Two part question

[Beck31]

Hey. Kinda wanted an opinion on this. I have bi-polar 2 disorder and am a sub/puppy with a mistress/owner. A bro of mine who does not dabble in the lifestyle questioned if this was a good combination for me. Personally I do not see a conflict. I am in a much better place than two years ago by the way and I don't feel any harm has been done.

2. How do I explain to someone not in the lifestyle what is all about? It is not abuse b/c both myself and my mistress are consenting adults. My sister has been reading "50 Shades of Gray" which is probably not the best source but
at least tries to understand. I can't seem to explain to my bro though without getting a bit stroppy (short tempered). Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

 

[KinkedKitty]

There is absolutely no conflict between being bipolar and a sub. Just remember, your Mistress/Owner needs to know such- just so if you show signs of being bipolar, she'll know what is wrong.

To the second part, you first need to be very calm. Maybe have your Mistress/Owner with you (if possible) to explain it to the said person. Explain that you both know what you're doing, and the real meaning of BDSM/Bondage is that both parties experienced pleasure through different techniques. If you feel comfortable, walk your brother through some of the practices you and your Mistress/Owner participate in. Let him feel comfortable with the phrase "no harm done."

Hope that helps.

 

[Beck31]

Thank you. Yes that does help. Good advice from a nice kitty.

 

[desertslave]

I'm not bipolar but the way I've explained it when I've had to is that it balances me out. Working through the pain, bringing my submissive aspect to the foreground, surrendering control...they all work together to level me off and de-stress me in a pleasurable and productive way. Master knows when I'm wound too tight, and works me just right to make me unravel and cry. It's pure catharsis.

 

[Beck31]

I like that. I too feel balanced or centered when my mistress and I interact.
That is a good way to describe it. I think most dominates can tell when their
subs are upset or wound up and will do what it takes to calm their subs. I don't
think my mistress has ever made me cry tho. Like on talking to people, my mistress won't tell me not to talk to people she just has a list of those people I can play with. Something my brother doesn't get. Thank you for your imput. That is much appreciated.

 

[Redkate]

I'm not bipolar but the way I've explained it when I've had to is that it balances me out. Working through the pain, bringing my submissive aspect to the foreground, surrendering control...they all work together to level me off and de-stress me in a pleasurable and productive way. Master knows when I'm wound too tight, and works me just right to make me unravel and cry. It's pure catharsis.

That sounds similar to my reaction. I have depression and anxiety and if I'm ever too anxious and have a bad reaction the scene is stopped until I've calmed an oughta continue. I sometimes feel a bit down a few days after an excellent session but that's probably because the high from the session has worn off and it's time for another

 

[Beck31]

it sounds as if ur master or mistress left u in the zone too long.

 

[CutieMouse]

Are you being treated for the bi-polar II?

 

[Beck31]

two part question

yes. meds plus monthly counciling with a therepist.

 

[Redkate]

Probably not that. I have anxiety attacks if I'm in a shopping center sometimes. It's just me. I'm ok 95% of the time, but it can happen any time, anywhere.

 

[Beck31]

two part question

Ah. Okay. I gotcha. Anxiety attacks are not fun.

 

[Redkate]

Nope. But I'm getting better with strategies for preventing them and recognizing whats happening. Meds and therapy helps

 

[BiBunny]

There's a mental illness thread on the forum, if anyone thinks that checking it out might help them.

 

[Beck31]

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Nope. But I'm getting better with strategies for preventing them and recognizing whats happening. Meds and therapy helps

Thats good. i agree that meds and therepy help. I take an anti-depressent
and get therepy as well.

 

[Beck31]

two part question

There's a mental illness thread on the forum, if anyone thinks that checking it out might help them.

Thanks. I'll check it out.

 

[Stella_Omega]

There's actually a little book that might help people understand;
http://www.greenerypress.com/kinky.htm

And there is also the option of telling people that your love life is not really their business-- and then making sure that you keep it out of their faces.

 

[Beck31]

Very good point. Thank you. That is very true. Besides I am not sure that my bro really wants to know and there are things that are best kept between my
mistress and I.