unhappily married man seeking some long term discrete happiness

[Colonelyoung]

I am unhappily married, male, 44, with 2 kids. just tired of feeling invalidated or doing all the work in every respect and not being able to be myself. can anyone relate?? i know this is a long shot but id love to meet someone thats open to being with a guy in my situation for friendship, fun and more. just tired of feeling alone i guess.

 

[MissAshleyToYou]

Well you could read my personal.. see what you think. I may not be your cup of tea.

I will tell you if you don't turn on your messages noone will message you

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I am unhappily married, male, 44, with 2 kids. just tired of feeling invalidated or doing all the work in every respect and not being able to be myself. can anyone relate?? i know this is a long shot but id love to meet someone thats open to being with a guy in my situation for friendship, fun and more. just tired of feeling alone i guess.

Can I ask why you just don't get a divorce?

 

[Lee364]

Can I ask why you just don't get a divorce?

Uh, maybe because he has two kids and does not want to be an absent parent.

 

[Lee364]

I am unhappily married, male, 44, with 2 kids. just tired of feeling invalidated or doing all the work in every respect and not being able to be myself. can anyone relate?? i know this is a long shot but id love to meet someone thats open to being with a guy in my situation for friendship, fun and more. just tired of feeling alone i guess.

I can totally relate to your story, I’m a 58yo DWM, and I went through a 15-year relationship feeling the exact same way for the last 10-12 years of it, By the halfway point I was nothing more to her than a paycheck in a sexless marriage, while she went out and cheated. Looking back on it I think the only reason I stayed in the relationship was because of the three kids. After a few failed dating attempts due to me being a workaholic I dropped out of the dating world altogether for quite a long period of time. Single now, I am in the middle of a career change, and now questioning my sexuality as I am finding myself still physically attracted to the female body, (just not their mind and all their games), but sexually more attracted to males. If you still want to chat, hit me up. Your profile is completely blank, so it would be helpful to know some information like what city or state you live in

 

[SingleInNJ84]

Can I ask why you just don't get a divorce?

Just my two cents: Marriage is hard and divorce is hard. Both can also be complicated.

Speaking from personal experience, staying together for the kids is why I held on so long. But at the end of the day we all deserve to be happy. Additionally, I didn’t want an unhappy marriage to be an example of what marriage was suppose to be. Yes it’s difficult not having my children full time with me but I truly believe them seeing both their parents happy separately is better than living with two people who are no longer in it together.

At the end of the day, each person needs to do what’s best for themselves and their family unit.

 

[Lee364]

Just my two cents: Marriage is hard and divorce is hard. Both can also be complicated.

Speaking from personal experience, staying together for the kids is why I held on so long. But at the end of the day we all deserve to be happy. Additionally, I didn’t want an unhappy marriage to be an example of what marriage was suppose to be. Yes it’s difficult not having my children full time with me but I truly believe them seeing both their parents happy separately is better than living with two people who are no longer in it together.

At the end of the day, each person needs to do what’s best for themselves and their family unit.

Yes ma'am, hindsight being 20/20 and looking back on it now, I agree I should have left the first time she cheated.

And the three kids that we had were from her first marriage and we were only together for about three years at that point out of a 15 year marriage, of which she at least two other affairs one of which she got pregnant, that ended in a miscarriage.

Looking back, it just seems that I loved her obviously more than she left me, but she did love the money brought home.