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[sincerely_helene]

Doubt it will fly, but we will see.

I don't post as frequently as many, but not from lack of effort. In fact, sometimes I spend a considerable amount of time with carefully contemplated sentences, and occasionally even refer to my Websters to ensure I have selected just the right word to express myself.

My problem? I initially intend the posts to be concise, on topic, and as non-confrontational as possible. I can't quite explain it, but somehow midway through typing that one profound sentence I had anticipated, my thought process drifts to another even more profound idea.

Before you know it, I'm rambling, have strayed from the thread entirely, or am ready to draw blood from another previous poster who is guilty of nothing more than stating an honest opinion.

The result? Several wasted minutes of typing, deleting, retyping, and then at the last minute opting to not hit send at all.

How about you? Are you one of those fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants posters I envy?

Reluctant posters, now is the time to conquer your fears the S_H way! Go on and hit 'copy' before you delete that next reply, and post your words of wisdom here. It doesn't really matter if the thought ended up off track or you never finished composing it. I'll even go first. Taken from an 'almost reply' of mine in the BDSM talk section, (I think topic had something to do with forcing head and anal, but in my mind it morphed into some sort of weird 'Dangerous Liaison' fantasy,) I give you 'the post.':


"Physical interaction aside, I thrive off passion. I don't think I could truely feel fulfilled in a relationship without that, and to me that does involve some degree of a power struggle. When I consider November Rain's question in those terms, I can certainly understand the appeal. There is something about the idea of being 'conquered' that perks my interest as well, (though more on a mental/emotional spectrum then the intended query.)

I suppose I have grown to view things more as a certain level of being, as opposed to an assigned label ei:sub/domme/switch. What I mean is, I could go through years with a consistant pattern of relationships in which I possess primary control, thus confirming what society classifies a dominant woman. However, a week from now I could also meet another of stronger will and find myself unwittingly (or even wittingly,) suddenly quite willing to surrender all control over to him.

Have I submitted to him? Without a doubt.
Does that make me a submissive person? Not in my opinion.

Now if I try to wrap my head around these same feelings in a strictly BDSM sense as per your original question, I can see where there would be an enticing tingle in..."

O.k. Your turn.

 

[Marquis]

What the hell are you talking about?

Was there supposed to be something wrong with that selection?

 

[sincerely_helene]

What the hell are you talking about?

Was there supposed to be something wrong with that selection?

It was meant to be a simple, one sentence response to do with the topic at hand. Granted I'm certain it probably fit in with a hundred other threads in that section of the board, but I somehow connected the idea of forcing a sexual encounter with the mental aspect of the dominant and submissive dynamic.

It was quite clearly a near threadjack, in my opinion. Apples and oranges, right?

 

[Marquis]

Helene, you are a good girl. Don't worry so much, Daddy loves you.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Helene, you are a good girl. Don't worry so much, Daddy loves you.

... Said the fanged man with the horns.

 

[Quint]

So is this the forum's b-side? The posts that almost made it? Groovy idea! Can we also post things that we thought of posting before realizing they were uncharacteristically snotty and would forever alienate us from our fellow posters? Not that I...um...have any of those posts...heh, heh.

 

[h_i_s]

Some do.

i think there's already a thread that covers that one, Quint.
Smart Alec Answers

Who's gonna stop anyone from posting what they want where ever they choose though? *shrugs*

 

[sincerely_helene]

So is this the forum's b-side? The posts that almost made it? Groovy idea! Can we also post things that we thought of posting before realizing they were uncharacteristically snotty and would forever alienate us from our fellow posters? Not that I...um...have any of those posts...heh, heh.

Most certainly!!! Wait, did I sound a little too excited there? I meant, *sigh* very well.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Some do.

i think there's already a thread that covers that one, Quint.
Smart Alec Answers

Who's gonna stop anyone from posting what they want where ever they choose though? *shrugs*

I don't think they are all that similar. Isn't that one specifically for thread titles, and smart alec responses to them?

I guess you could kind of look at it as a more serious version of that. Bascially, if you have something you wanted to say but didn't for whatever reason ei: fell off topic, needed to vent some thoughts maybe not totally related to the discussion, rambled on but still felt you made some valid points and just wasn't into starting a whole new thread about it, this could be a place to do it.

Just random, but useful tid bits. You don't even have to state the thread it was originally related to.

And, you are right. We always have the choice to post wherever we want. I try not to make threadjacking a habit out of respect to the poster, though (even though I'm guilty of it from time to time,) and thought maybe there were others out there like me.

 

[h_i_s]

I don't think they are all that similar. Isn't that one specifically for thread titles, and smart alec responses to them?

I guess you could kind of look at it as a more serious version of that. Bascially, if you have something you wanted to say but didn't for whatever reason ei: fell off topic, needed to vent some thoughts maybe not totally related to the discussion, rambled on but still felt you made some valid points and just wasn't into starting a whole new thread about it, this could be a place to do it.

Just random, but useful tid bits. You don't even have to state the thread it was originally related to.

And, you are right. We always have the choice to post wherever we want. I try not to make threadjacking a habit out of respect to the poster, though (even though I'm guilty of it from time to time,) and thought maybe there were others out there like me.

Yeah, the other thread IS more about the title. True.
This thread could become particularly interesting should some choose to just say exactly what's on their mind (snotty or not .. heh).
i think you're onto something here. Good idea.
Now it may take me days ... weeks even, to summons up anything randomly snotty, or off topic ... but i'm certain i can at least try. Then again, maybe not. Many times i'm mistaken as being snotty even when not intentionally setting out to be.

Backspacing .. now that i CAN do. i typo more than i actually type.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Yeah, the other thread IS more about the title. True.
This thread could become particularly interesting should some choose to just say exactly what's on their mind (snotty or not .. heh).
i think you're onto something here. Good idea.
Now it may take me days ... weeks even, to summons up anything randomly snotty, or off topic ... but i'm certain i can at least try. Then again, maybe not. Many times i'm mistaken as being snotty even when not intentionally setting out to be.

Backspacing .. now that i CAN do. i typo more than i actually type.

Maybe not so many do the last minute hesitate/delete thing as I thought. My posts usually start out great, but end up a big ol' brain fart with one or two valid points actually mixed in the mess of blatherings. Then I make it dissapear.

 

[h_i_s]

Many times my posts end up being very long winded & bloated, and as a result, before i click the submit button i grab chunks of text and slim the replies down a bit. Or sometimes, i change my mind in deciding not to share what it was i typed. i end up doing the same thing, yep.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Maybe not so many do the last minute hesitate/delete thing as I thought. My posts usually start out great, but end up a big ol' brain fart with one or two valid points actually mixed in the mess of blatherings. Then I make it dissapear.

Oh we do, then think better of it and simply log off to cool off, or get laid.

Can i say get laid here? Wait, this is a porn board. Of course i can say get laid. In fact (if i wanted to) i could say swing from the chandeliers by duct tape with tweezers in one hand and BBQ tongs in the other, but then i'd get all hot and bothered and have to get my blood supply back under control.

Wait, what the hell was i thinking about getting back under control. i just had a wonderful inspiration concerning Q-tips and rubbing alcohol. See you all in a bit.

 

[serijules]

I do this often. I probably will for this post as well and entirely miss the point.

*delete*

Yup, I missed the point.

 

[h_i_s]

Oh we do, then think better of it and simply log off to cool off, or get laid.

Can i say get laid here? Wait, this is a porn board. Of course i can say get laid. In fact (if i wanted to) i could say swing from the chandeliers by duct tape with tweezers in one hand and BBQ tongs in the other, but then i'd get all hot and bothered and have to get my blood supply back under control.

Wait, what the hell was i thinking about getting back under control. i just had a wonderful inspiration concerning Q-tips and rubbing alcohol. See you all in a bit.

Yeah, of course you could say it. Wouldn't (yep backspacing has occured right now, right here .....)

 

[shy slave]

Helene

Post it all,

When threads bring new issues into play it makes it more interesting and develops it further as oppose to being limited by the thread title or being hijacked into fluff ramblings (yes, I can say that I am guilty of doing that at times)

We don't use the delete button in R/L conversations (although there have many times I have wished that option had been there).

In r/l conversations flow and ebb into a myraid of things from a single thought process.

Now a slight hijack


Where have the ducks gone?
Did he fall into your top and suffocate???


Please bring back the ducks

 

[Milambus]

The result? Several wasted minutes of typing, deleting, retyping, and then at the last minute opting to not hit send at all.

Yup, I do this quite often. More on other forums than this one though.

I'll spend 20 mins typing out a response.. then just decide that its not worth making the post (especially if I know it will cause a controversy) and just delete it.

 

[graceanne]

LOL I do this all the time. Sometimes I'll read over it and think it sounds snotty, and I didn't mean that. And sometimes I MEANT it to sound snotty, but I decide I don't want to deal with the argument that will come from what I typed.

Other times it's cause I started rambling, or I put more information in the post than I feel is anyne's business.

 

[serijules]

This is the only forum I've ever participated in that cares about hijacking.

Most forums consider it normal eb and flow of conversation. heh

 

[graceanne]

This is the only forum I've ever participated in that cares about hijacking.

Most forums consider it normal eb and flow of conversation. heh

I'm a horrible hijacker. LOL Doesn't bother me, though. I also consider it a normal part of the thread.

 

[shy slave]

I'm a horrible hijacker. LOL Doesn't bother me, though. I also consider it a normal part of the thread.

Your not a horrible hijacker,

You do it really well.

Its one of your skills

 

[graceanne]

Your not a horrible hijacker,

You do it really well.

Its one of your skills

Thank you. You too.

 

[h_i_s]

Ah, come on now. Ever think that if they were over rather than under .. some would instead say, "Oh, well ... i BET that is how they got that way too."?

eyes the backspace key ..

Because Quint had posed the idea that this is a place where we can also post things that we thought of posting before realizing they were uncharacteristically snotty ....( rather than backspacing and or not posting it at all ... i guess ). and i'm gonna click the submit button now before i change my mind ..... again.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

Following Helene

OK, here is a thread I've been meaning to start but no clue if I can express the thoughts clearly enough.

"The TAO of BDSM"

What does it mean to be Dominant, or submisive or Master or slave or Mistress or pet boy or such? I see often things like "that is YOUR BDSM but MINE is ....." and so on and so forth. What are the roots, the essence, not a clinical dictionary definition but more of the "come to the dungeon, grasshopper, and learn of the ways of the ancients"

Any koans, parables, or anecdotes to reveal the inner mysteries, or more likely how you search and what you've found as you carve out your life for yourself?

Damn a religious education degree that didn't get into sexual deviancy!

 

[Quint]

OK, here is a thread I've been meaning to start but no clue if I can express the thoughts clearly enough.

"The TAO of BDSM"

What does it mean to be Dominant, or submisive or Master or slave or Mistress or pet boy or such? I see often things like "that is YOUR BDSM but MINE is ....." and so on and so forth. What are the roots, the essence, not a clinical dictionary definition but more of the "come to the dungeon, grasshopper, and learn of the ways of the ancients"

Any koans, parables, or anecdotes to reveal the inner mysteries, or more likely how you search and what you've found as you carve out your life for yourself?

Damn a religious education degree that didn't get into sexual deviancy!

Yes...

"We eat what we like!"