Update on stalker

[sexy-girl]

not sure if anyone still interested but i might as well finish the story


i know who sent the roses to me the guy came into my work and reveled it to be him ... he thought he was very suave and full of himself ... he said he was going to monaco for the weekend on his "private jet" (he probably making that up) and he was looking for a date for the weekend and that's why he sent me the flowers

i told him that i had been stalked in the past and i didn't welcome the experience again i told him sending me flowers to my private place of work anonymously was the equivalent of harassment and that i'd have to reject his invite and i hoped that he would accept that without harassing me any further ... this left him kind of dumbfounded but he backed away and said sorry


sorry everyone as you can see im not always sugar and sweet i knew lisa wasn't pleased with me being perhaps stalked (we've both had to deal with that sort of thing in past) and i guess i took out some of my anger on this guy because i was annoyed that he had upset my girlfriend

 

[jass1960]

not sure if anyone still interested but i might as well finish the story

you got it in one

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Marxist]

*calls florist to cancel lilly / orchid assortment to Lisa*

No, you're not a hard-edged lesbian at all. Guy takes you for good-looking and unattached and sends you flowers as a way of asking you out.

Obviously he's a "stalker."


*smiles weakly and exits thread*


If you've been stalked before, don't belittle the word. This man was simply stupid to presume so much about you, definitely not a stalker though.

 

[sexy-girl]

marxist i agree with you he wasnt a stalker but i have been stalked in the past quite seriously and i know what it was like ... the guy that was doing it was kind of scared off but it took many months


when i got these flowers alarm bells went off for lisa she thought it was the same guy doing it back again ... so perhaps i was harsh with this guy but if someone wants to send flowers to me that shouldnt do it anonymously and not at my work



and bratcat yes i know i was evil ... and i do even feel guilty some im pathetic i know i wouldnt make a full time evil person

 

[Bindii]

Sorry sexy-girl but I think that you may have overreacted a bit...

Sending flowers anonymously does not constitute harrassment or stalking. I have been stalked in the past and it wasn't flowers that were sent! It sounds as though the guy was just trying to get your attention (ok I agree the jet story was a bit farfetched) but I daresay he meant well. He will think twice before he sends flowers again.



Edited for spelling errors.

 

[BlkPnthr]

You should be so lucky as to have had someone send you flowers/roses. Wish someone would send me roses to my worplace annonamously

 

[Mensa]

A Royal pain

I just had a thought. What if this guy's name was Albert, as in Prince Albert of Monaco. You might have blown it big time, girl.

 

[Ginny]

celery must be lubed for pleasant stalking experiences...unless you are a glob producer....

individual stalks are enjoyable....but holy shit....taking a small bunch...lubing it up nicely, letting it drip even....just a make a big ol mess...insert rounded end at stem....glide fucking city...

 

[sexy-girl]

im sorry bindii but as you can see i also have been stalked and i know what its like ... whatever good intentions this guy meant he upset my girlfriend by invading my life in this way (maybe thats being a bit over dramatic) but lisa was in afraid for my life the last two days i went to work and she wasnt overeacting considoring who she suspected had sent me these flowers ... im glad its done with now


and blk panther having flowers sent too you isnt so great ... you see flowers cost £60 or more and a person doesnt send you that unless they expect something from you in return he didnt know me or know my personality he was just trying to pay me to go out with him based on my looks ... i would of more appreciated the guy handed me the flowers in person and i could kindly refuse his invite or at least he had tried to talk to me first


mensa lol no comment

 

[BlkPnthr]

im sorry bindii but as you can see i also have been stalked and i know what its like ... whatever good intentions this guy meant he upset my girlfriend by invading my life in this way (maybe thats being a bit over dramatic) but lisa was in afraid for my life the last two days i went to work and she wasnt overeacting considoring who she suspected had sent me these flowers ... im glad its done with now


and blk panther having flowers sent too you isnt so great ... you see flowers cost £60 or more and a person doesnt send you that unless they expect something from you in return he didnt know me or know my personality he was just trying to pay me to go out with him based on my looks ... i would of more appreciated the guy handed me the flowers in person and i could kindly refuse his invite or at least he had tried to talk to me first


mensa lol no comment

True, I can't argue with that Here in Canada though, it's pretty cheap. I can't say I am sorry for your experiences because I didn't do anything, but I do feel sympathy for you ever having gone through it. I hope that you don't let it haunt you forever though, as the past is the past. I've had my share of hard times and bad experiences also, but I try not to dwell on them.

Good luck to you and Lisa both

 

[Tyrael]

you see flowers cost £60 or more and a person doesnt send you that unless they expect something from you in return he didnt know me or know my personality he was just trying to pay me to go out with him based on my looks
mensa lol no comment

Isn't that what makes total strangers want to go out with each other to begin with? The physical? Everyone is a stranger to you at one time in your life. Does that mean that every man who accosts you is a stalker? Does that mean that everyone and anyone who cares enough about you to buy you a gift is just looking for a quick roll in the hay from you?

I just find it sad that everyone is being lumped into the same category as the original stalker for having the gall to want to go out with you. How dare they do something so underhanded.

Like panther said, it looks like your original stalking episode is beginning to influence your decisions. It'll be alot healthier for you to try to get over it for the sake of your own emotional well being. Not to say forget what happened just know that there are people out there who'd exploit you just as soon as there are people who'd actually care for you.

 

[Bindii]

im sorry bindii but as you can see i also have been stalked and i know what its like ... whatever good intentions this guy meant he upset my girlfriend by invading my life in this way (maybe thats being a bit over dramatic) but lisa was in afraid for my life the last two days i went to work and she wasnt overeacting considoring who she suspected had sent me these flowers ... im glad its done with now

I'm pleased that you and Lisa are no longer concerned about another possible stalker, but I stand by my original statement. I understand what it is like to be stalked. I understand how hard it is to get on with your life without looking over your shoulder all the time. But you cannot let one bad experience get in the way of old fashioned common sense; lots of women recieve flowers anonymously and in 99% percent of cases (not including movies) they are innocently given. I don't want to insult either you or Lisa, but sometimes you need to take a step back and look at things in a more realistic light; it would save you both a lot of worry.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

sexy-girl kind of harsh but good to see you stand your grounds and let your feelings out.

(note to self, don't send sexy-girl flowers )

hehe.

 

[sexy-girl]

blkpnthr thanks is nice to see someone understands where im coming from


tyrael and bindii i never was lumping this guy in with the previous man that stalked me ... but im just a person i have feelings and emotions i was upset and angry it was a real possibility that the person that sent these flowers was the person that originally stalked me if i didnt considor that possibility it would of been unrealistic and dangerous


yes this guy did'nt know all that and i dont blame him for not knowing that however it upset me and my girlfriend and so yes i was angry at him even if that's being unfair ... its not a case of not being "over" the incident of being stalked its a case of being safe and careful


yes i do feel terribly guilty that i was mean to this guy and im upset that i was so mean im sorry i will stop trying to defend myself

 

[sexy-girl]

sexy-girl kind of harsh but good to see you stand your grounds and let your feelings out.

(note to self, don't send sexy-girl flowers )

hehe.

fly i would love to receive flowers from you ... just write your name on the card so i know its from you

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

you shoudn't have to defend yourself, You acted the way you seen fit. and for the moment that was the right thing to do.

noone can say you acted wrong they weren't in your position.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

blkpnthr thanks is nice to see someone understands where im coming from
tyrael and bindii i never was lumping this guy in with the previous man that stalked me ... but im just a person i have feelings and emotions i was upset and angry it was a real possibility that the person that sent these flowers was the person that originally stalked me if i didnt considor that possibility it would of been unrealistic and dangerous
yes this guy did'nt know all that and i dont blame him for not knowing that however it upset me and my girlfriend and so yes i was angry at him even if that's being unfair ... its not a case of not being "over" the incident of being stalked its a case of being safe and careful
yes i do feel terribly guilty that i was mean to this guy and im upset that i was so mean im sorry i will stop trying to defend myself

I don't feel there is any need for YOU to feel guilty, sexy-girl, about reacting the way you did.

This is a different day and age than the "romantic" past (looks who's saying this?? ), and it is very foolish for ANYONE to take the chance and surprise someone with a big show of affection; especially without a clue to the recipient of the gift.

Even without a "stalker" in my life (thank goodness) I would NOT have felt comfortable receiving an anonymous gift like that. It would have been much more meaningful if he approached you before springing this surprise on you.

 

[BlkPnthr]

I don't feel there is any need for YOU to feel guilty, sexy-girl, about reacting the way you did.

This is a different day and age than the "romantic" past (looks who's saying this?? ), and it is very foolish for ANYONE to take the chance and surprise someone with a big show of affection; especially without a clue to the recipient of the gift.

Even without a "stalker" in my life (thank goodness) I would NOT have felt comfortable receiving an anonymous gift like that. It would have been much more meaningful if he approached you before springing this surprise on you.

*Scribbles in his little black book, taking notes*

 

[Bindii]

Nobody was attacking you Sexygirl, so there was never any need to defend yourself. We all act differently. Just because myself and others have chosen to say that we would have reacted differently is not a slur on you at all, this is a public forum which I take to mean that once a statement is made we are all free to voice our opinions whether others agree with them or not.

 

[Mensa]

Some of the reactions to sexy-girl were rather rough. Did she over-react, yes. Was she harsh on the poor guy, yes. But if she went through the singularlly unpleasant experience of being stalked, her reactions are understandable. She will get over it one day, just not today, and get back to interacting calmly.

Of course, you do realize sexy-girl, that this guy probably thinks you're just a lesbian anyway now. Little does he know.

 

[sexy-girl]

thank you fly that is sweet of you to say


jenny thank you i would of accepted the flowers more graciously if he had handed them to me in his own hands ... the note on the flowers said "to donna" it felt creepy and too personal and it was delivered by a florist


bindii when i said i would stop defending myself i meant i would just listen to what other people say ... you're right different people have different views and lives and ways of dealing with things ... i have no hard feeling towards you at all and infact quite the oppersite because i appreciate your views posting on my experience thank you


mensa the guy was too smug anyway you wouldnt of liked him

 

[Tyrael]

Sexy Girl sez:

"the guy was too smug anyway you wouldnt of liked him"

I was about to write a little ditty about how he could have been shy or something. Glad you mentioned this before I hit reply!

 

[april-wine]

Well, at least he knows where you stand......There is definately no mistaking you are not interested.....So hopefully he takes it and leaves.....

Sending flowers may have been innocent, but having the expectation that sexy-girl would swoon and fly away for the weekend........creepy to me too.....

 

[Mensa]

DAMN!!!

Well, at least he knows where you stand......There is definately no mistaking you are not interested.....So hopefully he takes it and leaves.....

Sending flowers may have been innocent, but having the expectation that sexy-girl would swoon and fly away for the weekend........creepy to me too.....

Note to self:

Cancel flowers to april-wine. Cash in plane tickets.