With FLOWERS???
He was trying to make a nice impression. You really think the guy was trying to PAY for a DATE with FLOWERS???
There seems to be a whole host of presumptions and unwarranted conclusions built into your assessment of this fellow that have nothing to do with your having been stalked OR the degree to which his behaviour exhibited a potential for stalking behaviour.

You were unreasonably rude to a stranger who had nothing more than good intentions...insofar as the evidence permits judgement of same, presumption of innocence withstanding.

You state that you would have reacted differently had he approached you in person. He DID. He just sent you flowers first.
One might point out that almost no-one gets stalked by a stranger. Thus, the man who DOES approach you in person (and avoids the faux pas of anonymous flowers) might well BE a stalker.

Your criteria for suspicion and concern has been knocked out of alignment due to having once been stalked. The result is unfortunate, both for you AND for the florists in your neighbourhood.

I understand hypersentivity, and regret that you had to ever suffer the fear of being stalked. However, that sensitivity should not result in uncivilised behaviour toward well-intentioned strangers.

 

[dreamer]

and blk panther having flowers sent too you isnt so great ... you see flowers cost £60 or more and a person doesnt send you that unless they expect something from you in return he didnt know me or know my personality he was just trying to pay me to go out with him based on my looks ...

Sorry hon, but BULLSHIT! Believe it or not there are actually guys out there that are NICE, that mean NO harm whatsoever and are intimidated by a woman they find attractive, nice, funny, whatever. I'll not even read this thread further, but I hope by its end you see your vision is SEVERELY clouded (and maybe rightfully so; don't get me wrong, I'll not belittle real stalking) by your past.

Not all people are as 1>confident in themselves as you are and 2> as hung up on money. Try to see it through his eyes...if even for a brief moment.

Man, did this ever catch me on the wrong day.

 

[sexy-girl]

sheesh this happened quite a while ago

i presume you both probably have missed reading the first thread ... but i was angry at getting the flowers there was a huge delay between him showing up and me getting the flowers

the previous person that stalked me had sent me roses so when i got roses again and told my girlfriend she was extremely worried about me especially coming home from work everyday without her and in between the delay i was trying to work out if it was the person that had stalked me before and i was getting angry someone was upsetting my gf ... once i finally did find out who sent the flowers i took out my anger of someone upsetting my gf ... i never get angry at people ever ... this was first time in as long as i can remember and i didnt like it


i felt guilty about not just saying thank you ... i was wrong

by the way im most definitely not hung out up about money

and i was right about one thing the guy was still an ass ... i still believe sending flowers to someone you've never met is slightly shallow ok i can understand if someone is shy and wishes to do it but dont follow it up with a cocky presumption like this guy did


anyway dreamer im sorry if what i did annoyed you