Tough Lessons taught in the School of Hard Knocks

[AllardChardon]

Life has hard lessons to learn. Some are unexpected. I have had my share and have helped others with theirs. My ex had brain surgery for cancer about a year ago and has beaten the odds. The tumor is dead and gone. This is like a miracle. But it was a hard lesson to live through with the chemo and radiation therapy for the last year.

I was asking a friend why we accept the hard lessons, instead of choosing the easier ones presented early on. This is assuming a body, mind and spirit has some control over whether to accept DIS EASE within itself or not, which I truly believe to be true.

Is this a design flaw?

 

[xssve]

There is no substitute for experience?

 

[AllardChardon]

My Dad used to say to me, all the time, "You can learn this the easy way or the hard way!" I often picked the hard way, driven by stubborness.

When we try to help our children see the easy way, why do they choose the hard lessons, even though we are living proof it was not the way to go! Is it sheer ego? Or constant hormone drip? I wonder.

 

[xssve]

My Dad used to say to me, all the time, "You can learn this the easy way or the hard way!" I often picked the hard way, driven by stubborness.

When we try to help our children see the easy way, why do they choose the hard lessons, even though we are living proof it was not the way to go! Is it sheer ego? Or constant hormone drip? I wonder.

"If you don't fall, you aren't extending yourself", as the old saying goes. It works in Skiing anyway.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Full recovery? Damn, that's good news. Must have been all that high quality nursing he got.

 

[NoJo]

Personally I think the so-called "hard" way is sometimes the only way -- to me it means learning first-hand rather than accepting it on faith from someone else. Like getting your fingers burned rather than being told a candle is hot. That's specially true of learning about sex and love. No amount of book-larnin' or advice from people will be adequate

 

[shereads]

I'd like to see the School of Hard Knocks closed down. It should never have been given an operating license.



Thank you for sharing your ex's survival story.

 

[shereads]

Personally I think the so-called "hard" way is sometimes the only way -- to me it means learning first-hand rather than accepting it on faith from someone else. Like getting your fingers burned rather than being told a candle is hot. That's specially true of learning about sex and love. No amount of book-larnin' or advice from people will be adequate

Where love is concerned, even experience can be an ineffective teacher. The human heart suffers from selective memory.

 

[NoJo]

Where love is concerned, even experience can be an ineffective teacher. The human heart suffers from selective memory.

Have we met?

 

[shereads]

Have we met?

That depends.

 

[NoJo]

That depends.

While we're on the subject of non-sequiturs, So do I.

 

[AllardChardon]

So true, Sub Joe. In fact, in regards to sex, telling someone, DO NOT EVER TRY THAT, seems to make them run all the faster to do exactly that!

 

[shereads]

While we're on the subject of non-sequiturs, So do I.

<delivers hard knock>

 

[NoJo]

So true, Sub Joe. In fact, in regards to sex, telling someone, DO NOT EVER TRY THAT, seems to make them run all the faster to do exactly that!

Yes, experience is the name we give to our itchy rashes

 

[AllardChardon]

So good advice for parents is to say, "Go out there and learn the hard way. We can't stop you anyway!" I just can't see myself saying that in any way but sarcastically, which I do employ alot.

 

[AllardChardon]

Shereads and Volupt, yes I am very glad to report that we had a wonderful outcome over here. With glioblastoma's, that is not usually the case. Great doctors and a wonderful surgeon made all the difference, although my high fiber, low fat, no sugar diet might have helped.

 

[AllardChardon]

Back to thread. I can think of several hard knocks I gave myself that I could have very easily avoided, if I had been using my brain, instead of my inflated ego. My DUI that was changed to a Wet & Reckless springs to mind. I knew better and still I drove my car when I had too much to drink. The law had to teach me that lesson, with my permission, of course.

Anyone else want to share their lessons at the School of Hard Knocks? I wonder when I will graduate. LOL

 

[voluptuary_manque]

How about hunt dangerous game from hiding? If the zombie buffalo hadn't been able to see me, he wouldn't have charged.

 

[AllardChardon]

Next time take you cloak of invisibility, okay?

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Next time take you cloak of invisibility, okay?

You know all those stories about how dangerous Cape buffalo are? Is true! Next time I want something exotic to eat, I'll just go to the Chinese market.

 

[AllardChardon]

Back to thread. So why does the alcoholic continue to drink even after his doctor says it is killing him? And the smoker who ends up in a wheelchair and doing ads against smoking? Was that his purpose?

Or is it a design flaw?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I just read a book on this very topic. The author, a social psychologist, sez that people dont like to do the math, and they opt for hope, because hope is easier on their brains.

Its easier to smoke and hope you dont get cancer. Its easier to use the credit card and hope you can pay the bill. Its easier to go out and hope you do good enough on the test tomorrow. Its easier to let shit slide and be a slacker, etc. Credit card companies and banks count on it to make the big fees.

 

[xssve]

And the republicans count on it every election cycle.

 

[AllardChardon]

It certainly appears that we are the lambs leading ourselves to slaughter, so willingly, so blindly. Is it only in hindsight that we see, at all? Learn from your mistakes is the best we can hope for, which is better than ceaselessly repeating the same mistakes over and over, like the alcoholic. Sounds so dismal, and yet I kinda like a few of my scars. Some of the other scars I really think I could have lived without!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

XSSVE

Wait till I'm in the White House.