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[Quint]

The posts I find myelf deleting most often are the ones that don't seem to live up to my hoity-toity persona. Much like this one. I try not to give away personal information (sex apparently is public domain) or "break character." I'm secretly trying to impress Netzach. So when I have a post I consider too trivial, usually they fall by the wayside.

And I like cookies as much as the next person, but SHEESH!

Actually, cookies are kind of my slogan at work. I write lots of memos for my team, and at the bottom of every one, I write "Questions? Comments? Cookies? Bring 'em on!" So when I got officially promoted to manager, my team bought me a gigantic cookie cake in congratulations. Neener neener neener! But seriously, the cookiejacking is what I dread most when I start a thread. I'd rather it die without a response than be usurped.

And I'm hitting submit......now!

 

[shy slave]

OK, here is a thread I've been meaning to start but no clue if I can express the thoughts clearly enough.

"The TAO of BDSM"

What does it mean to be Dominant, or submisive or Master or slave or Mistress or pet boy or such? I see often things like "that is YOUR BDSM but MINE is ....." and so on and so forth. What are the roots, the essence, not a clinical dictionary definition but more of the "come to the dungeon, grasshopper, and learn of the ways of the ancients"

Any koans, parables, or anecdotes to reveal the inner mysteries, or more likely how you search and what you've found as you carve out your life for yourself?

Damn a religious education degree that didn't get into sexual deviancy!

The TAO of BDSM

I like the title

I learnt alot from a mix of my own dumb mistakes and from things posted here and on other sites.

Its been a bit like setting up a new belief system, seperate from things learnt within a family structure.

Listen, think, listen some more and then decide what 'fits' best with your existing beliefs and personal life structure.

Not sure I answered the question but it has set off many trains of thought in my mind.

Which is what helene appeared to be saying in the first post

 

[shy slave]

The posts I find myelf deleting most often are the ones that don't seem to live up to my hoity-toity persona. Much like this one. I try not to give away personal information (sex apparently is public domain) or "break character." I'm secretly trying to impress Netzach. So when I have a post I consider too trivial, usually they fall by the wayside.

And I like cookies as much as the next person, but SHEESH!

Actually, cookies are kind of my slogan at work. I write lots of memos for my team, and at the bottom of every one, I write "Questions? Comments? Cookies? Bring 'em on!" So when I got officially promoted to manager, my team bought me a gigantic cookie cake in congratulations. Neener neener neener! But seriously, the cookiejacking is what I dread most when I start a thread. I'd rather it die without a response than be usurped.

And I'm hitting submit......now!

Cookiejacking...

Quint i think you have found a new word!

I will resist asking if you want one though lol

Actually if you check back Gracie and I (and others) have been known to hijack, or cookiejack our own threads at times

I agree its annoying when a good discussion is in full throes, and I try not to do it then.

 

[serijules]

This thread is making me drive myself crazy.

I keep replying and then not posting my reply.

Sheesh. LOL

 

[sphynx's dragon]

I think I've gone thru 3 keyboards on this comp. Mainly because the backspace key stops working and I can't LIVE without it. Muchless TYPE! <shiver>

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Wouldn't ...

Peroxide work? Yes, but then you'd be red on top and blond on the bottom. IF you don't shave/wax/electo ... oh hell with it. Yet another shaving thread.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Heeeeeyy, excellent guys! I honestly didn't think this would catch on at all. Replies to follow after I'm done burning dinner.

 

[nusubgurl]

Sometimes i think things, and then start to write them, and think again, because...it's gonna piss *somebody* off.

So i try to write about my experiences...and guess what kind of response that gets?? Barely a whimper...

And it makes me think that the folks her are all talk and no action...except that ya'll do know a lot and i have learned a lot reading your posts.

So i dunno...i guess so much has already been written and all that anyone should have to do is search on the topic of curiousity and all the threads miraculously appear. But then would we talk about day to day??

So why can't we pick an old topic and cover it once again so us newbies can dive in and play too?? And not the esoteric stuff.. but the fun stuff...why can't we all be a little voyeuristic and see into each others' world??

What's your favorite toy? What's your ultimate kink? What turns you on?

i wish this would all come round back the basics of (BDSM) love.

 

[Xelebes]

So is this the forum's b-side? The posts that almost made it? Groovy idea! Can we also post things that we thought of posting before realizing they were uncharacteristically snotty and would forever alienate us from our fellow posters? Not that I...um...have any of those posts...heh, heh.

What are b-sides? Are we talking about the OMG SPECIAL EDITION CD type stuff or what?

Anyways, I post off the handle and stuff. I hate trying to hit backspace and stuff unless I intend to send the punchline as solidly as possible - then it takes a second thought or something.

 

[A Desert Rose]

What are b-sides? Are we talking about the OMG SPECIAL EDITION CD type stuff or what?

Anyways, I post off the handle and stuff. I hate trying to hit backspace and stuff unless I intend to send the punchline as solidly as possible - then it takes a second thought or something.

What are b-sides?

You are so charmingly sweet, doll. ;-)

 

[Joe Schmoe]

Been there myself.

Those that I have dumped had morphed from my ideas, experiences and/or opinions into an emotional rant or rave and I always try to keep my posts from being based on emotions.

That is where toes tend to get stepped on.

Watch your feet, I'm coming through.

 

[sincerely_helene]

AA: "Oh we do, then think better of it and simply log off to cool off, or get laid.

Can i say get laid here? Wait, this is a porn board. Of course i can say get laid. In fact (if i wanted to) i could say swing from the chandeliers by duct tape with tweezers in one hand and BBQ tongs in the other, but then i'd get all hot and bothered and have to get my blood supply back under control.

Wait, what the hell was i thinking about getting back under control. i just had a wonderful inspiration concerning Q-tips and rubbing alcohol. See you all in a bit."

Can I live inside your head, for even just one day?

serijules: *delete*"

I was wondering when someone was going to do that.

shy slave: "We don't use the delete button in R/L conversations (although there have many times I have wished that option had been there).

In r/l conversations flow and ebb into a myraid of things from a single thought process.

Now a slight hijack

Where have the ducks gone?
Did he fall into your top and suffocate???"

In real life I have often stopped mid paragraph and said things like "Wow. I'm even boring myself here." Then changed the subject by asking the person something about themselves. People love to talk about themselves.

Duckie's here and well and says hello. He did 'land' himself in hospital with minor injuries and trauma after the "incedent" but not to worry. I simply told him to send me the 'bill.' (hahaha I crack myself up. Bill.)

Milambus: "I'll spend 20 mins typing out a response.. then just decide that its not worth making the post (especially if I know it will cause a controversy) and just delete it."

Hey, at least we get to vent that way without the sense of regret afterward. I don't recall ever walking away from a potential board dispute and hating myself for it the next day.

Graceanne: "LOL I do this all the time. Sometimes I'll read over it and think it sounds snotty, and I didn't mean that. And sometimes I MEANT it to sound snotty, but I decide I don't want to deal with the argument that will come from what I typed.

Other times it's cause I started rambling, or I put more information in the post than I feel is anyne's business."

Ditto! I used type what I wanted to say in notepad, then come back to it the next day and see if I was still so eager to hand out the tongue lashing. I never was.

Guilty of the too much information thing too. People often tell me I'm not open enough about myself, meanwhile I'm thinking "Ummmm... Have we met?"

 

[sincerely_helene]

sinn0cent: "Ah, come on now. Ever think that if they were over rather than under .. some would instead say, "Oh, well ... i BET that is how they got that way too."?

eyes the backspace key ..

Because Quint had posed the idea that this is a place where we can also post things that we thought of posting before realizing they were uncharacteristically snotty ....( rather than backspacing and or not posting it at all ... i guess ). and i'm gonna click the submit button now before i change my mind ..... again."

That's the spirit! We'll turn you into a post whore yet.

Salvor-Hardon: "OK, here is a thread I've been meaning to start but no clue if I can express the thoughts clearly enough.

"The TAO of BDSM"

What does it mean to be Dominant, or submisive or Master or slave or Mistress or pet boy or such? I see often things like "that is YOUR BDSM but MINE is ....." and so on and so forth. What are the roots, the essence, not a clinical dictionary definition but more of the "come to the dungeon, grasshopper, and learn of the ways of the ancients"

Any koans, parables, or anecdotes to reveal the inner mysteries, or more likely how you search and what you've found as you carve out your life for yourself?

Damn a religious education degree that didn't get into sexual deviancy!"

Wow! I wouldn't even have the slightest idea how to respond, but it still would have made a terrific thread! Opens the door to endless personal philosophies instead of the typical cookie cutter responses. Ya gotta respect that!

Nice one, Salvor. I dig your approach.

Quint: "The posts I find myelf deleting most often are the ones that don't seem to live up to my hoity-toity persona. Much like this one. I try not to give away personal information (sex apparently is public domain) or "break character." I'm secretly trying to impress Netzach. So when I have a post I consider too trivial, usually they fall by the wayside.

And I like cookies as much as the next person, but SHEESH!

Actually, cookies are kind of my slogan at work. I write lots of memos for my team, and at the bottom of every one, I write "Questions? Comments? Cookies? Bring 'em on!" So when I got officially promoted to manager, my team bought me a gigantic cookie cake in congratulations. Neener neener neener! But seriously, the cookiejacking is what I dread most when I start a thread. I'd rather it die without a response than be usurped.

And I'm hitting submit......now!"

Nothing more alluring than a little mystery. Always leave them wanting more!

The idea of "breaking character" is something I will have to chew on for a while. I was once very active in an online roleplay community, and even then I found it nearly impossible to be anything but myself. As I stated to Graceanne earlier, though, I totally understand the apprehension to reveal too much personal information. That is a wise rule to follow in this venue.

I'm not even vaguely familier with what a cookie jacking is. I would imagine it makes the cookie smile, though.

shy slave: "The TAO of BDSM

I like the title

I learnt alot from a mix of my own dumb mistakes and from things posted here and on other sites.

Its been a bit like setting up a new belief system, seperate from things learnt within a family structure.

Listen, think, listen some more and then decide what 'fits' best with your existing beliefs and personal life structure.

Not sure I answered the question but it has set off many trains of thought in my mind.

Which is what helene appeared to be saying in the first post"

Indeedy do.

serijules: "This thread is making me drive myself crazy.

I keep replying and then not posting my reply.

Sheesh. LOL"

One day at a time. Sinn0cent can be your mentor.

Sphynx's dragon: "think I've gone thru 3 keyboards on this comp. Mainly because the backspace key stops working and I can't LIVE without it. Muchless TYPE! <shiver>"

Psst... Left click, drag to highlight, right click, delete. There. I just saved you a few bucks. Mice are cheaper than keyboards.

AA: "Peroxide work? Yes, but then you'd be red on top and blond on the bottom."

Agreed. I'd rather be red on the bottom.

nusubgurl: "Sometimes i think things, and then start to write them, and think again, because...it's gonna piss *somebody* off.

So i try to write about my experiences...and guess what kind of response that gets?? Barely a whimper...

And it makes me think that the folks her are all talk and no action...except that ya'll do know a lot and i have learned a lot reading your posts.

So i dunno...i guess so much has already been written and all that anyone should have to do is search on the topic of curiousity and all the threads miraculously appear. But then would we talk about day to day??

So why can't we pick an old topic and cover it once again so us newbies can dive in and play too?? And not the esoteric stuff.. but the fun stuff...why can't we all be a little voyeuristic and see into each others' world??

What's your favorite toy? What's your ultimate kink? What turns you on?

i wish this would all come round back the basics of (BDSM) love."

I think you have a few very valid rants there. I have felt much the way you describe with regards to feeling ignored if I post non- confrontational personal thoughts instead of jumping into an ongoing dispute. I suppose that's just human nature, to want to be a part of the excitement. I'm even guilty mentally placing bets on a decent cock-fight now and then.

Sometimes you just have to speak louder than rest of the crowd to be heard. I highly recommend caps.

Xelebes: "Anyways, I post off the handle and stuff. I hate trying to hit backspace and stuff unless I intend to send the punchline as solidly as possible - then it takes a second thought or something."

I admire that.

Joe Schmoe: "Been there myself.

Those that I have dumped had morphed from my ideas, experiences and/or opinions into an emotional rant or rave and I always try to keep my posts from being based on emotions."

Is that even possible???

Welp, my typing finger is starting to ache. I think I might have just broken some kind of world record or something. Thanks to all who have participated. Nice to know I'm not alone.

 

[h_i_s]

Red? i'm irish/portuguese ... it'd be red .. regardless.
Unless it's bleach + peroxide vs. color+peroxide ....... and even then, only with the correct volume ... probably only need the 30 .. add the heat of a warm dryer, & get away with 20. No matter, cuz blonde would look odd ... there. No matter still, because .... well, yeah this isn't a shave/wax thread ... so still no matter.

And ..

i'd choose honesty. Honest & constructive critisism is sometimes far too under-rated. "NO. You don't look fat. It's the dress that looks fat. Try another ... better yet, scrap the dress ... take this A-lined solid black skirt ... with the high heels and black sheer thigh highs instead ... and the jacket ... yeah, the camisole blouse looks good with that ...... ........blah .... blah .. blah".

i should clean this desk today. The coffee rings are starting to resemble the resulting images of a spirograph toy. i gotta remember to snail mail that video card back to them ..... i'm sick of this green haze.

 

[h_i_s]

........ doublepost ...... right click, select all ........ backspacccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccce ......

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Can I live inside your head, for even just one day?

Agreed. I'd rather be red on the bottom.

Yeah, but then how would i get the red out, and no Visine don't do diddly for bloodshot ...

Unless it's bleach + peroxide vs. color+peroxide ....... and even then, only with the correct volume ...

Perhaps, but what fun to play the mad scientist, as long as one didn't blow up the lab.

 

[snowy ciara]

I thought Cookie jacked was when Gracie jacks all my cookies. Thinking like carjacking but better. Or worse, depending on what side you're on. hides cookies I do know of one other forum who's worse on threadjacks than this one is. They call it derailing and if you do it too much, or they think it's like, intentional or something, you'll get a polite note from one of the owners reminding you not to and suggested that one could lose their conductor's license if they derail too much.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I thought Cookie jacked was when Gracie jacks all my cookies. Thinking like carjacking but better. Or worse, depending on what side you're on. hides cookies I do know of one other forum who's worse on threadjacks than this one is. They call it derailing and if you do it too much, or they think it's like, intentional or something, you'll get a polite note from one of the owners reminding you not to and suggested that one could lose their conductor's license if they derail too much.

Keep it up and i'll whisper to RR, Marquis and a few others that some subbies around here need to find out what "hide the cookie" really means.

 

[snowy ciara]

Keep it up and i'll whisper to RR, Marquis and a few others that some subbies around here need to find out what "hide the cookie" really means.

i will not endure a crumb/my blowjob in bed.

But that would imply that other crumb/my sex acts are okay? I'm sooooo confused.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

But that would imply that other crumb/my sex acts are okay? I'm sooooo confused.

Stick to animal crackers.

Lions and tigers and bears, oh MY!

 

[snowy ciara]

Stick to animal crackers.

Lions and tigers and bears, oh MY!

I'm a sub Jim, not an ARK!

 

[graceanne]

I'm a sub Jim, not an ARK!

*giggles* Now their's a mental picture.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I'm a sub Jim, not an ARK!

If i remember correctly, you don't swim at all, therefore you're neither.

*tosses gracie in the pool to search for snowy at the bottom*

 

[snowy ciara]

You remember correctly. I don't even like more than 4 inches of water in my bubble bath.

Wheeeee.. posting and pain killers make for the most interesting combo! Too bad the pain killers don't kill the fucking pain!

Sorry for the language folks...

 

[graceanne]

If i remember correctly, you don't swim at all, therefore you're neither.

*tosses gracie in the pool to search for snowy at the bottom*

Thanks snowy - now I'm all wet . . . and not in a good way.