Toys - Surprise or Not

[The Agnostic]

Doing this under an alt to avoid complications

If/When you introduced toys to your sexual repertoir with your partner, is it better to bring it/them out as a surprise or should they be dicussed first?

 

[Aurora Black]

I think it should definitely be discussed, but I voted slightly differently.

 

[FallingToFly]

I once bought a boyfriend a slimline vibe for Christmas.. he was shocked, appalled, and then when I explained that the male equivalent of the g-spot was the prostate- out of batteries within an hour.

 

[lil_elvis]

Definitely surprise.

 

[Aurora Black]

I once bought a boyfriend a slimline vibe for Christmas.. he was shocked, appalled, and then when I explained that the male equivalent of the g-spot was the prostate- out of batteries within an hour.

That is so hot.

 

[lil_elvis]

I once bought a boyfriend a slimline vibe for Christmas.. he was shocked, appalled, and then when I explained that the male equivalent of the g-spot was the prostate- out of batteries within an hour.

Did we know each other in a former life?

 

[impressive]

Depends on what I believe my partner can handle.

 

[lil_elvis]

Depends on what I believe my partner can handle.

If they can handle you, I would think they could handle about anything

 

[impressive]

If they can handle you, I would think they could handle about anything

Word.

 

[FallingToFly]

Did we know each other in a former life?

Brandon?

I thought you moved to Wisconsin...

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I say surprise them, but don't force the issue.
The majority of the time, just introducing the idea is enough to pique good enough interest. Also, if you leave said toy in a place that your partner happens across it often enough, they'll likely bring it to bed with all kinds of curiosities.

Too many are too awkward about buying/shopping for things like that. Removing any decision from them sort of absolves them of being too kinky, if that's what they're worried about.

 

[kendo1]

My wife produced a vibe from her case after a trip to Amsterdam.
She wanted to try it out, but did not want to surprise me 'in the heat of passion'.

To be honest, she doesn't like using it. It is gathering dust in the bedside cabinet.

It's too noisy for her, and with kids~

Ken