Unpleasant person

[A_Little_Show]

Have you ever met someone who was so unpleasant you felt sorry for them? You wonder how they got so damaged. You wonder if it's just a mood or they are doomed to live life as a male/female bitch.

I met one. I'm trying not to let the interaction spoil the rest of the day.

I have a fairly thick skin because some of my immediate family are unpleasant to the point where I think they should be hospitalized... but, anyway - thoughts?

 

[PennLady]

If you don't have to have any further interaction with this person, I'd say put it from your mind. Don't let them spoil any more or your day than they already have. You may have to force yourself to cheer up for a bit, but I'd think it'd be worth it.

 

[MiddleAgeSmall]

Oh, I agree. It's best not to dwell. I feel compassion for the person - in the strangest way. I can't help wondering about the circumstances that produce such an amazingly nasty personality.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Oh, everyone is a butthead to someone, and mama's darling. I mean, half of all marriages fail. There is no gold standard.

 

[A_Little_Show]

I'm talking way beyond butthead here. I'm talking dragged off Jerry Springer's stage kind of unpleasant.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

I say write a story about them. Put them in the most disgusting situation you can think of and then let it leak to them. That might mean creating a new user_id to keep yours anonymous, but I find writing about stupid people as stupid people is cathartic.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I'm talking way beyond butthead here. I'm talking dragged off Jerry Springer's stage kind of unpleasant.

hahahahahaha I think they live next door to me.

 

[sr71plt]

Did we just see an alt oops?

 

[lovecraft68]

Well they did their job seeing they got ot you to the point you're posting about it.

Just like the trolls here the real life trolls live to get under your skin.

Being borderline unpleasant myself a lot of the time-I am not overtly rude, but cannot even feign interest in people and will basically ignore them-these people don;t phase me.

I prefer them to smile in your face rip you up the back types any day.

 

[lovecraft68]

Did we just see an alt oops?

Where? I read through twice what did I miss?

 

[sr71plt]

Posts 1 and 3.

 

[lovecraft68]

Posts 1 and 3.

Okay, maybe.

They do sound as if they are responding to PL (as the op) or they could just be responding to PL

Funny how these boards get people thinking like that.

 

[sr71plt]

In literary terms, both are first-person narrator, aren't they?

(Not to mention the light going off in the one before the other one posted and then switching again. )

Methinks an alt needs to be quickly retired.

 

[lovecraft68]

In literary terms, both are first-person narrator, aren't they?

(Not to mention the light going off in the one before the other one posted and then switching again. )

Methinks an alt needs to be quickly retired.

I didn't notice the light going off.

You're on the ball there as an alt hunter.

You'd have a field day on the GB

 

[sr71plt]

Just happened to be browsing for a bit at the right time--and checked because voice 1 and 3 so obviously seemed to be the same person. Taking breaks from painting Christmas cards and listening to the UVa-Duke football game in stereo (on the TV to my right--coming live through my window on the left).

 

[lovecraft68]

Just happened to be browsing for a bit at the right time--and checked because voice 1 and 3 so obviously seemed to be the same person. Taking breaks from painting Christmas cards and listening to the UVa-Duke football game in stereo (on the TV to my right--coming live through my window on the left).

All we have here in RI is URI and Brown neither are generally very good.

But I do go once in awhile because at least the players are getting an education and not a free pass and acting like the thugs the big "factory" schools like Mimai and USC and rest turn out.

"Johnny Football" should already be in jail and he's still a year way from the NFL

As for basketball though PC and URI have both had some decent years

 

[StrangeLife]

I met one of those too some years ago. My solution was to marry her...

 

[lovecraft68]

I met one of those too some years ago. My solution was to marry her...

Yeah, I did the same thing.

But I divorced her 15 years ago she's even more miserable than ever and it always makes me smile.

 

[DeYaKen]

Have you ever met someone who was so unpleasant you felt sorry for them? You wonder how they got so damaged. You wonder if it's just a mood or they are doomed to live life as a male/female bitch.

I met one. I'm trying not to let the interaction spoil the rest of the day.

I have a fairly thick skin because some of my immediate family are unpleasant to the point where I think they should be hospitalized... but, anyway - thoughts?

This reminds me of the ending of Gone Girl where the husband says to his wife. "I feel sorry for you, because everyday, you have to wake up and know that you are you."

Seriously I've encountered few in real life but here on Lit I find a number of them. People so damaged by life that they feel the need to try and provoke anyone who writes a story that doesn't pander to their particular outlook on life. I find some people so full of vitriol that it blinds them to anything else. Yes I do feel sorry for them and wonder what has happened to make them like that.

Some of them have written and told me their life stories, which is also sad. The thought that they have to tell a complete stranger all about it.

I end up feeling sorry, not just for them but also for their partners if they have them.

 

[lovecraft68]

This reminds me of the ending of Gone Girl where the husband says to his wife. "I feel sorry for you, because everyday, you have to wake up and know that you are you."

Seriously I've encountered few in real life but here on Lit I find a number of them. People so damaged by life that they feel the need to try and provoke anyone who writes a story that doesn't pander to their particular outlook on life. I find some people so full of vitriol that it blinds them to anything else. Yes I do feel sorry for them and wonder what has happened to make them like that.

Some of them have written and told me their life stories, which is also sad. The thought that they have to tell a complete stranger all about it.

I end up feeling sorry, not just for them but also for their partners if they have them.

Right up until the end you perfectly described the loving wives crowd.

But you lost it when you mentioned partners. None of those losers have anyone that's why they spew all that women bashing bs of theirs.

You did however nail the GB. I'm sure some of them have some unlucky spouses/partners

 

[hylas_]

I once had the unpleasant experience of subrenting a room from a landlord who turned out to be seriously damaged on the inside. He told me about all the childhood abuse he had to endure, and I felt sorry for him. But he also treated me like shit. The longer we lived together, the more I hated him for how he treated me. At the end, I was like, I'm sorry you had such a difficult life, I really am, but you know what, that's not my fault! So stop treating me like shit, you asshole! I'm not saying anybody deserves what he had to endure, but I can't bring myself to feel even a little sorry for him, either. I just feel hatred.

The irony of it all? He works in mental health.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I once had the unpleasant experience of subrenting a room from a landlord who turned out to be seriously damaged on the inside. He told me about all the childhood abuse he had to endure, and I felt sorry for him. But he also treated me like shit. The longer we lived together, the more I hated him for how he treated me. At the end, I was like, I'm sorry you had such a difficult life, I really am, but you know what, that's not my fault! So stop treating me like shit, you asshole! I'm not saying anybody deserves what he had to endure, but I can't bring myself to feel even a little sorry for him, either. I just feel hatred.

The irony of it all? He works in mental health.

Theyre the worst. I hated every minute I worked mental health because the profession attracts assholes.

 

[lovecraft68]

I once had the unpleasant experience of subrenting a room from a landlord who turned out to be seriously damaged on the inside. He told me about all the childhood abuse he had to endure, and I felt sorry for him. But he also treated me like shit. The longer we lived together, the more I hated him for how he treated me. At the end, I was like, I'm sorry you had such a difficult life, I really am, but you know what, that's not my fault! So stop treating me like shit, you asshole! I'm not saying anybody deserves what he had to endure, but I can't bring myself to feel even a little sorry for him, either. I just feel hatred.

The irony of it all? He works in mental health.

You know what annoys me?

people who have those pasts and emulate them.

There are two paths for someone like that

the crutch of monkey see/monkey do. My dad beat me so I'll beat my kids or he hit my mom so I hit women. or I was treated like garbage and I will treat you that way.

because if they can say "its because of that" then they acknowledge it and are just using it for an excuse with no desire to do anything but perpetuate the cycle.

I tend to avoid them because I'm of the nature to tell them boo-fucking-hoo grow the fuck up.

the other path is to re4alize it was not right and try to do better for yourself that's the one that is not as easily traveled, which is why many take the former choice.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

You know what annoys me?

people who have those pasts and emulate them.

There are two paths for someone like that

the crutch of monkey see/monkey do. My dad beat me so I'll beat my kids or he hit my mom so I hit women. or I was treated like garbage and I will treat you that way.

because if they can say "its because of that" then they acknowledge it and are just using it for an excuse with no desire to do anything but perpetuate the cycle.

I tend to avoid them because I'm of the nature to tell them boo-fucking-hoo grow the fuck up.

Its more like the fruit falls close to the tree, and rats beget rats.

 

[DeYaKen]

You know what annoys me?

people who have those pasts and emulate them.

There are two paths for someone like that

the crutch of monkey see/monkey do. My dad beat me so I'll beat my kids or he hit my mom so I hit women. or I was treated like garbage and I will treat you that way.

because if they can say "its because of that" then they acknowledge it and are just using it for an excuse with no desire to do anything but perpetuate the cycle.

I tend to avoid them because I'm of the nature to tell them boo-fucking-hoo grow the fuck up.

the other path is to re4alize it was not right and try to do better for yourself that's the one that is not as easily traveled, which is why many take the former choice.

If you ever read Billy Connoly biography Billy written by his wife Pamela Stephenson, you'll know that he suffered as a child. When this was mentioned on a chat show he was asked if he had advice for others who'd suffered in the same way.

He said "It happened. Get over it."

He went on to say that OK what happened to you helped to make you the person you are. The moment you realise that, you are free to make yourself the person you want to be.