Unsent Letters

[Nora]

When I'm seriously pissed off or hurt I have a tendency to write it down in a letter to the person in question. I find it cathartic. But I rarely, if ever, send the letter.

Do you write yours down? If so, do you send it to the object of your anger?

 

[Guest]

I don't write letters often.

If you send me one, I'll read it though.

 

[English Lady]

I do the same thing, when something is on my mind or when something causes me great emotion i tend to write a letter to the person involved,sometimes i send them and sometimes i don't.

i find it is great therapy just to get it all out!

 

[JaymesBlond007]

I don't. But that's a not so uncommon form of anger management.

Glad to know you can find a creative outlet for your anger.

 

[Nora]

lol CV. I'm not mad at you (or actually anyone at the moment...give me an hour though. That could change!). Besides, I never send them. It's just a tool to help me focus my thoughts and functions sort of the way the blurt thread here was originally intended.

 

[riff]

I have a journal that I write and draw in.

And then there is this garbage pit.

 

[Nora]

English Lady, your av is GORGEOUS! and I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who does this. =)


Thanks Jaymes. It keeps me from ripping people's heads off, I find. *grin*

 

[EarthWind]

I will usually write a poem or a letter when I need to put my anger into words. I'll meditate and then burn the letter if I don't want to keep it.



Its a good way to release stress as well.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I tend to send it, Nora.

After much editing.

Days of editing sometimes.

 

[Nora]

I have a journal that I write and draw in.

And then there is this garbage pit.

lol I try to avoid using Lit for that, riff. But that's what spurred me to write this. I found a double-bill I had written in the steno pad I keep in my backpack the other day.


You burn yours, Earthwind? Hmm....I kinda like that. I'd try it, but I'd probably burn my house down.

 

[riff]

I don't use lit for that much either. But there is no denying that it's a garbage pit.

 

[Nora]

I tend to send it, Nora.

After much editing.

Days of editing sometimes.

I used to send them, but it ended up causing more strife than there was to begin with!

I do keep them, though. The reason for that sort of touches on your other thread. If I see myself making the same mistake again, I can re-read the old anger-letters and hopefully derail myself.

 

[SimGuy]

I recently sent a letter to some people....'twas nearly a year in the making - as in, I knew I needed to deal with the issue. Took about three weeks of cogitating on what specifically to say, an hour to write the letter, two weeks more to let it sit, rewrote the letter and sent it.

Unfortunately their response basically reaffirmed everything that I tried to address. They attempted to explain how I was either to blame for everything or making up events in my mind.

Sadness - and its been so long since my parents and I have had a real conversation.

 

[Nora]

I don't use lit for that much either. But there is no denying that it's a garbage pit.

Then I choose to be the empty french-fry box that held yummy, fatty goodness that gave someone momentary pleasure.

 

[Nora]

I recently sent a letter to some people....'twas nearly a year in the making - as in, I knew I needed to deal with the issue. Took about three weeks of cogitating on what specifically to say, an hour to write the letter, two weeks more to let it sit, rewrote the letter and sent it.

Unfortunately their response basically reaffirmed everything that I tried to address. They attempted to explain how I was either to blame for everything or making up events in my mind.

Sadness - and its been so long since my parents and I have had a real conversation.

Did it help YOU to write it and send it, even if it didn't help the situation?

 

[English Lady]

Nora, thank you..I love my AV to! Though i am sure i'll get bored and change it again in the near future*L*

 

[Secret Pleasure]

When I'm seriously pissed off or hurt I have a tendency to write it down in a letter to the person in question. I find it cathartic. But I rarely, if ever, send the letter.

Do you write yours down? If so, do you send it to the object of your anger?

I do.

I wrote one to my Dad after he passed away. I'd had so many things that were left unsaid. One morning I just sat at my desk and started to let it all pour out. He obviously never saw it, but for me it was better than any therapy or counseling. I was able to let go of alot of things and let the good memories come through.

 

[Nora]

You're welcome, English Lady.

Secret Pleasure, I'm glad you were able to do that and that it helped you get past some of the pain of his passing.

 

[Sukit_beatch!]

Yo, in prison, the warden screens all the letters for secret messages about escaping. That's why I trained birds to act as courriers for my mail. Once I looked up in the air at some birds thinking they might be returning some messages to me. They just doodooed in my eye. I guess someone didnt like my love poems.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

Yep.

 

[SimGuy]

Did it help YOU to write it and send it, even if it didn't help the situation?

It helped.....to a degree.

But I was really hoping their response would indicate they were going to be grandparents to my children once again.

 

[Vivacia]

When I'm seriously pissed off or hurt I have a tendency to write it down in a letter to the person in question. I find it cathartic. But I rarely, if ever, send the letter.

Do you write yours down? If so, do you send it to the object of your anger?

I thought that was one of my quirks... I am glad I am not alone!

 

[Nora]

Yo, in prison, the warden screens all the letters for secret messages about escaping. That's why I trained birds to act as courriers for my mail. Once I looked up in the air at some birds thinking they might be returning some messages to me. They just doodooed in my eye. I guess someone didnt like my love poems.

I hate it when that happens, Sukit. By the way, in your last letter...what does, "trade some smack to the warden for lookin' the other way" mean?


SimGuy. Sounds like it's entirely your parents' loss. Hopefully your kids will understand that eventually, too.

Vivacia, do you send yours?

 

[Batch]

After my father was killed I wrote him a series of letters. Never sent, never read aloud, and only seen and felt by me. I wrote my sorrow and my intense anger out at him for getting himself killed. I wrote it out. I used to write him more in the years after he died. As time has past and I have grown up, grown to accept, and become a parent, my perceptions of his death has changed dramatically. I still miss him.

I have also written letters to my step-grandfather, he sexually abused me for ten years. Those letters were more angry and violent and harder to write. But wrote them I did, send them to him to read , no I would not. I even wrote a letter with my left hand, more childish, etc. After I had written as much as I could grant myself permission to let free, I burnt the letters. So in a way they were sent. I sincerely trust that he will have choked on the lovely black smoke.

 

[Purrde Flower]

I used to write poems.. letters and everything.. but I never showed anyone!