Transition

[biffothebear]

I'ts Thursday now and get to meet this wonderful woman on Friday. Thank you to all of the lovely people who have posted on this thread and for all of the kind thoughts. I'm certain we will get on as well when we meet as we have in all of the texts, e-mails and phone calls we have exchanged and the time we have chatted on IM. I have no doubt we will let you know what transpires (but maybe not in too much detail!)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sounds like you are both approaching it with feet on the ground, though a little giddy, but that is a good thing. Enjoy and remember it is about what you both feel and want. As for details, give as many or few as you wish....though many of us are happy to relive our own memories through the making of someone elses.

Catalina

 

[kimuk]

I'ts Thursday now and get to meet this wonderful woman on Friday. Thank you to all of the lovely people who have posted on this thread and for all of the kind thoughts. I'm certain we will get on as well when we meet as we have in all of the texts, e-mails and phone calls we have exchanged and the time we have chatted on IM. I have no doubt we will let you know what transpires (but maybe not in too much detail!)

So after the event how do I feel? I feel lucky. Lucky that Bill is the man in real life that he is in the virtual world. Lucky he made me feel comfortable and free. Lucky he liked me , enjoyed me. Lucky he gave me so many new expreainces which led to a great deal ( and sometimes very noisy ! sorry lol ) pleasure. Fourtunatly the hotel didnt call the police because of the noise. Lucky he has helped me find what i want and need and the depths of that. Lucky he has a skilled mouth and expert hands. Lucky that it worked so well . The I left elated and smileing . Lucky that i have great memories and visual evedence as well.

Lucky to have found you Bill.

Submissives kisses xx

 

[Babyslave]

So Happy For You Both

I've thought about you both (in general terms, not graphic detail, honest ), wondering, hoping to hear that the meeting would go well. I am so happy for you both, I can't even begin to express it.

I thought I'd feel jealous, envious, but I don't. Not at all.

You've given me hope, that though my first didn't work out, there may, there just may be someone out there than honestly, truly, and wonderfully will suit me as well as you two suit each other.

My continued best to you both. Thank you for sharing this with us.

I am all smiles now (with some happy tears too)

 

[kimuk]

I've thought about you both (in general terms, not graphic detail, honest ), wondering, hoping to hear that the meeting would go well. I am so happy for you both, I can't even begin to express it.

I thought I'd feel jealous, envious, but I don't. Not at all.

You've given me hope, that though my first didn't work out, there may, there just may be someone out there than honestly, truly, and wonderfully will suit me as well as you two suit each other.

My continued best to you both. Thank you for sharing this with us.

I am all smiles now (with some happy tears too)

It has to be like vanilla dating to tell the truth..........you kiss a lot of frogs before you find you Prince

 

[CurvAppeal]

It has to be like vanilla dating to tell the truth..........you kiss a lot of frogs before you find you Prince

I am so happy that everything worked out for the both of you. =) I knew it would. I know exactly how you feel and I couldn't be any more excited for you than I already am. Congrats babe!!!

 

[minx1]

It has to be like vanilla dating to tell the truth..........you kiss a lot of frogs before you find you Prince

I feel like I've kissed enough to open a frog farm!

So happy it went well for you...may it continue to bring you joy

 

[HottieMama]

I'm opening up a frog farm with minx!!!! (BTW..Hi minx!!!!!!!!!)

Seriously though, I am glad it went well for you. I have had it go both ways. Last year, I met someone from here that I knew for a few years. We were good ONLINE/PHONE friends/flirt buddies. In person, though it was like we were oil and water. It just didn't work out well at all. Three weeks ago however, I got to meet another friend with whom I had been building a huge amount of sexual tension over our multiple year long distance friendship. From the MOMENT I saw her it was like we were just meant to be together. It went very well, and I am counting the days till I can see her again. (Fortunately we are close enough that one or two weekends a month is possible.) We are beginning to establish our definition of a D/s relationship and are both pretty excited to see where things go...

I wish you both many happy times together...

 

[lustpuppy]

I feel like I've kissed enough to open a frog farm!

So happy it went well for you...may it continue to bring you joy

You have to find the right frog, and also that frog has to find you.
Should either the princess or the frog stop looking, that is where the story ends, so put your lipstick on and get back to life's pond and find your destiny. Just keep it in mind that the frog is looking for you too.

 

[minx1]

I'm opening up a frog farm with minx!!!! (BTW..Hi minx!!!!!!!!!)

Seriously though, I am glad it went well for you. I have had it go both ways. Last year, I met someone from here that I knew for a few years. We were good ONLINE/PHONE friends/flirt buddies. In person, though it was like we were oil and water. It just didn't work out well at all. Three weeks ago however, I got to meet another friend with whom I had been building a huge amount of sexual tension over our multiple year long distance friendship. From the MOMENT I saw her it was like we were just meant to be together. It went very well, and I am counting the days till I can see her again. (Fortunately we are close enough that one or two weekends a month is possible.) We are beginning to establish our definition of a D/s relationship and are both pretty excited to see where things go...

I wish you both many happy times together...

OMG Hottie!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow so good to see you and what fantastic news! Good on you hon!

You have to find the right frog, and also that frog has to find you.
Should either the princess or the frog stop looking, that is where the story ends, so put your lipstick on and get back to life's pond and find your destiny. Just keep it in mind that the frog is looking for you too.

I swear to god I havent once taken these waders or the lipgloss off....even after all the crap, I still believe in happyish ending!

 

[catalina_francisco]

It's good to hear your time together went well. I hope everything just gets better and better for you both.

Catalina

 

[kimuk]

I am so happy that everything worked out for the both of you. =) I knew it would. I know exactly how you feel and I couldn't be any more excited for you than I already am. Congrats babe!!!

Thanks babe ...it was pretty wonderful and we had a great time , our relationship will find its place and we have talked about what happened , what we loved and what we want in the future, so it will grow . Already making plans for the next time

 

[kimuk]

I feel like I've kissed enough to open a frog farm!

So happy it went well for you...may it continue to bring you joy

Well even frogs are fun the play with !......thanks for you good wishes

 

[kimuk]

I'm opening up a frog farm with minx!!!! (BTW..Hi minx!!!!!!!!!)

Seriously though, I am glad it went well for you. I have had it go both ways. Last year, I met someone from here that I knew for a few years. We were good ONLINE/PHONE friends/flirt buddies. In person, though it was like we were oil and water. It just didn't work out well at all. Three weeks ago however, I got to meet another friend with whom I had been building a huge amount of sexual tension over our multiple year long distance friendship. From the MOMENT I saw her it was like we were just meant to be together. It went very well, and I am counting the days till I can see her again. (Fortunately we are close enough that one or two weekends a month is possible.) We are beginning to establish our definition of a D/s relationship and are both pretty excited to see where things go...

I wish you both many happy times together...

thanks so much and I hope things work out for you to this time x

 

[kimuk]

It's good to hear your time together went well. I hope everything just gets better and better for you both.

Catalina

Thanks Catalina , I feel it will . It feels good , you know. And were so the same wavelenght and have the same expectations. We'll discoved togeather , out own specail advanture.:~)

 

[TarevaChine]

Glad to see that it went well. May you share many more memories together!

 

[kimuk]

Thanks ...I hope so too

 

[redheadedtxn]

Congrats, glad it worked out the way you'd hoped that it would

 

[kimuk]

Congrats, glad it worked out the way you'd hoped that it would

Thanks, it feels like the start of something good

 

[kimuk]

Hi All ....help a novice out here. What reaction do subs get following a meeting. I have read about the sub drop thing.

This is how I felt .
Angry - I supose that I couldnt stay with him.
Weepy - for no apparent reason , every little thing seemed too much to cope with.
Edgy - unsetteled , no concentration.
Depressed - that what did he really think, is he telling me everything , was he disappionted etc etc.

And then I did the stupidest thing ......when we did have chance to talk I purposely baited him. I pushed for a reaction and dont even know what reaction i was looking for!!!!

So post meeting , the most painful week , made myself feel bad and him.

So normal reaction?

And how do I guard against it next time?

Because next time is not many weeks away.

Thanks Kim

 

[seela]

Hi All ....help a novice out here. What reaction do subs get following a meeting. I have read about the sub drop thing.

This is how I felt .
Angry - I supose that I couldnt stay with him.
Weepy - for no apparent reason , every little thing seemed too much to cope with.
Edgy - unsetteled , no concentration.
Depressed - that what did he really think, is he telling me everything , was he disappionted etc etc.

And then I did the stupidest thing ......when we did have chance to talk I purposely baited him. I pushed for a reaction and dont even know what reaction i was looking for!!!!

So post meeting , the most painful week , made myself feel bad and him.

So normal reaction?

And how do I guard against it next time?

Because next time is not many weeks away.

Thanks Kim

What you expected is a sub drop. Here's a really good thread about sub drop that has helped many, I'm sure, and definitely is worth a read. There you can also find some examples of what people have done when they've faced it.

So yeah, normal reaction. Probably not the nicest reaction, but it's normal. What helped me deal with sub drop before was to know in advance that it might come. It's been easier to deal with the emotions, when I 've been prepared to fight them off. Physical labor has worked wonders, as well. Talk with your PYL about what has happened and how you've been feeling, keep him posted on your emotions.

 

[kimuk]

Thanks .....will take a look

 

[subish2009]

Thanks .....will take a look

Awwww, feel better! Exercise works wonder for me. I NEVER feel like it, it's the LAST thing I want, but it ALWAYS helps more than I expected.

Any kind of feel-good stuff you can think of (pedicure? Chocolate? Movie with girlfriends? A new book?), but keep BUSY! For me, an idle mind spirals out of control FAST.

And more important than any of these: apologize to him. Tell him that you've figured out that it was sub-drop. Tell him what you're going through, that you never meant to take it out on him. See if HE has any suggestions. It's in the D-type nature, often, to want to fix. If nothing else, you two are tight, right? He'll listen, he'll appreciate the apology, he'll work on thinking of ways to help you anticipate it the next time, and he'll forgive. And you'll both feel better.

HUGS.

 

[kimuk]

Awwww, feel better! Exercise works wonder for me. I NEVER feel like it, it's the LAST thing I want, but it ALWAYS helps more than I expected.

Any kind of feel-good stuff you can think of (pedicure? Chocolate? Movie with girlfriends? A new book?), but keep BUSY! For me, an idle mind spirals out of control FAST.

And more important than any of these: apologize to him. Tell him that you've figured out that it was sub-drop. Tell him what you're going through, that you never meant to take it out on him. See if HE has any suggestions. It's in the D-type nature, often, to want to fix. If nothing else, you two are tight, right? He'll listen, he'll appreciate the apology, he'll work on thinking of ways to help you anticipate it the next time, and he'll forgive. And you'll both feel better.

HUGS.

I like the idea of chocolate lol.......I was busy, very busy at work , but was snappy with everyone and laid into a collague for no apparent reason. Have been taking my frustrations out on everyone around me. I dont think I was prepared for the emotional fallout.

Anyway ........we talked . He understands , even had his own "reaction" ....Dom drop ? Is there such a thing? ......We had a tense week made worse by "life " getting in the way and preventing a lot of contact .

But we've "fixed" it again now and I'm going to do everything I can to prevent it happening in August.

Thanks for your help

 

[kimuk]

next meeting mid September! ....mini play date! ......cant wait!