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trouble with orgasms
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Starlite it seems to me that the most obvious and practical answer is that you are only 19... you have time. Most of the women I have ever known, who now orgasm easily or are multi-orgasmic, never had an orgasm until later in life. I can't remember if later in life means 25 or 30 or what but it is certainly not uncommon. Most women will tell you that they enjoy sex and can let themselves go much more as they get older.
I certainly wouldn't call your sexual experiences a waste of time just because you didn't achieve orgasm. I would only call it a waste of time if you get no enjoyment at all from sex.
As for the one night stand theory, it could only be possible true if you knew ahead of time that it was going to be a one night stand. Most people don't go into a sexual encounter with the intent of it being a one night stand. Now they may know it is a one night stand before the sexual encounter is over but usually not at the beginning.
Out of all this speculation there is only one for sure truth and that is if you keep worrying about it you will only make it that much more difficult. Take Emerald_eyed's suggestion and try an assortment of toys and techniques with your partners. Try having your partners use the toys on you. If it feels good then do it and the orgasms will take care of themselves... and remember you are only 19.
I certainly wouldn't call your sexual experiences a waste of time just because you didn't achieve orgasm. I would only call it a waste of time if you get no enjoyment at all from sex.
As for the one night stand theory, it could only be possible true if you knew ahead of time that it was going to be a one night stand. Most people don't go into a sexual encounter with the intent of it being a one night stand. Now they may know it is a one night stand before the sexual encounter is over but usually not at the beginning.
Out of all this speculation there is only one for sure truth and that is if you keep worrying about it you will only make it that much more difficult. Take Emerald_eyed's suggestion and try an assortment of toys and techniques with your partners. Try having your partners use the toys on you. If it feels good then do it and the orgasms will take care of themselves... and remember you are only 19.
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Just masturbate with the intention of enjoyment, not to get the big O...experiment on positions. As soon as you are frustrated, stop, so you don't think of masturbating as a negative thing. Also, you may want to try to clear your head of any past negative thoughts about sex, masturbation, etc. It may have to do with your childhood and how your parents perceived sex. (Or something. Some religious backgrounds make sex out to be a bad thing.) Remember that sex and masturbation and orgasms are very healthy and very good for you. They do great things for your body chemistry!
I would say that you could enjoy some sexy erotic reading and REALLY get yourself in the mood before you try again. And practice. A lot. But not all in the same day. Maybe every day, though. Geez, I hope this helps! Good luck and happy pleasuring!
I would say that you could enjoy some sexy erotic reading and REALLY get yourself in the mood before you try again. And practice. A lot. But not all in the same day. Maybe every day, though. Geez, I hope this helps! Good luck and happy pleasuring!
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