totally new here-Is this a submissive brat or a basic bitch?

[Tallcajun]

I wonder how things worked out for Echo1sp?

 

[Miles Long]

Good luck, dude. Sounds like she has zero relationship skills and interacting with her must be exhausting.

 

[Que]

Have you googled BPD?

If you become entangled with a BPD, chances are you will view it as the biggest mistake of your life.

Ugh. Not out of the realm of possibility.

I'm assuming you mean bipolar disorder as opposed to borderline personality disorder.

 

[MichelleInAsia]

Attention and excitement in a boring life is my guess. Only way she knows how to get it. Nothing to do with sex/BDSM/Dom-sub stuff in my eyes.

Do you remember being 16-25? Whether yourself or seeing similar in others? Some of us can be super mature in some aspects and mega immature in others. I see much, much older guys still guilty of that.

Take a chance and talk to her openly would be my advise. She'll likely flip out and seem like she didn't take it in, but will have and the reaction a week or two later should mellow into either better than the rollercoaster history or silence.

Good luck and not your job to help. Be supportive and clear but don't push to 'fix'..... you never will, it has to come from inside herself. Even if you don't help now, it might be a step towards a future person be it partner, family member or proffesional helping in the future

 

[ChefLife24]

In my opinionname she's doing this for drama and only wants to play games. I'd stay away if I were you. Good luck!

 

[Miles Long]

Update from the OP?

 

[SheLikes2Watch]

I think she sounds like a borderline personality to me. Check out this description:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml

I have a relative who is bipolar, and she does not cycle that fast and is not that manipulative (not that it isn't possible).

But it definitely smacks of some sort of pathology, not rational behavior to me. But then again I don't have brat experience.

I'd get her some help, and if she is unwilling, walk away.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

WOW! Thanks so much for the responses and support! to answer the question as to why i haven't confronted her yet was because the night before i did, someone said it sounded like a BDSM thing with the whole daddy sex talk. i did some very quick research and thought, "yeah...i have no idea what's what. i better ask some questions first". and so here i am...

there are issues that do need to be addressed and i am tonight. not fear as much as totally bewildered. i love the comment about her having 0 healthy relationship skills really put my mind at ease. as the saying goes: crazy will make you crazy, and i was half way there.

i really appreciate all the anonymous goons who said something, and you know, i'd never expect a group of people i did know help work out a relationship for me. that being said, i thought i would just cover all the bases, just in case. really the only thing i didn't know was how to handle her if this was a case of her being a submissive brat. it really looks like this is just her being her.

confrontation is in order and i really am grateful for your insight, reasons and explanations.

Let us know how the confrontation goes. I am with cutie mouse about no healthy relationship skills, jealousy and silent treatment are nothing to do with a healthy BDSM relationship for me either.

Sam xx