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fire_breeze
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It usually comes down to mind over matter. One trick many people use is to put their hands over the one touching your skin or asking that the touch be firm instead of light.
Another trick that many military personnel uses is deep, even breaths and to stay relaxed. If your body is tensed, then apparently you're more susceptible to being ticklish, whereas if your body is relaxed and you are in control, you will not react the same way.
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This might be an odd idea, but you may consider checking out some brushing techniques, like the Wilbarger Brushing Protocol. Brushing (with a soft surgical brush) is a technique sometimes used to desensitize people with Sensory Processing Disorders and Autism. It's mostly implemented with hypersensitive kids in a very specific way by a trained occupational therapist. However, our son uses a surgical brush in non-specific ways to relax and regulate his system.
If your sensitivity is that bothersome and a hindrance to getting your needs met, it's probably worth checking in with an Occupational Therapist who's familiar with many different desensitizing techniques.
If your sensitivity is that bothersome and a hindrance to getting your needs met, it's probably worth checking in with an Occupational Therapist who's familiar with many different desensitizing techniques.
On the other hand, some people are much into erotic tickle torture as a means of heightening sensations much the same as spanking or flogging, but in a different sort of way. Some are into being tickled to the point of losing bladder control. It's not something for everybody but can expand the envelope of erotic sensations. It all depends on what sort of activity you're into. Being ticklish isn't all bad.
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Sand baths are an ancient technique to toughen skin. Basically you get a bag of sterile sandbox sand, put it by the bathtub, take out a cup before you shower, and scrub it against your skin wherever you want to toughen it. If the sand is dusty, wet it down a little, you don't want to breathe the dust or get it in your eyes. Then shower as normal. Repeat every day.
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I’m very ticklish as well, and a technique that a masseuse used to use on me was to firmly rub her whole hands (palms and fingers) over me during the first few minutes of the massage. It was very effective in desensitizing me for the rest of the massage.
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Rubbing sand on my skin sounds torturous, and I have no desire to toughen it. I'll see if a firmer touch or a brush helps though.
Sorry amofiga, but tickling definitely isn't a fetish of mine. I find the sensation very unpleasant, and it interferes with what might otherwise be a fun activity.
Sorry amofiga, but tickling definitely isn't a fetish of mine. I find the sensation very unpleasant, and it interferes with what might otherwise be a fun activity.
Once upon a time, it seems I remember reading something about ticklish indicating an erogenous zone. (Maybe Masters and Johnson? Maybe Joy of Sex? Not sure just where.)
Something to be aware of though, for both you and your partner, is just what it is that "tickles". Most people tend to think of "tickle" as a light touch. If a firmer touch is also setting off a ticklish response, frankly it may be something worth discussing with your doctor at some point during a visit. I don't want to be gloom and doom, but there are medical anomalies that can manifest in a symptom of hypersensitivity.
Quick question... can you stand to take a shower? Or do the drops of water hitting your skin make you uncomfortable? If so, you really need to discuss with a medical professional. And sooner rather than later. It might be nothing, but it could also be a forerunner of a more serious neurological issue.
However, if firmer touch is fine and only lighter touches and caresses set off a tickle response for you, then it may be enough to communicate to your SigOt to touch more firmly. One fun way to explore this, if you can stand it, is to massage each other. Not only allow, but encourage him or her to spend thirty minutes touching every part of your body with your direction on where a firmer touch is needed and where a lighter touch is okay.
Another thing to note is if there are times you are more ticklish than others. IF that is the case, then it may be more of a mental issue than a physical one. That is not to say that diet and medication along with exercise could not affect the chemical matrix between dendrites variously throughout the circadian rhythm. But, often a "keyed up" frame of mind versus more of a relaxed can make one more sensitive. Frankly, more often than not, we are schooled to gradually ramp up a seduction. To begin with gentler caresses and work our way up to firmer ones. It MAY be that this is exactly the wrong route to go for you if the gentler touches are tickling and turning you off. You may be one that requires a ramping DOWN seduction.
At any rate, I'm probably letting my fingers run off with something my brain only marginally understands so I'm gonna stop tickling the keyboard now and let someone else take over.
But, best of luck. And I truly hope you can find a way to be comfortable in your own skin.
Something to be aware of though, for both you and your partner, is just what it is that "tickles". Most people tend to think of "tickle" as a light touch. If a firmer touch is also setting off a ticklish response, frankly it may be something worth discussing with your doctor at some point during a visit. I don't want to be gloom and doom, but there are medical anomalies that can manifest in a symptom of hypersensitivity.
Quick question... can you stand to take a shower? Or do the drops of water hitting your skin make you uncomfortable? If so, you really need to discuss with a medical professional. And sooner rather than later. It might be nothing, but it could also be a forerunner of a more serious neurological issue.
However, if firmer touch is fine and only lighter touches and caresses set off a tickle response for you, then it may be enough to communicate to your SigOt to touch more firmly. One fun way to explore this, if you can stand it, is to massage each other. Not only allow, but encourage him or her to spend thirty minutes touching every part of your body with your direction on where a firmer touch is needed and where a lighter touch is okay.
Another thing to note is if there are times you are more ticklish than others. IF that is the case, then it may be more of a mental issue than a physical one. That is not to say that diet and medication along with exercise could not affect the chemical matrix between dendrites variously throughout the circadian rhythm. But, often a "keyed up" frame of mind versus more of a relaxed can make one more sensitive. Frankly, more often than not, we are schooled to gradually ramp up a seduction. To begin with gentler caresses and work our way up to firmer ones. It MAY be that this is exactly the wrong route to go for you if the gentler touches are tickling and turning you off. You may be one that requires a ramping DOWN seduction.
At any rate, I'm probably letting my fingers run off with something my brain only marginally understands so I'm gonna stop tickling the keyboard now and let someone else take over.
But, best of luck. And I truly hope you can find a way to be comfortable in your own skin.
