I like to flirt and have had a couple girlfriends, but I'm afraid to flirt with a lot of girls because I don't know if they have a boyfriend or not. Or maybe they don't like me and will reject me. I don't really know what I'm trying to ask, but hopefully one of you can give me some advice.
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dude who cares if they got a b/f? if he comes up to acting tuff kick him square in the nuts it's funny as hel to seem go down and if she rejects you don't act liek you care be liek ok whatever or say really loud NO I WILL NOT FUCK/HAVE SEX WITH YOU! or YOUR A GUY?!? hehe have fun
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James, please do not go around kicking girls' boyfriends in the balls. That is one of the most ridiculous pieces of advice I've ever heard. Nor would I suggest you demean a girl who brushes you off.
As a woman, I don't think I can really help you with how to cope after you've been rejected. I've always been thankful I wasn't a guy in that regard. Because of that I've never been cruel to a man who was putting himself out there and trying to catch my attention. But I know that there are some women out there who like to make the guys feel small.
I think that you just have to try. If the girl's boyfriend shows up angry, my advice is to back off with your hands in the air and apologize, explaining that you didn't know she was attached. YOu might also say something like, "You're one lucky guy, man." Something like that. Make him feel like he's the winner and you might avoid a nasty confrontation.
You sound young, James. That's okay. We were all young once. I think that the only way to learn is to practice. Experience is the best teacher. I wish you the best of luck.
As a woman, I don't think I can really help you with how to cope after you've been rejected. I've always been thankful I wasn't a guy in that regard. Because of that I've never been cruel to a man who was putting himself out there and trying to catch my attention. But I know that there are some women out there who like to make the guys feel small.
I think that you just have to try. If the girl's boyfriend shows up angry, my advice is to back off with your hands in the air and apologize, explaining that you didn't know she was attached. YOu might also say something like, "You're one lucky guy, man." Something like that. Make him feel like he's the winner and you might avoid a nasty confrontation.
You sound young, James. That's okay. We were all young once. I think that the only way to learn is to practice. Experience is the best teacher. I wish you the best of luck.
Whispersecret said:
Thanks Whispersecret, your advice was actually very helpful. And thank you for not putting it like the other guy did about kicking them in the balls, although I understand he was only trying to help in his own way. I guess I'm going to just have to work at getting over this fear. Thanks again for your help.
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Glad to have helped. I think a girl would be lucky to have you flirt with her.
I think a girl would be lucky to have you flirt with her.
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LOL. I suppose that if you kick the boyfriend in the balls, then he's out of commission for a while, leaving you healthy and hearty and able to bang her, eh? Interesting strategy.
Seriously, I've never been in a situation that warranted someone getting kicked in the balls. That seems like a drastic measure.
Seriously, I've never been in a situation that warranted someone getting kicked in the balls. That seems like a drastic measure.
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No, see, Whispersecret, it's a mating strategy:
If our friend James walks up to some guy with a girlfriend and kicks that guy in the balls, he has just proved to that girl that her boyfriend would not be able to defend her if some guy walked up and decided to kick HER. Therefore, she would run away with the more virile specimen, ball-kicker James.
I've been spending too much time in my Primate Sexuality class.
If our friend James walks up to some guy with a girlfriend and kicks that guy in the balls, he has just proved to that girl that her boyfriend would not be able to defend her if some guy walked up and decided to kick HER. Therefore, she would run away with the more virile specimen, ball-kicker James.
I've been spending too much time in my Primate Sexuality class.
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I see. I must watch Animal Planet more often.
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James84 said:
Even though I suspect you might be a tad too young to be allowed to log onto the board and not get our most gracious hosts into trouble. Here's my 2 cents worth.
Easiest way to find out if a girl likes you, barring asking directly?? Become friends with them. n your case schoolwork could be a way to get to know them better, either because they're better at the subject than you are or the reverse. Studying together is a perfect excuse to get to know someone. Later on once the friendship has progressed a tad, than ask questions about what women want to see in the males they date. Slowly but surely you could use this tactic to find out what she likes, if it matches what you've got to offer, then after some more time has passed and you've noted that she's still without a boyfriend. Then ask her out to a movie as a thank you for helping you with the subject, or in case of you being the teacher, a reward ofr catching on so quickly and thoroughly. Then take it from there.
Friendship first, then flirt. Though I must adit, that flirtation can lead to friendship too. Depends upon the lady in question and whether or not you're willing to risk looking foolish.
Being able to make a lady laugh is also always a good quality to have which can also be an indicator if a lady likes you or not.
