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Cheyenne
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You're looking for excuses why things won't work instead of for ways to MAKE them work.Mistress said:
If you're not working at your job hunt at least 8 hours a day, you aren't really looking for a job. You're waiting for one to find you. Right now your job should be finding a job!
*This has been tough love from a former outplacement user. A few more times than I like to remember.*
[Edited by Cheyenne on 05-15-2001 at 10:06 PM]
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Addendum to previous post
To find my peace,I am moving to the same town Mistress wants to leave. Interesting , no?
(Psssttt , Hey Mistress, I know I spelled it wrong the other day in the email...it has been bugging me ever since)
To find my peace,I am moving to the same town Mistress wants to leave. Interesting , no?
(Psssttt , Hey Mistress, I know I spelled it wrong the other day in the email...it has been bugging me ever since)
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Number 1. There is no way id leave the people ive met in my short lifetime. I care and cherrish them wayy to much. Ive had a lot of bumps along the road but theres no way even with happier times would I choose that over what I have now.
Just seems kinda selfish to me. Or maybe im just not reading the questions right.
Just seems kinda selfish to me. Or maybe im just not reading the questions right.
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Mistress said:
More excuses. Yes, there is a way to work at it 8 hours a day. Whether it is researching companies on the internet at home, sending resumes with cover letters by email, working on your interview questions and practicing your answers, etc. it all counts as part of your job hunt effort. So does networking with employeed people to look for leads to jobs that aren't ever published anywhere before they are filled. And folowing up all those resumes you HAVE sent with phone calls to let the companies know you really are interested! 8 hours. Try it.
Time spent at Lit does not count as job hunting, by the way. It is still useful for stress reduction though.
*more tough love- because she CAN do it if she puts her mind to it. I know she can!*
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Adoratrice said:Addendum to previous post
To find my peace,I am moving to the same town Mistress wants to leave. Interesting , no?
(Psssttt , Hey Mistress, I know I spelled it wrong the other day in the email...it has been bugging me ever since)
Shame on you...would it be vain to mention that my great great great great and so on grandfather founded that town?
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ahhhhh what a small world ...it is possible that we are related by marriage my dear. What a hoot.
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Cheyenne said:
Really it's not excuses, and the places that I hand walk the resumes into I do call. The others are sent to a anon. P.O. Box which does not give a phone number. I have sent a few resumes by E-Mail as well. And if anyone hasn't noticed, I have not been spending all day at Lit lately. As for networking, that doesn't happen in a small town unless you consider it "I heard from so and so that they might need help at so and so place, want me to call them and see?"
So you see, it's more difficult then you think it is, I don't have a car, I don't drive, I have to depend on others to suport me and take me where I need to go. I am limited to my resources, I am making the best of it I can.
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I can't drive, have to depend entirely on others for transportation, live 4 miles from one job and 8 from the other. I live in a town with no public transportation, by the way. My hubby is doing some major inpatient therapy for post traumatic stress, I have epilepsy, I have to live with my father in law who insists on going shirtless and I consequently spend my time at home naseated. I am the sole support of my family. Still, despite the stress and my health problems, I have two jobs.
See? You don't have a corner on the severe stumbling blocks to employment and emotional well being. Not that I'm implying that I thought you thought you did. I do understand that you aren't selfish and you don't think that you do.
The only thing stopping you from getting a job is you. And, if you'd found some direction in your life already (been there done that thing like you sorta said) then you wouldn't be wondering what to do now. You can do it, you just have to do it.
That means get past your depression. Get up in the morning, go fora nice brisk walk. Always helps me.
See? You don't have a corner on the severe stumbling blocks to employment and emotional well being. Not that I'm implying that I thought you thought you did. I do understand that you aren't selfish and you don't think that you do.
The only thing stopping you from getting a job is you. And, if you'd found some direction in your life already (been there done that thing like you sorta said) then you wouldn't be wondering what to do now. You can do it, you just have to do it.
That means get past your depression. Get up in the morning, go fora nice brisk walk. Always helps me.
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Mistress said:
Wrong. Networking goes on EVERYWHERE. What you described is a form of networking, yes. Following up and doing your homework on the company you heard had the opening is your job. Trying to find someone you know who has a contact inside that company and can get you in, that's also your job. Networking gets you leads, it doesn't do all the work for you to put a job in your lap.
It isn't really more difficult than I think it is. You aren't dumb, Mistress. But you need to be more creative in your job hunt approach than you have been so far. I won't be around for a few days, but if you're interested in any tips/help, email me and I'll contact you next week when I get back.
You CAN do it.
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Mistress said:
Yes it is,,, but you need to just step beyond that mind set and figure that it will be better in near future,,, option #2 is generally the best one,,, you are more dependant on yourself and less on someone else to determine what it is that makes you happy
Option #1 will generally just make your unhappiness all that more deep seated and soon resentment will set in with all the nastiness that it can bring along.
Been there,,, done both,,, #2 seemed to work out so much nicer.
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The military idea went out the door as soon as they found out about my heart problem....so thats a no go.
And, I am a very dependent person, I admit that. I am not independent at all, I never have been and more then likely never will be. I have always needed someone to lean on in the background, one way or another.
Anyways, I just thtought I'd ask everyone, thank you for your comments but...I'm afraid it doesn't make the process any easier this way. If I pick up and move, knowing that it will more then liekly be better for alot of reasons and not just for the work, I will be leaving behind many people I love and care for. I will also be hurting people, I have siblings that depend on me to be around when they need me. I have a new born baby brother, who I have vowed to be around as he grows as well. I also have another half, I wouldn't say 'better half' but he's there. Yet, I have to do something...and soon, I can't take much more of doing nothing.
And, I am a very dependent person, I admit that. I am not independent at all, I never have been and more then likely never will be. I have always needed someone to lean on in the background, one way or another.
Anyways, I just thtought I'd ask everyone, thank you for your comments but...I'm afraid it doesn't make the process any easier this way. If I pick up and move, knowing that it will more then liekly be better for alot of reasons and not just for the work, I will be leaving behind many people I love and care for. I will also be hurting people, I have siblings that depend on me to be around when they need me. I have a new born baby brother, who I have vowed to be around as he grows as well. I also have another half, I wouldn't say 'better half' but he's there. Yet, I have to do something...and soon, I can't take much more of doing nothing.
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Yeah, I got nosy and came and hunted down the topic
I say follow your heart, you never know what will happen. You just have to prepare yourself for whatever stumbling blocks may arise and decide NOW if you want to jump them. Whichever you chose, make sure you stay true to yourself and your decision, don't let people make your mind up for you, and don't worry about what anyone says, its YOUR life and no one can live it for you.
Nem
Yeah, I got nosy and came and hunted down the topic
I say follow your heart, you never know what will happen. You just have to prepare yourself for whatever stumbling blocks may arise and decide NOW if you want to jump them. Whichever you chose, make sure you stay true to yourself and your decision, don't let people make your mind up for you, and don't worry about what anyone says, its YOUR life and no one can live it for you.
Nem
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