Undressing b4 sex, watch or help?

[69plus1]

If you are about to have sex with someone do you like to help each other undress or watch each other.
As a bi man I have difference choices which differ by the sex of my partner. With a woman I like to undress her so I can caress and kiss the new areas as they are exposed.
With a man I like to watch him undress himself so I can look at him, especially his cock.
Is he hard at all, is he hot for me? A couple of times I have just watched them and when we were both naked just looked at each other for a moment so we can watch each others cock. If he gets hard from just looking and me/my cock it makes me hot.
How about you?

 

[Hitchiker69]

I've always found it odd to see a nude man when we're getting in bed or walking around the apartment. It's OK when we're in bed, because we're busy having sex.
I love to put on a strip show for a man. It arouses me to think that I can excite him, that he wants me.
And I love to undress a woman, slowly peeling off what I'm about to enjoy.

 

[cubbyfire04]

Don't care so much for the strip tease or something like that. Men or women, I prefer just letting it happen and tearing each others clothes off in a passion-filled frenzy.

Once had a guy I took back to my hotel room go in the bathroom and just walk out naked before we'd kissed or anything. He had a super hot body and it didn't stop me from immediately dropping to my knees, but in hindsight, I found it a bit off-putting. He stole some of that excitement of seeing what's underneath for yourself and being completely committed no matter what the body looks like because you're already too turned on to care. If he'd been someone whose not quite my type, it might have been difficult to keep the intensity going.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I prefer we both stay in our sexy lingerie and only take off what is necessary for access.

 

[suckcurious]

I like each of us helping each other strip. Nothing better than finally pulling his underwear down for that revealing moment. One guy who pulled my pants down immediately went down on my cock sucking me.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Rush to get naked isn't that sexy. Undressing slowly either simultaneously or helping each other is definitely a turn on

 

[blklthrjkt]

I love helping to undress my partner. Feels like seduction.

 

[RipleNStllWtr]

Undress. Using my lips if I can. If I happen to bump into something and taste it oh well. So goes the night.

 

[oneblueye]

I love undressing a woman who is in no hurry to "get it over with".

I won't help a guy get undressed but I will watch intently.

 

[Jerseyshore]

Rush to get naked isn't that sexy. Undressing slowly either simultaneously or helping each other is definitely a turn on

Definitely....time to explore and learn what he is into

 

[starfish71]

I find myself more in the "help" camp... I like the idea of unwrapping it all... as for me getting undressed (if there is any to do)... he can watch or he can help, which ever suits the situation...

 

[davion2308]

It depends on the situation. I had a relationship with a woman a few years back and she identified as submissive. She got really turned on at feeling exposed and vulnerable. I'm not much of a dom but I learned she liked me to tell her to take off her clothes instead of helping her or doing it myself. She got really really aroused from that and I learned to direct her with what I wanted to see. It was fun to learn to be able to do that and see her reaction.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I've always found it odd to see a nude man when we're getting in bed or walking around the apartment. It's OK when we're in bed, because we're busy having sex.
I love to put on a strip show for a man. It arouses me to think that I can excite him, that he wants me.
And I love to undress a woman, slowly peeling off what I'm about to enjoy.

I’m always so shy and embarrassed when I undress for a new lover, I’m afraid he won’t like me, am I too skinny, will I disappoint him? if he's experienced, how can I measure up to his previous boys? is my cock big enough, will he like it?, will he laugh and ridicule me because – as he can clearly see, I’ve got a pathetic hard-on, showing how sad and eager I am to get fucked by him, does that make me seem too eager, too cheap? I get so nervous when I'm with a new guy for the first time. You too, I guess? It must be the same for all of us submissive cum-sluts. Will he like me? Will he be satisfied with a full rich deep blow-job, or will he want my nervous little bottom too? Naturally, the decision is his. I do what he wants. I prefer if he's forceful and gives me no choice. If he simply takes what he wants, and uses me like a fuck-toy.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I’m always so shy and embarrassed when I undress for a new lover, I’m afraid he won’t like me, am I too skinny, will I disappoint him? if he's experienced, how can I measure up to his previous boys? is my cock big enough, will he like it?, will he laugh and ridicule me because – as he can clearly see, I’ve got a pathetic hard-on, showing how sad and eager I am to get fucked by him, does that make me seem too eager, too cheap? I get so nervous when I'm with a new guy for the first time. You too, I guess? It must be the same for all of us submissive cum-sluts. Will he like me? Will he be satisfied with a full rich deep blow-job, or will he want my nervous little bottom too? Naturally, the decision is his. I do what he wants. I prefer if he's forceful and gives me no choice. If he simply takes what he wants, and uses me like a fuck-toy.

While I'll admit to having some anxiety and insecurity when getting naked with a guy for the first time, I prefer to focus on satisfying my needs. He's got what I need...a hard cock for me to enjoy, savor, stroke and suck. I'll let him be in the driver's seat to some extent, not 100%. I'm there to satisfy my needs as well as to please him. Hopefully we will both end the evening spent and satisfied, and wanting more

 

[tristantrotsky]

While I'll admit to having some anxiety and insecurity when getting naked with a guy for the first time, I prefer to focus on satisfying my needs. He's got what I need...a hard cock for me to enjoy, savor, stroke and suck. I'll let him be in the driver's seat to some extent, not 100%. I'm there to satisfy my needs as well as to please him. Hopefully we will both end the evening spent and satisfied, and wanting more

I guess you're right, Hitchiker69, but we are incapable of changing our essential natures.
Although we both arrive at cum-filled satisfaction, even if by taking a slightly different perspectives to our need...

 

[Hitchiker69]

I've read quite a few of your posts. I'm sure if we ever got together we could have a lot of fun sucking and fucking each other.

 

[nakedworld]

Rush to get naked isn't that sexy. Undressing slowly either simultaneously or helping each other is definitely a turn on

Yes I agree with you there. Its all part of the fun.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I've read quite a few of your posts. I'm sure if we ever got together we could have a lot of fun sucking and fucking each other.

Oh Gosh! That sounds so simply divine.
I adore your posts too... we share so many tastes.

 

[hanban24]

If you are about to have sex with someone do you like to help each other undress or watch each other.
As a bi man I have difference choices which differ by the sex of my partner. With a woman I like to undress her so I can caress and kiss the new areas as they are exposed.
With a man I like to watch him undress himself so I can look at him, especially his cock.
Is he hard at all, is he hot for me? A couple of times I have just watched them and when we were both naked just looked at each other for a moment so we can watch each others cock. If he gets hard from just looking and me/my cock it makes me hot.
How about you?

It really just depends on the situation. I’ve come out already naked before, put on a show with taking things off, or had my partner be the one to pull my clothes off. All are hot! I think it is fun to mix it up.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

… Sometimes being subbie and being stripped, especially forcibly, … is enormously erotic.

Agreed.

 

[peter49parker]

With my wife, it is always a pleasure to undress her, slowly. As our urges intensify, it just feels so much more erotic and arousing, to remove her clothing piece by piece.

With other guys, it is quite the opposite. "Let's get naked and suck." I cannot remember ever undressing another guy. One of my buddies answers his door, already naked, while another usually walks to his bedroom, while undressing. I do agree with 'tristantrotsky' in that I feel a bit shy, and self conscious when getting naked for a new guy. I always worry about 'measuring up' for him.

 

[SuperSissy]

It depends on the situation. I had a relationship with a woman a few years back and she identified as submissive. She got really turned on at feeling exposed and vulnerable. I'm not much of a dom but I learned she liked me to tell her to take off her clothes instead of helping her or doing it myself. She got really really aroused from that and I learned to direct her with what I wanted to see. It was fun to learn to be able to do that and see her reaction.

I had a similar woman. Petite, maybe 100 lbs, she would sit on my lap while I undressed her, while I stayed in a shirt and tie the whole time, maybe drinking wine or a beer. She would verbally ponder why she was naked and I wasn't, thereby heightening her sense of vulnerability. It was great fun.

 

[SuperSissy]

With men, it's their choice. I have enjoyed both being undressed and being completely naked and vulnerable while they are dressed, and the opposite, undressing them like a servant and servicing them as they wish. Allot depends on where I start, i.e., have I had the ability to slip into something slinky and sexy, like a negligee or baby doll, which was usually more likely to lead to me undressing them, while staying in my clothes for a bit. But, their choice.

 

[fma20fma]

agree.