Unfortunately Small...

[ChemStudent]

So, I see all these threads where these guys complain about their five or six inch penis... That's kind of frightening for me...

My penis is 3 1/2 inches erect. Its girth is approximately 4 1/2 inches. So, since I haven't found a thread with these stats, I would like to know how you feel about it. I'm a 20-year-old virgin... and I'm scared to have to show off that monster in front of a woman. What to do...?

 

[SweetErika]

Stop caring about your cock size and start caring about the important things, like confidence, knowledge (sexual and otherwise), self-esteem, intelligence, sense of humor, listening, skills and overall personality. If you're good in other areas, don't highlight your size (by complaining, joking about it, etc.) and you go for the right women, it's not going to matter.

You can always add sensation with sleeves and other toys, but if it's too big, you're stuck with something that's likely not as great for spontaneous sex or anal.

I've had lovers on both ends of the spectrum, and the small-average ones were usually less full of themselves and worked harder to be good in bed. Confidence and fearlessness (on this issue) are key, though; women can smell fear, desperation and low self-esteem from a mile away and are usually repelled by those things. Emphasize what you have and forget about what you don't have.

 

[infinity706]

I've had guys of different sizes and the only real problem I've had was the one causual fuck that wanted to fuck me in the ass without a condom. That had nothing to do with cock size, though.

3.5 inches is actually what I'd consider about my ideal standard, anyway. It's just right for taking that whole cock in my mouth and blowing the hell out of it. It's actually thicker than my idea, though. If it were somewhere 3 inches thick or under, it would be just perfect to fuck me in the ass with minimal effort. It's still thin enough to get easy blowjobs with little risk of gagging anyone and you can probably even just stick it straight up just about any woman's cunt once she's excited enough. Of course, I've got 5.5 inches thick and it takes a ton of warmup preparation for it to go in anyone's ass. Sure, some people go for huge dicks, but there are also plenty that would prefer yours for ease of use. Still, that's not saying you should neglect technique. If all you can do is pound away with your cock, you're not even worth the effort to get undressed for. Besides, when I did a poll, a talented tongue won in a landslide over a big cock. Learn how to tease, be spontaneous, and above all, learn to suck cunt well. You'll go a lot farther than the guy who just has the 12 inch cock. Of course, that's assuming that the woman in question will even let that monster thing near her.

 

[pussy_liquor]

So, I see all these threads where these guys complain about their five or six inch penis... That's kind of frightening for me...

My penis is 3 1/2 inches erect. Its girth is approximately 4 1/2 inches. So, since I haven't found a thread with these stats, I would like to know how you feel about it. I'm a 20-year-old virgin... and I'm scared to have to show off that monster in front of a woman. What to do...?

Good luck buddy!

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

So, I see all these threads where these guys complain about their five or six inch penis... That's kind of frightening for me...

My penis is 3 1/2 inches erect. Its girth is approximately 4 1/2 inches. So, since I haven't found a thread with these stats, I would like to know how you feel about it. I'm a 20-year-old virgin... and I'm scared to have to show off that monster in front of a woman. What to do...?

i dated a guy that was 4 MAYBE 4 1/2 inches on a good day. I didnt complain but i will admit it wasnt that good - only reason it sucked was because he didnt know what the hell he was doing.

then dated a guy that was barely pushing 4 inches on a good day and was honestly the best sex i've ever had <because he knew what he was doing and damn did he know how to move. I asked him how he learned so much with so few past partners and u know what his responce was? "I read a lot more on the subject than i should" and it wasnt porno type reading lol it was actual reading - like the suggestions here on lit or other sites and books.

now i'm dating a guy that is pushing 10 inches on a bad day with the girth bigger than a porn star - but sex isnt that great because its painful for both of us and he's not very experienced. so if you read and practice - you'll learn and figure out what your doing. i can say from experience - size does not matter.

hope this helps.
ASG

 

[ChrisPharmD]

Well, don't feel bad. There's more of us out here than you'd think. We just don't jump up and tell the world about it.

I try not to worry about it because there's nothing that can be done. You're a chemistry student, right? Well, you're obviously intelligent and proud about it. Go with it; not many men can say they're smart.

 

[PaysForIt]

I have a 7 inch dick and to be honest, I've only been with 1 woman that I could really pound on without hurting her. There's nothing worse than getting close to a climax, pushing in the extra inch, and hearing "ouch ouch ouch ouch"...it's a real mood killer.

On a second note, with the lady that could take it all, she only had an orgasm when I held it deep inside her. She only enjoyed having my pelvis against hers...I don't think she would have cared if I even had a penis.

Just learn to use it right for your lover.

 

[PertPerth]

I know the "ouch" all too well! It's a mood killer from both sides!

I look at penis size like breast size. Sure, when it comes to porn, the bigger the better...but in reality there aren't too many people who really feel that way! I'm an A-cup (on a good day!) and I've not had any complaints. Any guy who complains, misses out on the rest! You should take the same attitude, ChemStudent, about your penis size.

I know one guy who is critical of boob size, and one girl who is critical of dick size. And I'd not suggest to ANYONE I know to date either of them, because that's not the only reason I call them both dickheads!

 

[Kinkybytch]

Size really holds no weight it isnt the size that really counts its the motion in the ocean baby....lol

I however have my personal preferances for men with bigger dicks but thats just me. But i will say this as some one mentioned before learn how to eat pussy real good and a woman wouldnt care if your dick was a half an inch buddy because i know i love a serious pussy lickingand if i could get that over dick at times it is alright by me

I have fucked a few guys with little pricks and it is alot easier to receive anal with a smaller penis doesnt hurt as would with a big guy.


But either way you need to have that confidance within yourself. Because i had this guy who would take off his clothes and be proud to show off his whole 4 inches walking around like he had a 12inch dick and shit but i must admit it was some great effin sex.

 

[infinity706]

I know the "ouch" all too well! It's a mood killer from both sides!

I look at penis size like breast size. Sure, when it comes to porn, the bigger the better...but in reality there aren't too many people who really feel that way! I'm an A-cup (on a good day!) and I've not had any complaints. Any guy who complains, misses out on the rest! You should take the same attitude, ChemStudent, about your penis size.

I know one guy who is critical of boob size, and one girl who is critical of dick size. And I'd not suggest to ANYONE I know to date either of them, because that's not the only reason I call them both dickheads!

So, why don't you call her a clit head? You know that little thing deserves its share of dirtiness, too.

 

[flowerpetals]

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[HowMayIPleaseU]

i happen to like a smaller dick for blowjobs... makes my jaw not get so tired.

Honestly I really haven't cared what size a guys's cock is and I have been with various sizes... I'm more about the total person and what they do...

 

[night&day]

I Heard!

I heard it said that it wasn't the size of the wand that counted but rather the magic that was in it!

 

[SnowVixen]

Having a penis rammed into your cervix when a longer guy is too into it is NOT fun.

Sometimes it's nice to feel "full", but most of the stimulation a woman experiences during vaginal sex is from nerve bundles towards the outer regions of the vagina. Your penis is PLENTY long enough to hit those.

As far as the circumference.... I'd say that's about perfect for vaginal sex, at least for me. It's just about the size of my favorite sex toys.

I don't think you should be concerned.


Get to know your body really well, and trust your instincts. It really is how you use it. I'm of a slightly different opinion than most people on this board, in that I think most people are innately sexual when they feel free enough and don't need to learn a lot of techniques to be an amazing lover. But you should be familiar with your body and be able to control your movements, and be able to pay attention to subtle cues from your partner. That's what makes somebody fantastic.

 

[SatinPaws]

Stop caring about your cock size and start caring about the important things, like confidence, knowledge (sexual and otherwise), self-esteem, intelligence, sense of humor, listening, skills and overall personality. If you're good in other areas, don't highlight your size (by complaining, joking about it, etc.) and you go for the right women, it's not going to matter.

You can always add sensation with sleeves and other toys, but if it's too big, you're stuck with something that's likely not as great for spontaneous sex or anal.

I've had lovers on both ends of the spectrum, and the small-average ones were usually less full of themselves and worked harder to be good in bed. Confidence and fearlessness (on this issue) are key, though; women can smell fear, desperation and low self-esteem from a mile away and are usually repelled by those things. Emphasize what you have and forget about what you don't have.

^^^^^^^^^^^This. FACT! SweetErika seems to be amazing.

 

[infinity706]

^^^^^^^^^^^This. FACT! SweetErika seems to be amazing.

Yes, we know. It tends to get mentioned about once a day or so.

 

[romantic_always]

Although I've only been with one man (and plan to stay that way forever), the basic thrust-thrust-thrust motion isn't what gets to a girl-it's the circling of hips or where his hands are or what he says to me, it's not just the penis. It's a lot of other things, and those other things make the sex amazing.

 

[pussy_liquor]

My wife says my size is fine! Actually says its perfect. But I of course think its way to small.

 

[EasyDoesIt]

Become a lover not a f'er. Brains and humor go a long way. Learn to use your hands, how to touch a lady sensually, find out all the awesome things a mouth, lips and tongue can do and the ladies will find you a treasure.

 

[arcamean]

This is actually a very good thread, its a shame sex is considered sucha taboo topic for general conversation though. All a guy seems to hear from girls is, I like it big, or I dont care for shirmpy cocks.

Id guess im 4ish myself, mabye 5 ( I never cared enough to measure it with a stick, lol)

Ive personally not had much sexual contact in um well too many years but thats confidence issues for me. I live in washington state,USA and I coudln't tell you the first place to find a girl i could approach. offtopic but you get the idea.. i think.

 

[mickwannabe]

Stop caring about your cock size and start caring about the important things, like confidence, knowledge (sexual and otherwise), self-esteem, intelligence, sense of humor, listening, skills and overall personality. If you're good in other areas, don't highlight your size (by complaining, joking about it, etc.) and you go for the right women, it's not going to matter.

You can always add sensation with sleeves and other toys, but if it's too big, you're stuck with something that's likely not as great for spontaneous sex or anal.

I've had lovers on both ends of the spectrum, and the small-average ones were usually less full of themselves and worked harder to be good in bed. Confidence and fearlessness (on this issue) are key, though; women can smell fear, desperation and low self-esteem from a mile away and are usually repelled by those things. Emphasize what you have and forget about what you don't have.

That is some great advice SweetErika! I've been a closet-worrier about size, but what you said makes a lot of sense. My g/f has always told me that she loves my size (5 in, thick), but I thought she was just being nice because she's stuck with me

Thinking about it even though she might not come from penetration, she always gets at least one orgasm from oral each time we make love so we each come away happy

 

[nuitblanche]

My man isn't on the huge side either, but he knows how to work what he has and I couldn't ask for more. The size is great for giving head and feels great when he is inside of me too. Don't just assume that a woman wouldn't like it.

 

[ted_cinti]

its not the size of the wand, its the magic of the performer.............just whip it out and do it !

 

[satindesire]

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[mickwannabe]

Most women can't achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone, Mick, that's normal.

Thanks satindesire That's what she said too, but men never want to hear excuses, haha. Just glad she and I are both happy