*True Confessions*

[kikmosa]

GOOD MORNING TCERS
Here's a virtual gift from me to you.

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Only problem with that Oman is that I can't chew any of it.

 

[omahaman2]

Only problem with that Oman is that I can't chew any of it.

sorry,kiki
just for you,my friend

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[kikmosa]

sorry,kiki
just for you,my friend

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Thank you Oman. Wish I had a bowl of it right now. I'm so damn hungry and can't eat anything I have in the house.

 

[English Lady]

\Well hello all again! been back to my mums for a while, spent loads of time with my sister whilst she was off from work which was lovely!

Confession....

Idon't think I am dealing with my mum and Dad's seperation as werll as I might think. my mum hand i had amajor screaming row on sunday, over nothing, but it brought up alot of issues. I feel like i have to play piggy in the middle, keep everyone happy. I feel literally torn in half at times.

I am even finding difficaulty in wording this post because it just confuses me. my loyalties are torn. I want to spend time with them both, It upsets mum thati go spend time with dad and his other woman. it upsets dad that i can't spend more time with him and Debbie.

What makes it even worse is i actually like Debbie, she and my dad look so in love,i don't remember ever seeing my mum and dad so obviously in love.

So much pain and heartache and confusion and i am sick of it.

thank you for baring with me whilst i ramble on. i had to get it off my chest though.

 

[kikmosa]

\Well hello all again! been back to my mums for a while, spent loads of time with my sister whilst she was off from work which was lovely!

Confession....

Idon't think I am dealing with my mum and Dad's seperation as werll as I might think. my mum hand i had amajor screaming row on sunday, over nothing, but it brought up alot of issues. I feel like i have to play piggy in the middle, keep everyone happy. I feel literally torn in half at times.

I am even finding difficaulty in wording this post because it just confuses me. my loyalties are torn. I want to spend time with them both, It upsets mum thati go spend time with dad and his other woman. it upsets dad that i can't spend more time with him and Debbie.

What makes it even worse is i actually like Debbie, she and my dad look so in love,i don't remember ever seeing my mum and dad so obviously in love.

So much pain and heartache and confusion and i am sick of it.

thank you for baring with me whilst i ramble on. i had to get it off my chest though.

What you feel is normal EL. And what your mum is doing is wrong. Children should never be made to take sides or play piggy in the middle. I know you feel like you need to keep everyone happy but their happiness is not your responsability. If they want to be happy then they will find a way. If not, then nothing you do is going to change that.

There is nothing wrong with you liking Debbie. It's not disloyal to your mother no matter what she may make you feel like. You don't have to choose side and you need to make that clear to both of them. Tell them that you are staying netrual and to stop trying to make you choose. Then let them deal with it as best as they can. Your responsability is to your own happiness at this point. Do what feels right to you.

 

[English Lady]

Thanks Kikmosa you make alot of sense!

Whenever my mum and get into an "argument"(more like ascreaming match really) I always tell her to stop making me take sides. Everytime she says she isn't THEN she goes on about how terrible my dad was, how bad he's been etc etc...she doesn't seem to see what she's doing...Its all kinda messy...and it's all a matter of time i think.

I feel better for letting it out. I've been keeping it all locked up, because i am "grown up" people seem to expect me to be able to deal with it ok. It's still my mum and dad splitting. Its my family changing and I don't like it! I know my dad and mum made each other misterable, i know it is better for them to be apart, both of them are better of, i can see that but just because i KNOW it doesn't mean I like it.

see i'm off again....*L* sorry...

 

[kikmosa]

Thanks Kikmosa you make alot of sense!

Whenever my mum and get into an "argument"(more like ascreaming match really) I always tell her to stop making me take sides. Everytime she says she isn't THEN she goes on about how terrible my dad was, how bad he's been etc etc...she doesn't seem to see what she's doing...Its all kinda messy...and it's all a matter of time i think.

I feel better for letting it out. I've been keeping it all locked up, because i am "grown up" people seem to expect me to be able to deal with it ok. It's still my mum and dad splitting. Its my family changing and I don't like it! I know my dad and mum made each other misterable, i know it is better for them to be apart, both of them are better of, i can see that but just because i KNOW it doesn't mean I like it.

see i'm off again....*L* sorry...

There's nothing to be sorry about. That's what this place is for. To get it out in the open so you can deal with it.

It's completely normal to be upset with your parents splitting up. No matter how old you are when it happens. Even though they made each other miserable, they were still the foundation you built your life on. They were always there, you could always depend on that being a constant facter in your life. and then they changed that. They unstablized your life by splitting the foundation. Now you have to find a new balance in your life. You have to rebuild your foundations. And no matter how strong you build them, in the back of your mind you'll always have a doubt about how stable they are. That's a scary thing.

My parents were married three times, to each other. That's a very shaky foundation. No matter what they said, i alwys knew it would never be stable.

You can't let it hold you down. You have to go on and build your life and simply take it on faith. And if it happens again, you pick up and keep going. You have to remember that no matter where they are or who their with, they love you. That's what you build your foundations on. Not the relationships they're in but their love for you.

Your mother is going to have to deal with her bitterness in her own way. Don't let her drag you down into it. If she starts again, simply remind her that you really don't to be pushed into taking sides. If she persists, then start getting up and leaving, telling her you'll be back when the subject changes. If she starts the fighting then just tell her you'll be back when you can both deal with it as adults. It won't be easy, and it'll hurt. Same thing goes for your dad. Don't let him do this to you either. Simply love them both as best as you can and go on with your life.

 

[English Lady]

Again many thanks Kikmosa....*hugs* you've given me some good tips there... its ghood to get someone else's view on things*S*

 

[kikmosa]

Again many thanks Kikmosa....*hugs* you've given me some good tips there... its ghood to get someone else's view on things*S*

Sometimes all we need is a different point of view. i have times when things seem cloudy to me too and I come here and talk and someone else sees what i missed and things are fine again. We all need someone to talk too.

 

[English Lady]

thats one of the things i love about lit, the fact that there is so many different people around, all helping one another, listening and giving advice,its just amazing really!

 

[kikmosa]

thats one of the things i love about lit, the fact that there is so many different people around, all helping one another, listening and giving advice,its just amazing really!

That's what keeps me here as well. So many people caring for each other. It's like a huge never ending family. Of course, like any family, there are a few bad apples. But they are easy to ignore.

 

[omahaman2]

talking about family,
for my friend, DREAM


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[English Lady]

It's such a beautiful community here and lost people are not quick to judge. And the few bad apples are easy to ignore*S*

 

[kikmosa]

talking about family,
for my friend, DREAM


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Hello brother Oman. And how is sister Jenny today?

 

[kikmosa]

It's such a beautiful community here and lost people are not quick to judge. And the few bad apples are easy to ignore*S*

i love this place. I don't even go into the stories. i just come here for my friends and family here,

 

[omahaman2]

Hello brother Oman. And how is sister Jenny today?

HOWDY sister kiki
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sister jenny is under the weather

sorry didnt get back at you right away
went to chatrooms

 

[kikmosa]

HOWDY sister kiki
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sister jenny is under the weather

sorry didnt get back at you right away
went to chatrooms

It's ok, Oman. I hope Jenny isn't too bad. And that she gets over it very fast.

 

[TantaLiza]

Just poppin in for a min tonight... this week has been exhausting and I've not been sleepin very good... ~sigh~

I'm hopin everyone has a great start to their weekend!! I'm driving to Atlanta to take a friend towards the airport... her friend is traveling in from England for an extended weekend... not sure what time I'll be getting home Friday night...

Take care all!!

Blowing soft sensuous kisses...

LizA

 

[English Lady]

Take care tantaliza! *giving you a bag of sleepy dust*

 

[naughtygirl]

Good evening everyone!

Hope you get some rest, Liza! Sweet dreams!

EL...I agree with everything Kiki said. She is a very smart woman, so use what you can from her advice, its good stuff. Hope your parents stop putting you in that position.

Oman...tell Jenny I hope she feels better. And Im sure you are taking very good care of her.

CF...thanks for the pic. I am such a voyeur!


Confession:
*I can be a real news junkie.

 

[omahaman2]

Good evening,everyone
hope everyone's night is great
BABYDOLL,
havent had a chance to say,
CONGRATULATIONS.

True love doesn't have a happy ending:
True love doesn't have an ending

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NG,
hope you are doing great in texas,sis
doing

all the leaves are brown and the sky is grey
i've been for a walk on a winters dayI'd be save and warm if I was in LA california
dreaming on such a winters day

stepped into a church I passed along the way well, I got down on my knees andI
pretended to pray you know the preacher likes the cold he knows I'm gonna stay
california dreaming on such a winters day


get some rest,LIZA
need me to sing

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[omahaman2]

Can you tell Im in a weird mood?????????

 

[naughtygirl]

Can you tell Im in a weird mood?????????

and this is different how?

Thanks for all your good wishes for me. You are such a great support! and great song!

 

[English Lady]

Hi and thanks NG! I am planning to put some of kiki's suggestions into practise..she sure does make sense!


Ok i am going back to sleep now, 4 am here....

 

[kikmosa]

Thank you both.