Turning back the clock...

[MissTaken]

Psyche!
This isn't about daylight savings time.

If you could turn back the clock,

six months

one year

ten years


what might you have done differently?
Are their choices that you have naggin regrets about?

 

[LittleJoe]

If I could turn the clock back I wouldn't have let my wife drive the night of the accident. If i could, I would take her place right now.

 

[Soblue]

This did remind me to turn back my clocks though, thanks

I'd have quit smoking years ago if I could turn back the clock. That's about it for regrets in my life.

 

[unclej]

i probably wouldn't have married my second ex. that was an expensive one both emotionally and financially.

 

[Chuckus]

I would have NEVER picked up cigarettes.

That's the only thing I wish I could change.

I live my life No Regrets style.............my only regret is "trying to be cool by smoking"

 

[MissTaken]

If I could turn the clock back I wouldn't have let my wife drive the night of the accident. If i could, I would take her place right now.

I am not sure what to say, but I do believe all things happen for a reason. Even though, that reason isn't always made clear to us.

hugs to you

 

[MissTaken]

This did remind me to turn back my clocks though, thanks

I'd have quit smoking years ago if I could turn back the clock. That's about it for regrets in my life.

Hmm and there is still time?

 

[MissTaken]

i probably wouldn't have married my second ex. that was an expensive one both emotionally and financially.

Yeah...at ten years, I wouldn't have married the man I did.

OH well...live and learn.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I would have NEVER picked up cigarettes.

That's the only thing I wish I could change.

I live my life No Regrets style.............my only regret is "trying to be cool by smoking"

Ditto.

I can't regret my marriage because without it, I wouldn't have my children.

 

[Chuckus]

Ditto.

^5 to Ruby.

Rock on sister.

 

[MissTaken]

Ya...I guess the "regretful" moments are all part of who we are.

If we are essentially happy with who we are, then how can there be regrets.

 

[Chuckus]

All things good and bad, collectively make us who we are. Without them, all experiences we would not be who we are.

 

[MissTaken]

All things good and bad, collectively make us who we are. Without them, all experiences we would not be who we are.

So, why does it take so many years to realize this?

 

[LukkyKnight]

Right again, rubylicious one.

Ditto.

I can't regret my marriage because without it, I wouldn't have my children.

Exactly. The fact that the outcome is not picture-perfect faery tale romance doesn't mean the entirety of a marriage was a bad thing.

LittleJoe:
Live now, participate in today. Grieve the loss as you must, and keep her in your memory - that is where true immortality resides.

 

[Chuckus]

So, why does it take so many years to realize this?

Because we are humans and must learn. (Thru trial and error)

 

[calypso_21]

Psyche!
This isn't about daylight savings time.

If you could turn back the clock,

six months

one year

ten years


what might you have done differently?
Are their choices that you have naggin regrets about?

Not one damn fucking thing. I'm where I would have been no matter what choices I made. I am me. In the end that is all that matters. The choices are just a learning experience. I'd be a fool to change them. It would show I learned nothing. This is my own opinion.

Everything that happens leads us to a place we are meant to be (this is my own philosophy you may feel differently).

 

[Soblue]

Hi Little Joe.

I didn't catch your post the first time, I am very sorry to hear about your wife. Take care.

 

[Jimi]

Gee, "T" - you are S-O-O-O cute.

Ya...I guess the "regretful" moments are all part of who we are.

If we are essentially happy with who we are, then how can there be regrets.

NOW you're talkin'

Only regrets - started smoking after 10 years off - and could use a bit "MO money".

 

[theGatsby]

I regret nothing, well maybe some little things here and there, or one or two big things

But ultimately all of what I have done, seen, all who I have met, all my choices have lead me directly to where and who I am today. I am very comfortable with who I am and where I am going.

 

[ma_guy]

I don't have many regrets. I tend to over-think things most times and maybe I've trusted a few people with things over the years that came back to bite me in teh ass but otherwise... Nope.. Regrets are to much work. Let it go...

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Gatsby....

a friend from long ago seemed to have named his cat with your name after reading the book.

I find it clever of you to use the location as East Egg but as in the book Gatsby was never truly content with what he had. If you think about it life is in constant motion with ups and downs. We adjust and get comfortable but then there is a curve ball that makes us question or doubt oneself.

I am happy that at least one kindred spirit has found peace and comfort in who they are. Just be careful when there is a twist in life. You will draw from that stregnth when it does.

Again I like the inuendo and reference from the novel. So do you feel you live your life like Fitzgerald.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[theGatsby]

I should be so lucky as to be compared to Fitzgerald! When I summon the courage to complete and post a story I can only hope and pray that comparison remains true.

Jay Gatsby was a lost soul chasing a past he only dreamed of having. I am not that person, I chase a future I dream of creating, from a past of lessons I've learned. When life steps into it's stance and tosses a curve ball, I try to adjust my swing and knock a line drive right back to the pitcher. I've become a curveball hitter, through trial and error.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Little Joe

We cannot change destiny. There has to be a reason why you lived and she did not. I am not saying that it is an easy thing to accept. I can imagine it sucks and the pain can be unbearable. Realize that the love you two share is always there and she would not have wanted you to be in pain. If it was reversed she probably would be thinking the same thing you are now. That the roles were reversed, and it would of been her than you.

Live your life for that is what she would want of you. Make the best you can from day to day as you always keep her in your heart, mind and soul. She is with you!

I hope in time that the pain eases and the light of day shines upon you. Grieving is not an easy process and in time it will get easier. The pain will be there but it will get easier. Do not beat yourself up for what happened.

Many hugs and sincere sympathy.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Gatsby positive thinking....

we do have to learn from our past. Hence all of the Social Studies classes we had to learn in our youth. We also have to accept the things that we could not change. Know the things we can and understand the difference. Something along the line of the serenity prayer. There are a lot of meaning in those lines.

I know there are many pathes in my life that I have taken and in retrospect I wish I would of taken the longer road or the easier road from time to time. The reality is they were choices I made and things I have to learn from and live with. All in all things have been good. I have had many opportunities and I know I will in the future. This time I hope I make the most of some of them. To live life not by simply breathing but by living and enjoying the surroundings about. Not so easy as we get caught up in life.

Jay Gatsby is an everyman. WE all get caught up with a dream from our youth. In a way I am a lost soul as he is from time to time searching for something I am not sure is tangible. Again is it a dream, perhaps. All I know it is my dream and I am happy to have them back for I lost them for a bit.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[theGatsby]

Excellent point Tulips. I agree it is easy to get caught in the dreams of our past, I have been there as I suspect each and everyone of us has. I think that may be why one of my favorite Hemingway quotes is:

"Isn't it pretty to think so."