UK Bi-curious - should i take the plunge?

[Harry sach]

Hi,

I've posted on here before about being given oral by a guy i know at work. It has only happened maybe half a dozen times over the last three years. I go through periods where i think about it a lot, and want him to do it again, and sometimes he asks me if he can, but even though i work in a big place, it's hard to give him a straight answer, partly because it scares me, and partly because i am married, and feel like i shouldn't be doing it. My wife has never properly given my oral, and is unable to do anal sex. We don't really have sex all that often. There are reasons for that, but i'm not going into them here.
My friend gave me a video a couple of years ago, and i have watched it quite a lot. Watching a hard cock sliding in and out of someones arse really fascinates me, and i feel like i want to try it when i'm turned on. Watching the video makes me come hard, but afterwards i feel dirty, and feel like i shouldn't even be watching it.
I am thinking about going to my friends tonight, and seeing what happens, but i am worried about how i would feel afterwards if anything did happen. I've felt bad enough before after he has sucked my cock, but part of me just wants to give in to these sexual urges.
Can anyone give me any advice?

 

[geronimo_appleby]

are either of you in a relatonship?

 

[Harry sach]

My friend isn't, i am married.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

My friend isn't, i am married.

be careful then.
if you were both free agents then it'd be a 'go for it'.

would your spouse be interested in playing along too? that could be fun!

 

[Riley_James]

Life is too short not to experience everything that is available to you...always play "safe" when exploring anything outside of your current commitment and it is best to get permission, but if that is not possible for you then you have to weigh the decisions carefully.

If your wife found out, what would be the repercussions and are you ready to face those? Would it not be better to express your desires to her and ask if she could release you to go and "play"? If she is limited sexually, she must realize that you still have a libido and a need to satisfy yourself...?

Just a liberal American POV...

Good Luck,
Riley

 

[Harry sach]

Can see what you're saying, but to be honest there is no way i could even approach her about the subject. She would probably disown me on the spot! That where the dilema is, really. Do i just continue to safely enjoy this video, or go and try it? I probably never will, because my nerves always get the better of me.

 

[Riley_James]

Can see what you're saying, but to be honest there is no way i could even approach her about the subject. She would probably disown me on the spot! That where the dilema is, really. Do i just continue to safely enjoy this video, or go and try it? I probably never will, because my nerves always get the better of me.

Well I'll tell you something...up until about 3 months ago I never would have said...go do it...you'll never regret it, but things have changed so much for me in that time that IS what I'd say now. Of course my situation is different and I have permission to "play," so I can't say what you SHOULD do...

All I know is the last time I played it was the most amazing sexual experience of my life and I'd long been denying myself to pleasure to "feel" what was inside. If you think that you can safely play with this guy and not have it drag you down into the guilt of it afterwards, I say go for it. I'll never be sorry I did.

 

[alaskabibear]

I may be too late with this response to be of much help, but here's my 2 cents;

I have the utmost respect for Riley J, but I think you have too many unresolved issues in your relationship with you wife and in your own mind just yet to be going forward at this time.

Why don't you try wanking-off before you make your decision whether to go tonight or not. If you still decide to go after you do that, it's a pretty good indication that you are committed to the decision to go forward. However, if after you "relieve" the urgency you decide not to go forward then you will not face the guilt afterwards.

Regardless of what course you take tonight, please try to follow up on Riley's general theme and get these issues out in the open and resolved with your wife. Better to face the fire and get it over with than to live a lifetime of smoldering pain.
Good Luck!

 

[Riley_James]

Just to beleaguer the point even more...

I would not suggest to anyone that they sacrifice their marriage to "get off," but after years of being involved with the GLBT community, I do know that some people just aren't OPEN to the idea of advanced sexuality.

R~

 

[Harry sach]

I never did go ahead with it. I hadn't actually thought about it at all really, until yesterday............

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[ilike2try]

No idea how to broach it with my wife

I, too, would give much to be able to get it out in the open with my wife about my desire to suck the occasional cock. She has no idea that, a few years before I met her, I had enjoyed an occasional tryst with men, mostly for mutual oral, and once or twice some anal play. The few times that men with men comes up in conversation, she talks as though nothing would turn her off more. And yet, she has, in her younger years, experimented a little with other females. I don't think she's much interested in that anymore, either, though she's much more comfortable with the idea of women with women... probably partly because she knows it turns me on. But she'd likely have a cow if she learned I quite like dicks, too; that I have sucked cock before, and would like to suck it again.

 

[Harry sach]

Going back to this subject, my desire to get sucked got the better of me one day, and i took my friends video round to his house when i knew he would be in. I didn't even need to ask him to suck my cock, he just started feeling me through my shorts, and took i out, as he has done in the past. It felt great, but afterwards i tried to tell myself that i should have some kind of closure on these feelings now i don't have the video anymore. I feel like i hit a wall, and i am too scared to go any further, even though i can watch a video of two men fucking, and it makes me cum hard, and i feel like trying it until i cum, afterwards i know that i could never do it. I forget about it for a couple of weeks, but then when i haven't had sex for a while, i start thinking about it again. It does my head in!

 

[bblobby]

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[voir]

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Do you mean redtube.com? I've been on there a lot lately. They've got a ton of great videos of all kinds. I've even been able to get my wife into it the last couple of days. It was the first time I tried introducing her to internet porn and she was all over it. They've got some very hot gay videos on there.