True Love

[Tantanah]

Is there only one true love in our lifetime or is it possible to have more than one, at different times, as we go through life?

Just something I've been pondering.

I would appreciate your thoughts.

 

[sortacurious]

Oh geez! I hope it's not just once...if so I'm facing a long, lonely life.

I already had it once and lost it.

I keep hoping one of these days to be swept off my feet again, but possibly, that may have been my one chance.

I just keep trying to convince myself it will happen again...sooner rather than later would be too much to ask. *sigh*

Maybe someone else has a more encouraging answer?

 

[Gamelover221]

All loves are different from each other. Loves are not created equal. Some might be better than others, but there is no "one" love. There's something special to love in everyone. The question is... can you see it, are you looking in the right places?

I know it sounds cheesy...but it's true. Don't give up after one strike, even if it was a big one.

 

[mbb308]

Of those I have loved deeply, each was different and feels different to me today. I would have figured before T/L #4, that #1 would have been it, or maybe #3, even though it was quite tumultuous. But for intensity, duration, passion, longing, strength, support . . . #4 definitely took the cake.

And today makes the fifth anniversary of her leaving, so it is with a heartful of mixed feelings still that I write this....

 

[TumbledLove]

If there can be only ONE true love in your life, then think of the incredible odds you overcame to find them. I mean, even if you came into contact with a million people during your lifetime, that's still less than 0.1% of the entire population of the planet! Added to that is the fact that most people probably find that one person within 50 miles of where they live.
Amazing? I think not.

I'm sure each of us has many potential soulmates. But if you truly believe that there's only one person for you, then you're basically guaranteeing that there will never be more than one.

Life is what you make of it. Don't let your (broken)heart stand in the way of happiness.

..now if only I can take my own advice.

 

[Tantanah]

Thanks so much for your responses.

Welcome to lit Tumbled love. Look ahead, someone is out there for you.

mbb308...thanks for your response. You're right...each love is different. Has there been a #5?

Gamelover 221...thank you. I won't give up.

sortacurious...it will happen...when you least expect it. In the meantime, be happy.

 

[mbb308]

Thanks so much for your responses.

Welcome to lit Tumbled love. Look ahead, someone is out there for you.

mbb308...thanks for your response. You're right...each love is different. Has there been a #5?

Gamelover 221...thank you. I won't give up.

sortacurious...it will happen...when you least expect it. In the meantime, be happy.

#5? - applications are being taken at . . . .

I've dated a few people in the past five years, but I just have missed that something, that which is hard to describe, but I know it when I see it, or feel it. That person needs to have something calmly accepting about them.

And I've gotten a tad idiocyncratic as I've spent more time with myself.

The good news is I have more friends - and women friends - than ever before. Real friends, not just the fair weather type.

 

[omahaman2]

i feel life is the search for the one real true love, the one you are supposed to be with.Yes, there are ones you love and love you all through your life but the relationship ends because it was missing that or this or you were missing something the other needed or wanted or visa versa.Once you really do meet your true love, it usually doesnt end because that person completes you, makes you whole.The other relationships let you see what your relationship now has that you were missong by compairison.

TY my true love.TY for being on LIT that fateful day, when you began the process of changing my life.

 

[mbb308]

I feel that I am a more complete person, better evolved, than ever before in my life. I rarely am lonely, although I frequently have solitude. I really don't mind my solitary condition, and someone special would be to me the garnish, the topping, the accent....

Just my opinion....

 

[Jaenelle]

I feel that I am a more complete person, better evolved, than ever before in my life. I rarely am lonely, although I frequently have solitude. I really don't mind my solitary condition, and someone special would be to me the garnish, the topping, the accent....

Just my opinion....

Very well said mbb, I agree with you.


Jaen

 

[wildrose70]

Love.....what is it...the special cant live w/out them feeling....cant sleep....cant eat..high school loves you thought wld last forever....college crushes....marriage...none have really been what I call true love...the one I loved the most .....I met while I was married....knew him for only 6 months...he made me smile...made me laugh...and told me he would live forever....but he was killed in a car accident after 6 short months of knowing him...I will never forget him.....that was so many years ago....when I was only 45....too most of you thats old... to me it's young!! To this day the song *After The Loving* makes me sad...
I have been in *like* many times....sometimes in *lust* ...who can tell the real feelings.....right now I have a very special friend that I talk too....makes me happy...watches over me from a distance.....sometimes people like that mean so much...and yet you know the chances of ever meeting them are very slim.....
Sorry didnt mean to get carried away here...but I do talk a lot!!!

 

[Tantanah]

#5? - applications are being taken at . . . .

I've dated a few people in the past five years, but I just have missed that something, that which is hard to describe, but I know it when I see it, or feel it. That person needs to have something calmly accepting about them.

And I've gotten a tad idiocyncratic as I've spent more time with myself.

The good news is I have more friends - and women friends - than ever before. Real friends, not just the fair weather type.

Calling #5...are you out there?

I understand about the calm acceptance. That's very important. That's a quality you seem to have.

Real friends do tend to enrich our lives. I'm glad you have that.

 

[Tantanah]

i feel life is the search for the one real true love, the one you are supposed to be with.Yes, there are ones you love and love you all through your life but the relationship ends because it was missing that or this or you were missing something the other needed or wanted or visa versa.Once you really do meet your true love, it usually doesnt end because that person completes you, makes you whole.The other relationships let you see what your relationship now has that you were missong by compairison.

TY my true love.TY for being on LIT that fateful day, when you began the process of changing my life.

Hi Oman! Thankyou for stopping by.

I must confess I have stalked you and Jenny a little since I've been here at lit. The obvious love you two share gives me hope. Thanks for sharing with us!

 

[Tantanah]

PERHAPS LOVE

by John Denver

Perhaps love is like a resting place,
a shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort,
it is there to keep you warm.
And in those times of trouble
when you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home.

Perhaps love is like a window,
perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer,
it wants to show you more.
And even if you lose yourself
and don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through.

Love to some is like a cloud,
to some as strong as steel
For some a way of living,
for some a way to feel.
And some say love is holding on
and some say letting go
And some say love is everything,
and some say they don't know.

Perhaps love is like the ocean,
full of conflict, full of pain
Like a fire when it's cold outside,
thunder when it rains.
If I should live forever,
and all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I think "true love" means different things at different stages in a person's life.

I think only ONE person can be your true love, and the loves you experience as you grow eventually lead you to THE one.

I'm lucky to have found my TRUE love, my TRUE friend, my TRUE partner! It's so possible that if this love came to me much earlier in my life that I would have been ready for it.

TY too, Oman!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Is there only one true love in our lifetime or is it possible to have more than one, at different times, as we go through life?

I never was one to believe in true love and all that comes with that ... but then a couple of years ago I met the most beautiful man, and he changed my mind on how I viewed love.

He came into my life and turned it upside down, he showed me how wonderful and bittersweet love can be, he opended my eyes and showed me the wonders of love.

I love this man so much, I will forever have a speical place in my heart for him. I love him and will forever love him. I know I will never stop loving him.

I honestly think that I have found the love of my life. Maybe down the line we might not stay together and go our separate ways ... but I know I will love him still ... and he will be my one true love.

I don't think I can love another man like I love him...

 

[mbb308]

Calling #5...are you out there?

I understand about the calm acceptance. That's very important. That's a quality you seem to have.

Real friends do tend to enrich our lives. I'm glad you have that.

Thank you for your observations....any acceptance I have is hard-won. I have a tendency only to let go after a struggle at some level. I get better as I practice it more.

I wouldn't trade my friends for the world. I finally figured out what I wanted in a friend, and then tried to be that for a couple of people, and it works. I learned to be a decent friend, and now have some. The experiment continues.

Some days, I feel like I must have cut class the day they tought those things.

 

[SecretScribe]

Is there only one true love in our lifetime or is it possible to have more than one, at different times, as we go through life?

One true love? What an incredibly sad thought. To have only the possibility of just one true love. Heartbreaking. How easy it would be to miss the chance. And then it is gone.

No, it must be possible to have more than one true love. I would even go so far as to say that for some people, the true loves do not even need to be at different times. What is a person's capacity for love? Is there some upper limit?

I have known some people that I swear were unable to love, truly love. They desired, but would never consider taking on the responsibility of love. Others take it on without a qualm, a strong and gentle affirmation of humanity and always seem to have room to give yet more care out.

So why should there be only one "True Love" per lifetime? Or even, why should ther only be one true love per moment in time? Is the human heart really that limited? I don't believe so. Culture and society may combine to blind a person to this possibility/actuality, but I believe it to be possible. And given our society ... this may be an even greater tragedy, when more than one true love happens at a single moment of time. One that can rip at all parties involved.

Some might say that the definition of true love requires the quality of "all-encompassing". If so, then there can only be one true love per moment. But I do not think that quality is required. It may be there for a span of time, but to think it would continue unending for years and tens of years ... no. True love is the growing together of hearts and minds. The transcendant passion ... cannot sustain itself forever ... if it did .. it would become ordinary. Better to have moments rather than a lifetime, many moments as two people grow together, rediscovering each other again and again.

I've rambled enough here.

 

[Jewelz]

It wasnt til recently that I even thought about "one" true love. I have been married for 8 years to the man that I have been with for 14 years. Since I was 15 years old. He saved me from a personal hell back then and I swear he does it more often than I have ever known. We have had very very rough times. And we were seperated and heading for divorce just 2 months ago. But this is one man that molds into me, taps into my emotions, accepts me with all my imperfections, laughs at my silliness, holds my hand when I am scared, assures me when I am insecure and loves me unconditionally. I always thought he was my true love...and in many respects he surely is. I married him to be his wife forever. We have 3 wonderful daughters together. 14 years of memories.

But in May, I met a man that literally swept me off my feet. (I was seperated from my husband). I fell in love with him deeply and the intensity of my emotions for him was that of which I never felt before.......ever. How can one encompass such sincere and intense emotion and love only after a brief interlude?? I will never know. All I do know is that I loved him wholly and will forever love him. He crawled into my heart and took a piece of it with him. The day I looked directly into his eyes, I knew it was a very special kind of love. I think about him every day. I worry about him, I care about him and I love him. He is my one true love if there is only one. But for reasons I can not explain.

Returning to my husband, he realized that he didnt wanna lose us...so my one true love, gave me up...wanted me to find the happiness again with my husband. Very unselfish of him to do. He wasnt ready for us. But I know our love was real.

In the passing days, I grow as a person and try to live with my reality. Part of me will always wonder "what if" and part of me will always wanna be with my one true love....but I have accepted that my life is to be in my marriage and make the most of our love and our family. I am in love with my husband again...but if truth be known....I will never know the intensity that I shared with my true love.

I am happy now though. I am richly blessed with a new man in my husband. He has changed and given me and our family so much and I am led to believe that he is my one true SOULMATE. (although i believe i do have more than one soul mate on different levels)..maybe i, too believe that he is my lifemate.

Whatever it may be, I shall never forget my moment in time with my true love. Never.

 

[omahaman2]

It wasnt til recently that I even thought about "one" true love. I have been married for 8 years to the man that I have been with for 14 years. Since I was 15 years old. He saved me from a personal hell back then and I swear he does it more often than I have ever known. We have had very very rough times. And we were seperated and heading for divorce just 2 months ago. But this is one man that molds into me, taps into my emotions, accepts me with all my imperfections, laughs at my silliness, holds my hand when I am scared, assures me when I am insecure and loves me unconditionally. I always thought he was my true love...and in many respects he surely is. I married him to be his wife forever. We have 3 wonderful daughters together. 14 years of memories.

But in May, I met a man that literally swept me off my feet. (I was seperated from my husband). I fell in love with him deeply and the intensity of my emotions for him was that of which I never felt before.......ever. How can one encompass such sincere and intense emotion and love only after a brief interlude?? I will never know. All I do know is that I loved him wholly and will forever love him. He crawled into my heart and took a piece of it with him. The day I looked directly into his eyes, I knew it was a very special kind of love. I think about him every day. I worry about him, I care about him and I love him. He is my one true love if there is only one. But for reasons I can not explain.

Returning to my husband, he realized that he didnt wanna lose us...so my one true love, gave me up...wanted me to find the happiness again with my husband. Very unselfish of him to do. He wasnt ready for us. But I know our love was real.

In the passing days, I grow as a person and try to live with my reality. Part of me will always wonder "what if" and part of me will always wanna be with my one true love....but I have accepted that my life is to be in my marriage and make the most of our love and our family. I am in love with my husband again...but if truth be known....I will never know the intensity that I shared with my true love.

I am happy now though. I am richly blessed with a new man in my husband. He has changed and given me and our family so much and I am led to believe that he is my one true SOULMATE. (although i believe i do have more than one soul mate on different levels)..maybe i, too believe that he is my lifemate.

Whatever it may be, I shall never forget my moment in time with my true love. Never.

JEWELZ, my adopted sister, just know when you are confused or not sure about something or just feeling down or lonely.


When you're down and troubled
And you need some loving care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend

If the sky above you
Grows dark and full of clouds
And that old north wind begins to blow
Keep you head together
And call my name out loud
Soon you'll hear me knocking at you door

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there

Ain't it good to know that you've got a friend
When people can be so cold
They'll hurt you, and desert you
And take your soul if you let them

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend

BTW, both of these men in your life should know that they were and are very lucky to have you as part of their lives,if only for a short time.I know to be touched by a heart so warm,so loving,so caring as yours, they must have been co authors of this song.


I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel my heart start to trembling
Whenever you're around

Ooh, baby, when I see your face
Mellow as the month of May
Oh, darling, I can't stand it
When you look at me that way

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel my heart start to trembling
Whenever you're around

Oh, darling, when you're near me
And you tenderly call my name
I know that my emotions
Are something I just can't tame
I've just got to have you, baby

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I just lose control
Down to my very soul
I get hot and cold all over
I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down, tumbling down, tumbling down...

 

[Jewelz]

JEWELZ, my adopted sister, just know when you are confused or not sure about something or just feeling down or lonely.
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend

BTW, both of these men in your life should know that they were and are very lucky to have you as part of their lives,if only for a short time.I know to be touched by a heart so warm,so loving,so caring as yours, they must have been co authors of this song.

I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down
I just lose control
Down to my very soul
I get hot and cold all over
I feel the earth move under my feet
I feel the sky tumbling down, tumbling down, tumbling down...

You are priceless!! I am so very thankful for our friendship. You mean alot to me!! Thank you always for your support and your optimism. I cant express my extreme happiness for you and sweet jenny.

 

[Batch]

ah love let us be true to each other......


love is pain

you open yourslef to the joy of another
you share..
the world becomes brighter and so holy
soul's embrace,
soul's mate twined eternity is/ was ours...

and then he dies

the love is still there?

does he live on in your memories?
oh assuradely it is so

love comes to us all along our lives...sometimes she gives us just a brief kiss and departs...leaving us with the scent and warmth still on our fingers...
inhaling deeply with the memory


lost in thought for a space of time...


sometimes she stays this love this true love...and you get to hold your soul mateclose...for such an eternity

and sometimes mulitple blessings our offered as precious gifts
and what to do?
what to do?

do you dance again
can the heart bear more..will it open or must one be held safe from the dangers of loving?




and why risk?

why indeed?



true love...an odd statement..there is a world of possibilities

 

[bibetty]

I think the one true love thing is way over rated. My first marriage was to what I though was the one true love and that ended in divorse after many years. Now I am married to the most wonderful man, but when I first saw him he deffinantly wasn't the man of my dreams. I fell in love with him as we were together.

Then, with his full support I started to explore my Bi side. Now I have meet several women that I love. Is the love to the same degree as the love I have for my husband? No. But if we found a single women that wanted to be with both of us I feel that I could develope a love for her that would come very close to what my husband and I have now.

My two cents worth.

Betty

 

[~Dream~]

my oh my..

i feel life is the search for the one real true love, the one you are supposed to be with.Yes, there are ones you love and love you all through your life but the relationship ends because it was missing that or this or you were missing something the other needed or wanted or visa versa.Once you really do meet your true love, it usually doesnt end because that person completes you, makes you whole.The other relationships let you see what your relationship now has that you were missong by compairison.

TY my true love.TY for being on LIT that fateful day, when you began the process of changing my life.

Omahaman2 JUST TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUTTA MY MOUTH!!
I have been married 4 times now (soon to be divorced),but I can look back on all my *loves* and truly say that None of them fulfilled me the way my relationship with Master Artful does..
HE TRULY "COMPLETES" me !!He was the missing piece I always yearned for but could Never find ..well not until 5-20-02 that is..when we met online at Lit..now my heart is filled to OVERFLOWING,with all the LOVE He brings into my life..
finally.I AM FREE to be ME and really be *accepted* as I am there is no greater feelig in the world!!
ad uh omahaman2?/ since there is no more SEPTEMBER OW..HEHE
I get to move to Arkansas alot sooner,thanks!! good luck to you and Jenny sweety

 

[artful]

Is there only one true love in our lifetime or is it possible to have more than one, at different times, as we go through life?

Just something I've been pondering.

I would appreciate your thoughts.

I define TRUE love as being ONE of the pieces that fit together comfortably, with ONE other piece, to make a WHOLE. (JMHO)