try a new approach

[fondofmoisture]

How would you make the suggestion to your wife that it would be o k to be with other people as long as we didn t tell each other about when or who. It s not that we don t satisfy each other but lets face it twenty years is a long time with the same person.I just think that everyone would like a change every once in a while including my wife but we don t want to hurt the others feelings. Am I thinking with the right head here or am I asking for trouble? We ve been to strip clubs together so we pretty confident with each other. Interested to hear from everyone.

 

[Noor]

It can be dangerous, the problem is you really have no idea what will happen until you do it, and even if you do it sucessfully for years, one day someone might come along that you connect with sexually, and intimately more than you do your partner and then it can be very bad.

Sometimes what starts out to be just a sexual exchange can grow without anyone's wanting it to until it the feelings threaten your relationship, everyone involved and sometimes even the balance of your mind.

I would say talk about it, ask her what she thinks. Maybe start by talking about cyberring with someone else and go from there, but there is even danger in cyber.

I think there are other ways to change or improve your sex life without having sex with other people. Also remember STDs and other complications of sex.

Noor

 

[phoenix1224]

I agree with Noor... Do you really want to risk your woman leaving you for another guy?

 

[fondofmoisture]

thank s noor I knew i would get some good advice. You really open my eyes to a diffrent side of things

 

[Noor]

thank s noor I knew i would get some good advice. You really open my eyes to a diffrent side of things

You are welcome. Believe me, it is not worth finding these things out the hard way.

 

[shelleb4]

from a womans personal perspective:

Weve been to strip clubs so were pretty confident with each other'

So why are you not confident to ask her to try something new?
ive been with my partner for the same amount of years and still descovering to this day.

You clearly are seeking something thats lacking.
Ask yourself, you get 'whoever' ms new person is into bed, what would you really like to do? Or have done to you?

if anything springs to mind that youve not allready covered in this relationship, that would seem a good place to start.

Or perhaps you could take a look at the other sections in literotica for inspiration. Yes it does take a lot of hard work to keep a relationship fresh. But you will reap more than you ever sew.

good luck and be safe