*trembles* He's Doing it again....

[Silverluna]

Vikki...my SO ...is cutting himself again.....he told me....yes this is an internet relationship...and yes I KNOW the dangers of getting involved with internet people....and I don't need a lecture in how this is self destructive to me right now...save it for later ok?
I just need comforting...and um....understanding?? I have tried and tried to talk to him about this.....he always has an excuse...
I *love * him....I can't get him help...cause I don't know his phone #......and he give it because he's afraid to admit to himself that he's transsexual......
AAAAARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH........(sorry i like to scream sometimes...)
~Disgruntled~
Silver

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I don't know what to say to you. But I'm sending you big hugs cause I know you must be hurting not being able to reach him as much as you want to.

 

[Silverluna]

Thankz TH.
Your support always has made me feel somewhat better....

 

[MissTaken]

That is a difficult situation...especially as you are not able to contact him in person. I am sure you worry.

There are many reasons people cut themselves and it is NOT always a suicidal gesture.

People who cut may, at times, have a low level of seratonin. There is a good article about this at about.com.

Also, as I am sure you are aware, he needs help.

Take care and hugs....for both

 

[Vilac]

Silver...

I know that you don't know me from a can of beans, but I've been where you are now. I had a very close friend of mine go through the "cutting" thing as well. Fortunately for me, I had her phone number and was able to both talk to her, and in time...alert her parents that there was a huge problem going on there.

They got involved, and got her some help. I was torn for quite awhile about speaking to her folks, because I knew at the time that she'd never forgive me for it. And, as I thought would happen, she harbored alot of anger towards me for it....and we've not spoken in over 3 years now.

It's hard loving someone who has self-destructive behavior.

So..I guess what I'm saying is that I hear you, and believe me....I know how helpless you feel at this moment. The "excuses" they give never end, so be prepared to hear almost anything.

I wish you the best of luck.
V~

 

[Ms_Lilith]

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[Silverluna]

I think part of the beauty about LIT .....and especially the BBS is that you can express your feelings where either in reality you cannot or in other online places with this much open minded-ness (is that a word). Also the friends one meets here are truely unique and loving...in their own way.
So, that's my little reason for posting my problems on LIT .....

 

[cymbidia]

Unfortunately, i've had to learn a lot about self-hurting bahaviors in the last few years. Here are a few good quality websites to help **you** deal with your feelings about what your friend is doing. Additionally, these places will give you resources to maybe help your friend help himself.

Focus Adolescent Services
http://www.focusas.com/SelfInjury.html


When Pain Is All You Have
http://www.drinkdeeplyanddream.com/realvampire/SMS.html


Self-injury: You are NOT the only one
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html


Please feel free to contact me if you need any more resources on this. I truly understand how crazy it can make you to not have any power to stop/help/affect such behavior in the people you love. Sometimes, the best thing -the onlt thing- we can do in such situations is to keep ourselves level and wait for them to come around.
cym

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Vikki...my SO ...is cutting himself again.....he told me....yes this is an internet relationship...and yes I KNOW the dangers of getting involved with internet people....and I don't need a lecture in how this is self destructive to me right now...save it for later ok?
I just need comforting...and um....understanding?? I have tried and tried to talk to him about this.....he always has an excuse...
I *love * him....I can't get him help...cause I don't know his phone #......and he give it because he's afraid to admit to himself that he's transsexual......
AAAAARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH........(sorry i like to scream sometimes...)
~Disgruntled~
Silver

OI VEY! I'm sorry hon, I know how difficult it can be. Are you still with Warstar, or is this a different guy? Big hugs hon, and I'll be on AIM later tonight.

 

[Silverluna]

Re: Re: *trembles* He's Doing it again....

OI VEY! I'm sorry hon, I know how difficult it can be. Are you still with Warstar, or is this a different guy? Big hugs hon, and I'll be on AIM later tonight.

New guy....and about War...I dont know....

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Re: Re: Re: *trembles* He's Doing it again....

New guy....and about War...I dont know....

War is surviving, I've seen him around. Mind you, I did have to translate the typing quite a bit, but that is usual for War on the weekends. Hugs hon, hope it works out with this new guy.

 

[Silverluna]

Im talking with Vikki now....he's cut himself...I don't know where...and the bleeding wont stop.....(talking/chatting via msn) ....I am taking this seriously because if I didnt...what if it was real?