Total Hypocrite or Human?

[Ms_Ann]

It's not a quote. It's a proverb taken from an essay from Alexander Pope. It's hardly taken out of context.

I wish I knew the Latin translation for "fuck off."

Abi in malam crucem.

yw

 

[Debbie]

If you're feeling so guilty, conflicted etc then I'd talk to your wife, pastor, priest or leader of your church. Or of course your God.


Sometimes getting this sort of thing off your chest and getting their insight can be very helpful.

Your wife is the woman you love, your life partner, your team mate, your friend, your lover. If you can't confide in her and know that she will listen and be there for you then I feel sad for you. It's worth the risk to tell her rather than her finding out herself and assuming the worst.

 

[Debbie]

I believe human beings are very sexual and crave human contact. Intimacy is very important even if it is just hugging, snuggling, holding hands.

Touching and holding another human being makes us feel good. It is comforting, it helps reduce anxiety and it helps maintaining closeness in a couple.

So when I suggest talking to your wife I mean tell her that you both need to talk and hug, be intimate, confide in each other. You're both missing out and that is a shame.

Good luck

 

[Conager]

I am going to post my thoughts here and see how others reply. After posting my initial thoughts, I will not respond to any further post, I just want to see what others think, so here goes.

I am a Christian, I take my faith very seriously, and am so great-full for my salvation. I truly do try to live what I believe but, there are times in my life where I have not, now is one of those times. I have been married 25 years, I love my wife and don't ever want to leave her. She compliments my personality and we are great friends. That said, we have never been compatible sexually. And yes, I have addressed these issues with her, but she is very tight lipped when it comes to sexual discussions, even after being married 25 years.

So, to vent, to blow off some steam, I have come to LIT, and yes, my wife has no idea I come here. Yes, I know being here is not conducive to my beliefs, yes, I feel guilty for being here, and I probably won't be here an overly extended amount of time.

I really do try to NOT come across HOLIER THAN THOU, being a Christian is not about how GOOD I might be, but is about WHO I have faith in. No one else's sin is any worse than mine. My lusting after another woman in my mind is just as much a sin as someone actually having sex with someone who is not their spouse.

So with what you have read above, do you see someone like me as a TOTAL hypocrite or as someone who has FAITH, but has the same struggles as anyone else...

So now the thread is yours, let me have it...

It definitely was not at my instigation as to whether you are or are not a hypocrite. You are the one who raised the issue. In this thread. With hypocrite in the title.

You telegraphed what your actual desires were in posting this with your conclusion which was specifically, "let me have it." This is your fantasy, that you will be pilloried for your beliefs.

There's nothing wrong with those sort of kinky fantasies but it's probably better served <heh> on the bdsm board.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Conager]

Lord; mercy on my homeland Conager ( Christians are welcome their friend, there are more than a couple with faith about , just not this sort of thing. Fetish and sexuality? )

Agreed.

Nothing wrong with some healthy self-flagellation or better yet enlist the help of a friend.

Somebody, please insert the Monty Python clip of Monks chanting and smacking themselves in the head.

 

[oggbashan]

Procul, O Procul Este Profani

Can be translated as "Get lost if you are not part of the initiates", or "If you don't know the Mysteries, fuck off!"

 

[pointless]

we get it. you're trolling us. that's awesome. you're super original.

now fuck off.

yeah, what i said nearly a month ago! you tell 'em, me.

 

[KingOrfeo]

So with what you have read above, do you see someone like me as a TOTAL hypocrite or as someone who has FAITH, but has the same struggles as anyone else....

There is no incompatibility between the two.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

It definitely was not at my instigation as to whether you are or are not a hypocrite. You are the one who raised the issue. In this thread. With hypocrite in the title.

You telegraphed what your actual desires were in posting this with your conclusion which was specifically, "let me have it." This is your fantasy, that you will be pilloried for your beliefs.

There's nothing wrong with those sort of kinky fantasies but it's probably better served <heh> on the bdsm board.

Good catch, I thought the exact same thing when I got to the last line.

 

[oggbashan]

Hypocrite or human?

No, just full of yourself.

 

[Conager]

yeah, what i said nearly a month ago! you tell 'em, me.

You do tend to get to the nub of the matter, early. Right to the very point, as it were.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

So with what you have read above, do you see someone like me as a TOTAL hypocrite or as someone who has FAITH, but has the same struggles as anyone else...

I have good news and bad news.

The good news is, as others have already suggested, there is no such thing as a TOTAL hypocrite. The trick is to simply not get too comfortable with your percentage.

The bad news is most of us already have. And we invariably keep fluffing the pillows. Isn't that basically why you're here?