Try This & Report Back

[Phalanx1710]

I tried this on my girlfriend last night.... and oh MY she went crazy!
She was squirming and kicking all over the place.

One tip, though.... as weird as it may seem to say it, this technique didn't work on her when she was drunk. She simply got bored.

I recommend using this technique after you've been down on your partner. Go down on her, make her orgasm, then use this technique, then give her a clitoral orgasm with your fingers and she will love you forever.

We had the best 2 hours of snuggling that I've ever had, afterwards.

She'll love it, and if you love her then so will you!

 

[shy slave]

Wanted who to come, exactly?

Ummmm errrrrr......

No-one, no-one at all.

I was a virgin when we met.......


Honest, it is true.

*off to get a ladder to help me out of the hole I have dug for myself*

 

[MR.GGG]

I keep saying ...

... that we're ALL different BUT ... Ladies, some input please. Can I see a show of hands. Everybody who thinks orgasms especially very looong ones or orgasms that repeat over and over again are a BAD thing?

*looking* looking*

I do NOT see a lot of hands ....

Methinks you have some problems that are a tad more specific to YOU than just being a bit different. EVERY-time I've received PMs or Emails about NOT liking what this technique would / could do it has turned out to be some teenage BOY trying to get me to describe filthy sex acts so he can pretend to have tities and pull on his tiny wang thang. The other ones are women who NEVER HAVE CUM - through any sex act or masturbation even. Either poster, knowing NOTHING of which they speak or criticize seem oddly out of place making negative statements about The Technique.

I'm NOT saying anybody who doesn't like the technique is weird or a guy or sexually dysfunctional but that seems to be the trend from people who post stuff like :

"" I would hate it if he tried this technique on me. It would be my idea of torture.""

You don't sound like you have ever been tortured either.

""Ummm emptynester, I think a woman can fake that whole muscle clenching thing. Considering it can vary in intensity I am sure levels of it can be faked. I know I have managed it in the past when ""

Another observation. The normal orgasmic muscle contraction can sometimes be faked. With G-Gasms the contractions are often more of a spasm than a contraction and I would LOVE to meet a woman who has the ability to cause her vagina to SPASM like that. In fact I think most men would marry her on the spot.

What it sounds like is you have one LOUSY sex life (""I just wanted him to cum and be finished.""). Have never really derived ANY pleasure from sex with your guy(s) and not really understanding what an orgasm actually feels like, considers the Technique sort of an extended painful, boring and useless intercourse alternative - an exercise in poking you in a place that doesn't do much for you on a good day.

Am I way off base here ?

What I wonder is why wouldn't you USE the knowledge shared by so many in here, try and educate your partner and improve your love life instead of exposing your crappy sex life by making such a negative comment?

 

[emptynester]

I would hate it if he tried this technique on me.

It would be my idea of torture.

Ummm emptynester, I think a woman can fake that whole muscle clenching thing. Considering it can vary in intensity I am sure levels of it can be faked.
I know I have managed it in the past when I just wanted him to cum and be finished.

On the other hand I have never managed to fake an orgasm with anal sex, it either happens or it doesn't.

Shy Slave - I think for me the experiences we (h/w) have shared since stumbling onto LIT have been amazing. I truely knew very little about pleasing hubby other than normal sex and him ejaculating. I honestly had no idea how pleasurable sex could be for me. In my mind it was always about pleasing him. He was interested in trying things but I wasn't. As far as faking an orgasm, I wouldn't have even known how to fake it.

I have to LOL when Mr.G describes the "whole muscle clenching thing" as you put it because I had no idea before now that I was even capable of doing that. Sex was just sex.

Now, sex is not just "wanting him to cum and get it over with," it is something I look forward to everyday, think about all day at work and if we can't work it into our schedule every evening because of the kids being home, etc. I am disappointed. That has changed our lives completely. May sound corny but it makes for better entertainment than coming home every night to see what is on TV.

I am not sure how the "technique" or other threads on LIT have affected others, but for me, it has been an education. I am planning on being in continuing ed until I die.

Maybe you are just not at that point in your life or relationship to see the value in this. Nothing should be considered torture if it is done with tenderness and out of wanting to please each other. It is beyond what I consider to be "just having sex." Hope this helps clear a few things up.

 

[shy slave]

Shy Slave - I think for me the experiences we (h/w) have shared since stumbling onto LIT have been amazing. I truely knew very little about pleasing hubby other than normal sex and him ejaculating. I honestly had no idea how pleasurable sex could be for me. In my mind it was always about pleasing him. He was interested in trying things but I wasn't. As far as faking an orgasm, I wouldn't have even known how to fake it.

I have to LOL when Mr.G describes the "whole muscle clenching thing" as you put it because I had no idea before now that I was even capable of doing that. Sex was just sex.

Now, sex is not just "wanting him to cum and get it over with," it is something I look forward to everyday, think about all day at work and if we can't work it into our schedule every evening because of the kids being home, etc. I am disappointed. That has changed our lives completely. May sound corny but it makes for better entertainment than coming home every night to see what is on TV.

I am not sure how the "technique" or other threads on LIT have affected others, but for me, it has been an education. I am planning on being in continuing ed until I die.

Maybe you are just not at that point in your life or relationship to see the value in this. Nothing should be considered torture if it is done with tenderness and out of wanting to please each other. It is beyond what I consider to be "just having sex." Hope this helps clear a few things up.

Hi emptynester
I am really happy that Lit has helped you find the sex you needed for it to be wonderful.
It has also done this for me but in a different way.

I discovered I don't need to be pleasured, I prefer giving him the pleasure. Orgasms are great but they are not my main aim from sex. It has not been an easy journey to find this out and Lit has helped a great deal. Mainly the BDSM boards.
I was not trying to imply that every woman would hate this, believe me I know that is not the case. But it would be torture to me. I really don't want fiddled with.
What works for me is having my back beaten, nipples bitten and bum squeezed so hard it makes me scream with pain. I don't want a great deal of tenderness in my sex life, I want that outside of sex. By 'sex' I mean fingered or penetrated in my cunt by his cock, fingers or an object. I am not referring to any 101 activities we indulge in as part of our relationship dynamic.

I get sexual gratification from pleasing him. If the focus was too much on me I would struggle. If he wants to sexually please me he can. He can talk me to orgasm without touching me or by touching one nipple only. I am not sure if that makes sense to you, I hope it does. I am not like this because I was abused or used in the past. It is just how it works for me.

Having my skin gently stroked is like nails on a black board to me. Having a sharp brush used on cat fur dragged down my back is heaven.


Lit is a wonderful place, it is full of amazing people who share so much.

We have both learnt what works for us through information from others.

Discovering BDSM & Lit has been a such an amazing experience.

Oh and I should confess , I did know about the muscle thing but I never appreciated the level of control I could have over it until he gave instruction on it.

He encouraged me start with a dildo in my cunt and learn to squeeze then stop. Focusing on different internal muscles. It required alot of imagery and focus, it was not erotic or sexy. Then I progressed to narrower and narrower implements and finally a tapered candle. What I would have liked was a way of using a malleable material that I could squeeze internally to work out which muscles worked where.
Now I can slowly squeeze him very firmly and for a longer period of time, although still only a few seconds. It does take concentration but I would love to be able to have him cum without doing anything but that to his cock.

Edit to add: re-reading this and the subsequent post I made after this, I realise that it is possible to read between the lines and imagine that he is never tender, caring or thoughtful towards me. That is not the case. he is all of those things. His care love, concern and tenderness towards me shines through. I am not a naive person who does not understand what I want or need in life. I am a woman who is empowered and mentally strong enough to say 'thats not how it works for me' and not feel a freak for saying it.

 

[shy slave]

... that we're ALL different BUT ... Ladies, some input please. Can I see a show of hands. Everybody who thinks orgasms especially very looong ones or orgasms that repeat over and over again are a BAD thing?

*looking* looking*

I do NOT see a lot of hands ....

Methinks you have some problems that are a tad more specific to YOU than just being a bit different. EVERY-time I've received PMs or Emails about NOT liking what this technique would / could do it has turned out to be some teenage BOY trying to get me to describe filthy sex acts so he can pretend to have tities and pull on his tiny wang thang. The other ones are women who NEVER HAVE CUM - through any sex act or masturbation even. Either poster, knowing NOTHING of which they speak or criticize seem oddly out of place making negative statements about The Technique.

I'm NOT saying anybody who doesn't like the technique is weird or a guy or sexually dysfunctional but that seems to be the trend from people who post stuff like :

"" I would hate it if he tried this technique on me. It would be my idea of torture.""

You don't sound like you have ever been tortured either.
""Ummm emptynester, I think a woman can fake that whole muscle clenching thing. Considering it can vary in intensity I am sure levels of it can be faked. I know I have managed it in the past when ""

Another observation. The normal orgasmic muscle contraction can sometimes be faked. With G-Gasms the contractions are often more of a spasm than a contraction and I would LOVE to meet a woman who has the ability to cause her vagina to SPASM like that. In fact I think most men would marry her on the spot.

What it sounds like is you have one LOUSY sex life (""I just wanted him to cum and be finished.""). Have never really derived ANY pleasure from sex with your guy(s) and not really understanding what an orgasm actually feels like, considers the Technique sort of an extended painful, boring and useless intercourse alternative - an exercise in poking you in a place that doesn't do much for you on a good day.

Am I way off base here ?

What I wonder is why wouldn't you USE the knowledge shared by so many in here, try and educate your partner and improve your love life instead of exposing your crappy sex life by making such a negative comment?

You seem to be a little of base, yes.

I have been tortured and am very very happy having have that happen.
If you check back you will see that most of my posts since joining Lit have been in the BDSM boards, but I do wander around the place.

Andante is the man responsible for the torture. We really don't have a lousy sex life, it works amazingly well for us. I hope the post above this helps explain it again. If you still have issue you are welcome to pm him or I or look on the BDSM boards for further clarification.

I did not see my comment as negative, I was trying to show that not every woman is wired the same way. I feel I should also point out you state in the title of the thread: 'Try this and report back' I gave my report back without trying it. I have had similar tried on me and I already know it is not for me.

I don't view my role here at Lit as an educator I see it as another person who does not always have a stereotypical viewpoint of sex.

I never said the whole G-spot thing could be faked I said levels of vaginal contraction can be. As a woman who has done that I stand by my comment. I did not say I did that with my current partner, I said I had done it without specification of when. Sorry if I confused you.

Please don't imagine that my idea of torture is the same as yours. It is clearly different. But it is no less valid.
I am very happy you have discovered a technique that works well on some women, but please bear in mind it may not work on all women.

Edit to add: in your comment you used the word 'people' yet so far it only seems to be me who would not want this. Can you explain why you use the plural? Have you had pm's or have you met someone who did not enjoy your technique? I am curious but if you think I am trying to start an arguement please feel free to ignore my question.

Incidentially I am not looking for a flame war, on this or any other topic. My comments were friendly (at least I thought so), yours read to me as if they were full of 'I don't believe you.' I am not an alt or a troll. I have been on Lit a while and enjoy discussion and a rounded view different aspects of the same thing. I do believe that in sex, as with everything else, 'one size does not fit all.'

 

[emptynester]

Hi emptynester
I discovered I don't need to be pleasured, I prefer giving him the pleasure. Orgasms are great but they are not my main aim from sex. It has not been an easy journey to find this out and Lit has helped a great deal. Mainly the BDSM boards.

Shy slave - I think I understand now. I think the problem is that most in the HT are here for the same reason you enjoy the BDSM boards. In other words, I wouldn't go there looking for ideas because that is not something I can relate to.

What works for me is having my back beaten, nipples bitten and bum squeezed so hard it makes me scream with pain. I don't want a great deal of tenderness in my sex life, I want that outside of sex. By 'sex' I mean fingered or penetrated in my cunt by his cock, fingers or an object. I am not referring to any 101 activities we indulge in as part of our relationship dynamic.

I read this and go "wow". Doesn't do a thing for me. I am thinking that is what went through your mind when you read the technique. As you already stated and I agree completely, "it is just how it works for me."

Lit is a wonderful place, it is full of amazing people who share so much. We have both learnt what works for us through information from others. Discovering BDSM & Lit has been a such an amazing experience.

Sounds like we have the same exact thoughts just with regard to different areas of LIT. If I were to go into the BDSM board, I am sure I would read threads that I would respond to like "you've got to be kidding"! I would not be brave enough, however, to post my thoughts there. I am not in anyway saying you shouldn't have here, I am just saying, I for one understand your post now.

In the HT you will find that Mr.GGG, SweetErica and many others have contributed a lot of good advice that has helped many, many people. They are highly respected and regarded as someone you can count on for good advice and knowledge on pleasuring women.

So if I sound a little defensive, I guess I have to admit I am. If it had not been for wandering into LIT to begin with, I may never have experienced some of the pleasures I have had in experimenting with some of these ideas. It is not like I can go to work and discuss these things with the people I work with. I can openly ask questions here, although I have to admit, I am still not as outspoken as most and have a hard time typing the words cum, ejaculation, etc. I admire these people for being so comfortable talking about these issues and ideas. As I have said before, I have learned a lot from reading various threads and posts. I have learned more about myself than anything and will forever be grateful. Again, I know it sounds corny, but I am really enjoying something for the first time that I thought only men were truely created to enjoy (and to know one's fault but my own for lack of knowledge more than anything).

I am not a naive person who does not understand what I want or need in life. I am a woman who is empowered and mentally strong enough to say 'thats not how it works for me' and not feel a freak for saying it.

I applaud you. It sounds like you found this out a lot earlier than I did. I was a naive person and in a lot of ways still am. I am learning though and this technique worked for me and has helped many others. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and clearing up for me, and I am sure others, why you would not be interested in trying "the technique". It is not for you and that is understandable now that you have explained what works for you and why.

 

[outrabutterfly]

Hubby and I gave this one a try the other night...No luck...I think it's because I have an abnormally sloped vagina, but I'm not really sure...Any ideas of what we can do to get this to work?

 

[ShinigamiSama]

Hubby and I gave this one a try the other night...No luck...I think it's because I have an abnormally sloped vagina, but I'm not really sure...Any ideas of what we can do to get this to work?

keep tryining?
it takes practice to find stuff you can't see

 

[shy slave]

Hubby and I gave this one a try the other night...No luck...I think it's because I have an abnormally sloped vagina, but I'm not really sure...Any ideas of what we can do to get this to work?

Different angles may help.

A pillow underneath your ass, or underneath your lower back to change the position of your vagina may help. Even on your hands and knees depending on how it slopes.

 

[Piss Lover]

I got her to do it!

After reading through this thread last week I tought I would suggest we try again.

I did take quiet a while to get her worked up to the point and as she started to push her pussy got tighter and I lost the spot a few times but she squirted none the less eventually, it kind of dribbled down her ass rather then squirt but it was so so sexy, I licked the lot up and got ontop and fucked her rotten

 

[MR.GGG]

Socks ??

Here's a little clip I found. As you can see even the sexperts don't really know what is happening, how or why some can, some can't and others don't have a clue but still have a definitive (usually WRONG) opinion.

In this clip one "expert" says it's Skeene glands and usually NOT urine. The other expert doesn't know and neither mention any well known way to get there from here. Thankfully we have Lit a neat discovery and lotsa feedback and posts from others who very clearly now know more than any of the damn "experts" on the matter. Yea LIT!!!


http://www.m90.org/index.php?id=28439

Listen carefully. At one point the one expert sez that even wearing SOCKS in bed can have a huge effect on a woman's ability to have an orgasm. So when I mention a woman's mental state as it pertains to G-Gasms and I get flamed for it ... listen carefully to an expert and tell me there is some deep neuro-physiological reason for SOCKS making a difference during sex and that it is NOT just the mental condition that changes.

SOCKS!! Who woulda guessed. OK EVERYBODY who has been having difficulty with the Technique - WEAR SOCKS TO BED and it will probably work. Polls and SexPerts said so.

Ain't the research worth it all though?

 

[MR.GGG]

Here's some more info or TWAT SHOT

TWATSHOT or

I'm really not sure whether this is CREEPY, a great idea that some GYN thought might help women achieve what I've tried to do with this thread or - OR - the perverted invention of some QUACK who figures he can make a MINT ($$$) by appealing to the FEW women who have posted negative results in this thread.

He's CLAIMING an 87% suckcess rate but the testimonials in HERE are way better than his testimonials.

Read it and creeep.

http://www.thegshot.com/what.htm

I'll have more on this later. After I get UNcreeeped.

 

[emptynester]

the perverted invention of some QUACK who figures he can make a MINT ($$$) by appealing to the FEW women who have posted negative results in this thread.

2. I understand the proposed procedure(s) to be: vaginal submucosal/subureathral collagen injection (The G-Shot®; G-Spot Amplification®).

4. I understand the risks associated with the proposed procedure(s) to be:
Bleeding
Infection
Urinary retention
Accelerated collagen re-absorption
No effect at all
Allergic reaction
Constant awareness of the G-Spot (OK, so I might be able to live
A feeling of always being “turned on” (with these two)
Constant vaginal wetness
Mental preoccupation of the G-Spot
Alteration of the function of the G-Spot
Sexual function alteration
Hematoma (collection of blood)
Collagen site ulceration
Urethral injury (tube you urinate through)
Urinary retention
Hematuria (blood in urine)
UTI (Urinary Tract Infection)
Urinary Urgency (feel like you always have to urinate)
Urinary Frequency
Increased/worsening nocturia (waking up several times at night to urinate)
Change in urinary stream
Urethreal-vaginal fistula (hole between urethra and vagina)
Vesico-vaginal fistula (hole between bladder and vagina)
Dyspareunia (Painful intersourse)
Need for subsequent surgery
Alteration of vaginal sensations
Scar formation (vaginal)
Urethral stricture (abnormal narrowing of the urethra)
Local tissue infarction and necrosis
Yeast infection
Vaginal Discharge
Spotting between periods
Bladder Pain
Overactive Bladder (OAB)
Bladder Fullness
Exposed Material
Pelvic Pain
Pelvic Heaviness
Collagen injected into the bladder or urethra
Erosion
Fatigue
Damage to nearby organs including bladder, urethra and ureters
Alteration of bladder dynamics
Post-operative pain
Prolonged pain
Intractable pain
Alteration of the female sexual response cycle
Failed procedure
Varied results
Psychological alterations
Relationship problems
Sex life alteration
Decreased sexual function
Possible hospitalization for treatment of complications
Lidocaine toxicity
Anesthesia reaction
Embolism
Depression
Reactions to medications including anaphylaxis
Nerve damage
Permanent numbness
Slow healing
Swelling
Sexual dysfunction
Allergy to Collagen material
Collagen migration
Nodule formation

Who could resist trying such a procedure After all - what more could possibly go wrong!

 

[MR.GGG]

AHAHAHAHAAA (geeez!)

I didn't even FIND that page. I was compiling my own list of POSSIBLE side effects (NOT affects like was advertised on their own page!). Not that I'm TRYING to be negative, mind you - BUT ....

ONE minor, inconsequential complication that THEY missed in their brief list was - DEATH by toxic plasmosis. Massive liver failure and permanent sterilization are also common results of toxo-plasmosis.

WHO, in their right mind, could resist?? No worries !!

or could there be ANOTHER WAY of stimulating this GSpot thing ??

More research may be needed.

 

[sweettraci]

Outrabutterfly,

You can also try reversing the angle...lie on your stomach with the pillows under you, have him angle down instead of sort of up. This works for me. You won't believe the orgasms when they happen.

Not only that, but I think that overall, doing this so many times has made my orgasms in general stronger. My new lover told me that he's never felt anyone squeeze his dick so tight during an orgasm. He can't hold back at all after mine.

If you can get the right angle yourself..you can practice it alone as well.

 

[MR.GGG]

Outrabutterfly, You can also try reversing the angle...lie on your stomach with the pillows under you, have him angle down instead of sort of up. This works for me. You won't believe the orgasms when they happen.

Which is, of course the position I recommend in the Technique as described on page UNO.

I just think that angle is the best not only for the woman - relax and just let him take you there over and over again - but also best for the guy. In that angle he can power stroke (with his thumb pointing down) using his straight wrist, elbow and shoulder to provide max durability. If you have a woman in good shape and she is capable of G-Gasming until the cows cum home THAT position is probably the only one where HE can keep going for as long as he needs to. Every other position is going to result in embarrassing delays when she looks at you after 50 minutes of G-Gasming and asks you why you're stopping.

With her face down over the pillows, lie across her lower back so she can't get away. All she can do is slap the bed and squirm and kick her legs around while she cums. Your shoulders should be just off her back so in the ceiling mirror it looks like a CROSS. Your one arm is thus positioned perfectly to angle down and insert thumb for a sustained G-Spotting. She can breath OK because you are across her lower back not across her chest and she really has NO CHOICE but to cum and cum and cum until YOU decide she's had enough. Then change positions and switch arms simply by pointing the other way. She'll be too drained to jump up and hop away and will just continue to G-Gasm once you start again.

Sweet torture. You can smack her bum and upper thighs in this position too if you're into that. It makes a "nice" mixture for her nerve endings when it goes from sting, held down and then repeated G-Gasms and then sting again. Her BRAIN will be FRIED !!! She won't be able to even walk by herself for an hour or more and she will be completely incoherent by the end of the first half hour.

 

[sweettraci]

It also works really great with one of those little glass g-spot toys.

 

[MR.GGG]

Ya, True

But the "do-er" doesn't get to feeel her responses. When you have your thumb buried in there you can feeel every little muscle quiver, contraction and how hot and wet she is.

Toys are fun on occasion but the feel makes it much more personal and intimate. Also when you are just starting / learning you should use a digit or your thumb so you use only the right amount of pressure. If you use a toy when you are just learning you are very likely to use too much force and cause bruising or even lacerate her urethra whic is just the other side of the vaginal wall. Use your thumb to learn proper pressure and when you feel confident of the Technique then you can switch to various toys, fruit, holiday decorations, candy, etc etc etc etc.

 

[Gil_T2]

But the "do-er" doesn't get to feeel her responses. When you have your thumb buried in there you can feeel every little muscle quiver, contraction and how hot and wet she is.

Toys are fun on occasion but the feel makes it much more personal and intimate. Also when you are just starting / learning you should use a digit or your thumb so you use only the right amount of pressure. If you use a toy when you are just learning you are very likely to use too much force and cause bruising or even lacerate her urethra whic is just the other side of the vaginal wall. Use your thumb to learn proper pressure and when you feel confident of the Technique then you can switch to various toys, fruit, holiday decorations, candy, etc etc etc etc.

i agree Mr G that hands on G spot orgasms are the best & toy ones don't have the same feel or control, as BANDIT get's closer her G spot are gets a wash board like feel with the wave like thing happeneing which allows me to relax a bit allowing her to settle a bit without loosing the feeling or I can go to town on it driving her over the top & keeping it going for ages.

 

[eudaemonia]

Which is, of course the position I recommend in the Technique as described on page UNO.

Which, of course, is not for everyone.

I just think that angle is the best not only for the woman - relax and just let him take you there over and over again -

Your point is well taken. But honestly, I have to wonder why the need to repeat it continually? Helpful and friendly advice is one thing, yet it's another matter entirely to be so insistent. It's starting to sound as if you've got a dog in this fight, in a manner of speaking.

As for "the best" angle, you're certainly entitled to hold any opinion you wish. However, the steady posting of your opinion does not make it fact. I think it's important to remember that this is a community of individuals whose preferences simply cannot be singularly codified.

Ultimately, the "best" angle is the one that works for the woman. Period. Full stop.

She can breath OK because you are across her lower back not across her chest and she really has NO CHOICE but to cum and cum and cum until YOU decide she's had enough.

Having "no choice but to cum and cum and cum", if that's what you really mean, strikes me as competitive rather than loving.

 

[MR.GGG]

Arrgggh!

Which, of course, is not for everyone.

Never said it was - just recommending it as the most sustainable for the guy.

Your point is well taken. But honestly, I have to wonder why the need to repeat it continually? Helpful and friendly advice is one thing, yet it's another matter entirely to be so insistent. It's starting to sound as if you've got a dog in this fight, in a manner of speaking.

You're confusing enthusiasm with insistence. The theme all through this is "What ever works for you."

As for "the best" angle, you're certainly entitled to hold any opinion you wish. However, the steady posting of your opinion does not make it fact. I think it's important to remember that this is a community of individuals whose preferences simply cannot be singularly codified.

From the feedback I've been getting from the start of this thread it appears to work for the majority of couples. That's why I emphasize it. I still get IMs and Emails from couples wanting a more detailed explanation so for SOME my annoying and repetitive descriptions have NOT been enough. As we are all different, NOTHING is FACT or codified as universal. That has been pointed out more times than my description.

Ultimately, the "best" angle is the one that works for the woman. Period. Full stop.

Which is, again the predominate theme in here. Try anything and everything, find what works, enjoy, share the knowledge. Everybody who has ever read any of the ideas presented in this thread knows they are exactly that. Ideas. My ideas and recommendations are based on my experience, feedback and knowing how the bones and muscles work. They are NOT directives.

Having "no choice but to cum and cum and cum", if that's what you really mean, strikes me as competitive rather than loving.

The women I have been with were in good shape. They enjoyed being pushed to and sometimes a little past what they considered their limits. It was fun. Granted, that comes close to an S&M kind of scenario sometimes (so YES, I did MEAN THAT) but, again, if she's into that it's good. If she's not then don't. For some readers, your "That's not for everyone." is getting as much time (boooring) as my descriptions.

Slow, loving oral combined with much gentler G-Gasms is a GREAT way to come down or end a hectic day. Those times, techniques and variations are more appropriate for a "normal" evening rather than a mega session where you strive to reach your mutual limits. From quickies to all week-enders - there are ideas and variations for all types and all moods and times. WHATever and WHENever it works best for you ... here's some ideas to try.

BTW - You forgot to point out that my suggestions of smacking her on the butt during some of these sessions was "not for everyone" too.

It seems like most of what I suggest, you find objectionable or point out that a particular idea may not be universally acceptable. No shit?

Perhaps you could apply your literary talents to ADDING variations, ideas, alternate techniques rather than criticizing my generalizations. Simply pointing out that my suggestions or recommendations are not for everyone is obvious to the point of being lame. It's a no brainer and adds NOTHING to the theme of this thread which is sharing G-Spot ideas and techniques. It's easy as hell to wag your finger. Obviously, for you, it's not so easy suggesting original or unusual variations that many, many others MIGHT find fun or incredibly satisfying by trying.

 

[eudaemonia]

Perhaps you could apply your literary talents to ADDING variations, ideas, alternate techniques rather than criticizing my generalizations. Simply pointing out that my suggestions or recommendations are not for everyone is obvious to the point of being lame. It's a no brainer and adds NOTHING to the theme of this thread which is sharing G-Spot ideas and techniques. It's easy as hell to wag your finger. Obviously, for you, it's not so easy suggesting original or unusual variations that many, many others MIGHT find fun or incredibly satisfying by trying.

Whoa, where do you get off?

As a matter of fact, Mr. G, I've added suggestions about technique, position and the AFE zone, which, btw you were noticeably less than enthusiastic about commenting on. A wholly different errogenous area with far less research than the G-spot but equally as pleasurable if not more intense -- and it rates bupkiss by you. Huh.

When *you* post, you expect unconditional and lavish gratitude, but when anyone demurs about the reported efficacy of your technique or suggests alternatives you have a tendency to get snitty with them, implying that they're not "doing it" right or saying that "many" women have a psychological block. That's just callous, and I'll call you on that.

Of course your success stories are PM'ing you with their tales, and the latter aren't. That's why threads such as this are affirmatively self-selecting.

If you were committed to merely posting helpful guidelines or "generalizations" as you say -- with considerate YMMV disclaimers -- I'd never have cause to speak up. But by jumping on this thread right after someone has posted a valid counterexample to your "research" findings demonstrates an arrogant disregard for their experiences. I would be more helpful to the Community if your approach were more encouraging and less directorial.

It's not your enthusiasm that's being criticized. I think you truly want to be helpful. But keep in mind that we're here to help lurkers as well as active thread participants. My hunch is that while some women find the g-spot extremely pleasurable, it's not so to plenty of others. If the goal here is to lessen the anxiety in both men and women about their ability to have Os (or inability), then the score-keeping has got be toned down considerably.

It's a shame you view this something personal, Mr. G. My intent isn't to sling brickbats but to ask that the temperament of this thread try to be as welcoming and mindful to everyone who joins the discussion and not just to those who affirm the majority.

 

[MR.GGG]

Arrggh X 2

Two things piss me off about this. The first is; as you are quite obviously one of the more eloquent writers in this thread and it bugs me that so much of what you write is based on YOUR (mis) interpretation of what posters have written. Two - that so many good threads get killed by just that. People getting off the topic and getting critical of irrelevant off-topic flaming (ie. I don't like your attitude) . Pity. You're capable of more yet you nit-pick and criticize, often taking this out of context too.

As a matter of fact, Mr. G, I've added suggestions about technique, position and the AFE zone, which, btw you were noticeably less than enthusiastic about commenting on. A wholly different errogenous area with far less research than the G-spot but equally as pleasurable if not more intense -- and it rates bupkiss by you. Huh.

Very early on in this thread I brought up the A - Spot. If you're a veteran of Gspotting then go for it. As I have pointed out several times when it first came up, the A-Spot has its drawbacks. Number one it is MUCH deeper in the vagina than the G making it almost impossible to manipulate with fingers. It needs the same direct pressure as the G-Spot HOWEVER it sits right over the bladder neck. The only way MOST couples can reach the A-Spot is with a curved toy / dildo designed for G-Spots (or anal sex which is a whole 'nuther thread which you'll likely object to too). Newbies CAN NOT FEEL what kind of pressure is being exerted on the A-Spot with a toy. All they know is that pressure is needed.

I have tried to warn couples away from G-Spotting during pregnancy due to the outward spasms of the vaginal G-Spot orgasms AND I've played down the interest in A-Spot manipulation because there is a MUCH higher danger of lacerating or damaging the bladder neck during exuberant A-Spot play. Both techniques can result in severe injury, loss of a baby or a requirement for surgery to mend a torn bladder neck.

Discussions early in this thread mention that and when people have brought up the A or AFE-Spot I play it down for that reason. It can result in fantastic A-Gasms but at least for the newbies who will be using a toy and not aware of how little pressure in the wrong spot can result in life-threatening injury, I have simply played it down - not dismissed it.

Again, you have misread and misinterpreted the reasons why I did this. You assume it is my ego and my single-mindedness in "directing" couple to exactly repeat the Technique as posted. It isn't. Never has been...pisses me off that you constantly do this.

When *you* post, you expect unconditional and lavish gratitude, but when anyone demurs about the reported efficacy of your technique or suggests alternatives you have a tendency to get snitty with them, implying that they're not "doing it" right or saying that "many" women have a psychological block. That's just callous, and I'll call you on that.

I'll call you on that too. Crap!

I have ALWAYS ENCOURAGED variations depending on how it works for individual couples. I have from the start. That accusation is complete BS. Sometimes I post immediately after a post to congratulate them on their success or offer advice on how to try it another way. Snitty? I only get snitty with people like you who think it's far more important to hijack good threads with THEIR complaints about how they think things should read.

It is quite obvious that MANY women do have psychological blocks especially when it come to the "have to pee" feeling. You make it sound like I'm a misogynist saying all women are whackie. And I started a thread to let many many women enjoy a sexual high they probably only dreamed of before ...because ...?

Did you read the recent article that British women reported, in a massive sex study, that wearing socks to bed can increase the % of times they orgasm by several times? Is there a neurological reason for that? Doubt it. What they're finding is that if the woman in comfortable, feels secure in a certain type of relationship then the orgasms happen. If not or if there are other factors that interfere with her state of arousal then nuffin too much is going to happen. Socks give them a feeling of comfort. Just maybe chicks with cold feet do have trouble orgasming but I think that a mental angle is much more likely. Comfort.

Again, you are suggesting I'm wagging fingers at people who are having trouble reaching the results described in this thread. I'm NOT. Never have. READ! I'm suggesting that if there are mental blocks to a woman's situation in bed this may not happen and as long as she has them and may not even be aware of them those bugs WILL limit her ability to let go and orgasm. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out. I have pointed that out to some couples who sounded, by their descriptions, that that may be the mitigating factor in their inability to get the G-Spot firing.

I have repeated several times the positioning of the arm/wrist/thumb ONLY as suggestion based on the FACT that that IS THE most powerful position for doing this. When I say powerful I'm not just talking force and pressure but the stamina involved in allowing your woman to G-gasm for as long as SHE wants to. ALL other positions and techniques use different sets of muscles that are not as strong and do not have the stamina for long periods of G-ing. That is a just an anatomical fact. If you are a normal person the best way to keep doing this without developing cramps in your wrist and fingers is the way I suggest. Use any method you want. Hang her by her toes from the rafters for all I care but if your intent is to give her a long session of G-Gasms withOUT losing the use of one or both arms then you pretty much have to go to the way I describe. Not being directorial just saying one way you can go forever. The other way your fingers will tire, your wrist and forearms will likely cramp and she'll be wondering why you stopped "so soon."

Of course your success stories are PM'ing you with their tales, and the latter aren't. That's why threads such as this are affirmatively self-selecting.

If you were committed to merely posting helpful guidelines or "generalizations" as you say -- with considerate YMMV disclaimers -- I'd never have cause to speak up. But by jumping on this thread right after someone has posted a valid counterexample to your "research" findings demonstrates an arrogant disregard for their experiences. I would be more helpful to the Community if your approach were more encouraging and less directorial.

It really doesn't appear that you need a "cause" to speak up. The rest I addressed in a para above. "Counter-examples" are GREAT if they work. NOT ONCE have I criticized a poster for using a different technique, position or digit to achieve success.

It's not your enthusiasm that's being criticized. I think you truly want to be helpful. But keep in mind that we're here to help lurkers as well as active thread participants. My hunch is that while some women find the g-spot extremely pleasurable, it's not so to plenty of others. If the goal here is to lessen the anxiety in both men and women about their ability to have Os (or inability), then the score-keeping has got be toned down considerably.

Ya, I do really want to be helpful and the numbers pretty much ratify that. The women who do NOT find any G-spot manipulation enjoyable probably don't spend a lot of time in here, doncha think? Why would they. *NEWS ALERT* People who do not enjoy anal sex do NOT spend a lot of time reading through the anal sex threads.

The ones who are interested in making this technique work have access to one of the most all encompassing piles of encouragement, information, ideas, variations and suggestions I've found ANYWHERE on the Net.

It's a shame you view this something personal, Mr. G. My intent isn't to sling brickbats but to ask that the temperament of this thread try to be as welcoming and mindful to everyone who joins the discussion and not just to those who affirm the majority.

And why wouldn't I view this as personal? I started this how many YEARS ago now and it has resulted in a huge readership and tons of success stories. There have to be 30 or 40 other posters who constantly help out with suggestions on how to make it happen. Posters give testimonials on how much better their love lives have become since reading this thread. WHY wouldn't I take that personally? What a moronic idea that I'd be coming in here for the last 4 YEARS or so, along with all the other regulars, encouraging couples and advising them on how best (in my/our opinion) to make the G-Gasm technique a reality for them and NOT have any kind of personal feelings about it. You don't have a clue what it feels like to give the GIFT of G-Gasms to several hundred thousand people who may not or did not know about it before reading this thread. It feels GREAT and no amount of neurotic nit-picking by the likes of you will ever change that!!

The temperament of this thread, I think, is one of the most welcoming threads in not just LIT but all the other sites I've found where ideas are presented and discussed. Sadly there are people who over-analyze, misinterpret and hijack these threads with unwarranted criticism. You say you have contributed to this thread. When? Your last two posts accused me of saying it was SAD that ALL women don't like being spanked. Read the post. I suggested it was SAD that so many people have closed minds and won't even try new stuff. Do you understand the difference?

Another post was "Well, fortunately and will all due respect to Mr. GGG, he isn't anyone's bedroom coxswain"
Again, my suggestions are just that. WHERE do you get the impression I'm "directorial"? The only one being directorial is you - telling me how to behave in my own damn thread. I have my own style. It may sound a little caustic to some but it is obvious to all the regulars and most of the newbies that it is done with the best of intentions. You, on the other hand don't seem to like it. Why not take your own advice. Instead of "directing" me on how to think and post add something positive or innovative for a change. Have YOU ever enjoyed a good G-spotting with a lover or is all the advice on positioning and technique you claim to be posting all just theoretical?

Brickbats? Coxswain? Bupkiss?

Where are you from? How OLD are you? I smell a retired TEACHER!!!

 

[Lookingforideas]

OMG the best orgasms I have ever had was done by a man who read this post...it is so true, I totally lost count of how many times I came but i do know it was over 25. Thank you sooo much for posting this. It was wonderful