Ugh, why do I torture myself..

[LookngForFun]

I made a few posts on Craigslist..not ads. Just rants & raves. Got quite a few emails for some of them. One in particular stood out to me. It was only 1 sentence but something about the way it was worded. There were also pics attached. Guy wasn't bad looking. Didn't need to see penis pic though..could've done without it. Guy was obviously looking for no strings attached sex and made that clear. We went back and forth in emails a few times. He doesn't really talk and gives short answers. I guess he figured he wasn't getting any when I pointed out that I didn't even live in that city area he's from. Although it's not like he asked where I was either or if I'm there often. He doesn't ask anything! I tried but he just replies with short answers and it's like a dead end. He is using a Droid but still.. lots of people do and type more than that.

I also saw his Facebook.. all I had to do was Google the name. Not like he was trying to hide much. Again.. liked what I saw. Like with most men, likely don't have a chance because I'm fat or "BBW" and even when the weight comes off I'm still going to look a mess. I feel like I have to wait 2 years just to lose the weight..make sure there's gross/loose skin oh and get a boob job. I stopped replying to him anyway because it was such a dead end.

If I didn't look like this and could send a pic of course I'd have a chance. Been fat for 3 years now.. it's coming off..slow. Thinking of buying a tredmil and taking my sexual frustrated energy out on exercise. I have a gym account but they moved and it's more of a pain to get to.

Stupid of me, right?!

 

[bassangler120]

It does sound to me like he was a dead end. Being a big guy I understand the weight issues you are talking about. They are a pain. However it seems that you are heading in the right direction with losing it, good for you. I recently started the same process and still waiting for it to pay off...lol. If you wanna chat Pm me...

 

[Biker_Type]

not sure if you'll find anything but guys wanting NSA on CL? there are a good many men around who do like ladies a bit larger than average. you said bbw,m thats a common term for it. maybe look about for forums about that? if you're bold enough show us a pic here and let others be the judge? i've never liked the skinny, slim ar even what would be called average look. my OL certainly is in the bbw category and i can't get enough of her (oe her of me!). the person you are should be at least as important as how you look!
IMHO
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[infinity706]

I made a few posts on Craigslist..not ads. Just rants & raves. Got quite a few emails for some of them. One in particular stood out to me. It was only 1 sentence but something about the way it was worded. There were also pics attached. Guy wasn't bad looking. Didn't need to see penis pic though..could've done without it. Guy was obviously looking for no strings attached sex and made that clear. We went back and forth in emails a few times. He doesn't really talk and gives short answers. I guess he figured he wasn't getting any when I pointed out that I didn't even live in that city area he's from. Although it's not like he asked where I was either or if I'm there often. He doesn't ask anything! I tried but he just replies with short answers and it's like a dead end. He is using a Droid but still.. lots of people do and type more than that.

I also saw his Facebook.. all I had to do was Google the name. Not like he was trying to hide much. Again.. liked what I saw. Like with most men, likely don't have a chance because I'm fat or "BBW" and even when the weight comes off I'm still going to look a mess. I feel like I have to wait 2 years just to lose the weight..make sure there's gross/loose skin oh and get a boob job. I stopped replying to him anyway because it was such a dead end.

If I didn't look like this and could send a pic of course I'd have a chance. Been fat for 3 years now.. it's coming off..slow. Thinking of buying a tredmil and taking my sexual frustrated energy out on exercise. I have a gym account but they moved and it's more of a pain to get to.

Stupid of me, right?!

Seriously, there's no reason to give up just because of your weight. Infact, there's plenty of guys that prefer "less breakable" women as my younger brother put it. There's even numerous perks to larger women that I've heard mentioned. Obviously, you'll probably lose a few cup sizes when you lose all that weight. That might be particularly important if he likes titty fucking, though. There's quite a few guys that like big asses, too, though. There's even songs about it. There's also the soft, cuddly aspect. The skinny chicks are hard and bony. There's even the idea that the big chicks are generally better fucks because they make more of an effort. It's kind of like the guys with the huge dicks that think all they have to do is jump on some woman and pound her. Sure, that particular guy might not want you, but there are plenty of good selling points to being BBW. If there weren't, do you think there would be paysites dedicated to nothing but 300-500 pound women? When you're talking porn, you can get anything you want...

 

[PhilGarlic]

Hi

reading your post I think you have a lot to offer someone. Some guys want more then a skinny girl, and the fact you appear to be an honest person who can string more then a couple of words together can be very appealing.

Exercise and diet are always good whatever shape size so keep up with that, it also helps with self confidence.

Oh and the photo in your profile looks good to me

 

[Boundlife]

It's hard to put yourself on the market so to speak. I'm just going on your post but it sound like your are "pretending to be on the market". That's when you say you are looking but in your head you have reasons why they won't like you and you look in places your sure to find dolts (craigslis)

So quit torturing yourself, drop craig, and bask in the warmth of Lit where flesh is good.
(Lit Men seem to prefer real to computer enhanced, got to love them )

 

[subwannabe]

I'm going to disagree with everyone here - to some extent. I think you are on the wrong track. First of all, losing weight is a good thing so keep it up. I think you have one main problem and it is sending you down the wrong path. You have a self esteem problem and you need to work on that. Believe it or not, overweight, even fat, women do find relationships and they don't have to go on Craig's List to do it. Which brings me to my second main critisizim - you need to find someone using more regular methods and not try to find some loser on Craig's List. You seemed to think there was something special about this one guy and yet I got the impression he was a loser or a user. Don't trust anyone who can't talk in sentences and gives nothing but vague, short responses. Your low self esteem has got you going down the wrong road at finding someone. You have to convince yourself that overweight and fat people can find good relationships that work and that you don't have to just give up and settle because of yourself. I used to have a friend that actually preferred fat women. I think his viewpoint was that they were waaaaay better at sex because they knew they had to try harder and were open to more things. My friend isn't the only one who thinks that way.

 

[Fmature2play]

If you don't love yourself how can anyone else love you? It is a bit cliche to be sure but so true. And subwannabe is soooo correct about the self esteem part. Stay away from chubby chasers. Some guys target gals like us that have a few to lose because they prey on low self esteem and the desire to feel wanted. Next thing you know they are controlling and emptying your bank account and making you feel worse than before. Feel good about YOU dear. The you that is kind hearted and enjoys laughing and wants to be around others of a like mind. Feel good about you and above all else INSIST that your mate treat you the way you treat them. Never settle.

 

[NippleMuncher]

I think you have one main problem and it is sending you down the wrong path. You have a self esteem problem and you need to work on that.

Absolutely agreed!

Kudos on working on your weight issues, but do it for YOU, not for anyone else!

It is your self esteem that needs bolstering. First and foremost, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you or your body, it's how YOU view yourself. If you're happy and content with yourself, then you will attract similarly minded folks. If you're neurotic about your self image, then all you're going to find are goons preying on your weaknesses.

Which brings me to my second main critisizim - you need to find someone using more regular methods and not try to find some loser on Craig's List.

Again I agree. Turn off your computer, get out into the world and enjoy the things in life that YOU enjoy doing. You're going to find like minded individuals doing the same thing, giving you a common interest to create friendships and further relationships from.

There are all kinds of hobbies and activities out there that people of all ages, sexes, sizes, etc., are active in. Get out there and start enjoying life and your passions.

 

[panty_aussie]

i tend to agree with other people

you need to have you're self esteem first

but also there are people out there who are big or small them self who are very picky them self

so i think in real is a lot better

 

[Experiencedguy]

I have said it many times: NEVER USE CRAIG'S LIST TO MEET ANYONE FOR ANY REASON. You don't know what you are getting into. Many people have been robbed, beaten, caught downright deadly STD's. Been blackmailed. On and on. I don't care where you live, there is something better locally. I do wish you the best in your endeavor, but take care of yourself first, before trusting yourself to someone else.

 

[gagginforit]

Just because you're a big girl doesn't mean you should set your sights so low. Do you really want a guy who just wants you for a fuck and can't even carry on a conversation?

Your weight doesn't have to keep you from finding good men. I mean big ups to you if you want to lose it and you're working on that, but big can be sexy. It has a lot to do with how you view yourself, your confidence and how you carry yourself, and also how you present yourself.

Whats stupid of you exactly?

 

[Traveler78]

I have said it many times: NEVER USE CRAIG'S LIST TO MEET ANYONE FOR ANY REASON. You don't know what you are getting into. Many people have been robbed, beaten, caught downright deadly STD's. Been blackmailed. On and on. I don't care where you live, there is something better locally. I do wish you the best in your endeavor, but take care of yourself first, before trusting yourself to someone else.

People say this, but I have yet to see any real evidence to show it's any more dangerous than meeting someone from any other online source. With the proper precautions (long series of emails, phone chats, meeting first time in a public place, etc), I'm not even sure it's any more dangerous than meeting someone at a random bar or club.

Yes people do get robbed, beaten, STD's, blackmailed, etc, but those things are in no way isolated to craigslist.