Turning on the mind

[SusanneS]

Could anyone point me to a thread where the basics of turning someone on without physical stimulation are explained.
Thanks

Or discuss it here if you like.
What do you do / say to drive your SO wild all day long when you can't be actually getting down to business because of work or kids or whatever reason?
What are the mental things that leave you dripping wet (F) or nice and hard (M)?

 

[Quoll]

Could anyone point me to a thread where the basics of turning someone on without physical stimulation are explained.
Thanks

Or discuss it here if you like.
What do you do / say to drive your SO wild all day long when you can't be actually getting down to business because of work or kids or whatever reason?
What are the mental things that leave you dripping wet (F) or nice and hard (M)?

As a great start go Here

 

[SusanneS]

As a great start go Here

Thanks, I've been there, but couldn't find what I was looking for.
This is for someone to whom it hasn't ever even occured to try to turn another one on by using anything but physical stuff.

 

[OutofKYGuy]

There are two How To's that I would recommend. How to Appreciate a Man and How to Appreciate a Woman. It might not seem like much, but letting someone feel appreciated in a personal way is great for easing them up. This is probably true for any slump in a relationship, including not being in one.

After that, just be sexy and interesting in pleasing your SO by pleasing yourself. Be happy and self confident. How do you expect to arouse them if you're too busy worrying about it?

If all else fails, be blunt. Tell them that you want them...Now. There is a "How to Pillow Talk" essay. But you'll have to mean it.

 

[silverwhisper]

susanne: this will vary depending upon the personality and attitude of the target so knowing the target's turn-ons (and more importantly, turn-offs!) are absolutely critical. what type of erotic/sensual/sexual stuff excites the target? very romantic? hardcore? variable?

am i inferring correctly that you're essentially talking about dirty talk and the art of how to do it*?

ed

*i think i just found a new blog topic.

 

[kaledonia]

I know what you mean..

..I tried to start a fantasy thread a while back and got nowhere. the mind is the largest errogenous zone, and the thought pathways once developed can almost take over from physical sex. one piece of advice that works occasionally for me is a tantric one. you imagine tunnels leading backwards and upwards from inside your eyeballs, and once they intersect, (used to be known as the third eye) link it with your genital hotspots in your mind. gives me a rush just writing it!

 

[SweetErika]

..I tried to start a fantasy thread a while back and got nowhere.

I just looked at that thread, and think it might do better in The Playground, where there's more traffic and an environment conducive to sharing such things. You might consider re-posting it over there (maybe with the title in question-format to encourage participation), and see if you get more responses.

 

[intriguess]

usually a quick message of

i miss you

i want you

i need you

or being more specific about what you want to do to your SO, or my fave is clearing away as many distractions as possible before meeting up so neither is thinking of all the other things that need to be done

 

[londonaberdeen]

I'll send her a text message from my work something like :

Do not make dinner for when I get home as I need to fuck you. Then I'll make dinner while you have a bath. After dinner I will give you long sensual massage followed by a night of love.


Not done that in a while. mmm

 

[wylieok]

forget making dinner, just order in.....and make the shower for two with body massages afterwards.