Too much?

[Eagle70]

Please keep stalking. He never called.

I dunno... maybe I just can't read guys very well. The ones that seem interested really aren't. The ones that say they're interested really aren't. The ones I'm interested in aren't interested in me. Maybe I just need to lower my standards and keep my mouth shut.

He's a punkass for not calling back. A stupid stupid punkass. I'm sorry...although yes, i WILL continue to stalk you...hehe...

And dont lower your standards hun. I cant read girls well either. I honestly can't. The girls i think like me dont, and the ones i think hate me do. I cant ever find a girl that IS interested. bah, i know the feeling....but dont lower your standards darling, its not worth it.

Besides, i'm stalking you, thats gotta count for something, right?

 

[UnseenChagrin]

He's a punkass for not calling back. A stupid stupid punkass. I'm sorry...although yes, i WILL continue to stalk you...hehe...

And dont lower your standards hun. I cant read girls well either. I honestly can't. The girls i think like me dont, and the ones i think hate me do. I cant ever find a girl that IS interested. bah, i know the feeling....but dont lower your standards darling, its not worth it.

Besides, i'm stalking you, thats gotta count for something, right?

yeah it counts for somethin

I dunno... it's odd when I step back and look at things. I expect that I guy won't return my phone calls now and if he actually does it completely befuddles me. I figured Eric might actually call back seeing as he said he would, took my # down, and got mad at me the other night when we left his room and I didn't give him a hug good bye (this was the night we met). Sooo maybe he got hung up with somethin, maybe not. Either way I'm not calling him because I just don't expect anything from any guy now.. so in a way I suppose I have already lowered my standards.

But I'm happy to have you stalking me

 

[statusq]

natural progression

small talk? Admittedly, it's often a necessity. Perhaps drab and predictable, but knowing what you studied in school just might provide a nice springboard for deeper subjects. I've never actually been asked questions which i thought were too personal, though apparently i've asked them. If the small talk is stilted and bad, i don't think i'd bother moving onto the big stuff.

Aside: once at a party i met a woman where we decided to have a conversation that would bypass all small talk. For some unknown reason, i proceeded to ask her if she'd ever had an abortion. She then embarked on a truly amazing and powerful story.

 

[nightswan]

usually guys are put off by someone's asking questions,like they feel unsettled .Most ogf them still think they have to lead the conversation and ask questions.There was a popular joke in my country about that:to know a girl you were supposed to ask her if you could accompany her for a walk,and,since she was sayng no,you were supposed to ask why: from that conversation would have started;a comedian did say that he was doing that verbatim,only thing the girl did answer "yes" : he was So taken aback that HE did ask"Why yes"?.
Apart from that,i love to have a conversation about everything,i can't stand boring people;recently,for a change, i did have the chance to speak with a girl about every subject possible,from theater to renaissance instruments and so on:it was such a pleasant evening.Usually-at least in my city-,there's a restricted number of topics,but i get bored for talking about the same things over and over(i'm gettin old )
And please,don't lower your standards:i know that it's useful to learn from the environment and try to adapt to it,but going against your nature it's just not useful.I've tried that,and it doesn't work:someone has to suit Your needs,not viceversa:Many people have given great suggestions(chele,as always ).
It's real difficult to find someone who suits your needs,but worth the wait,believe me,and if someone doesn't like you or don't understand,well,it's HIS problem.
Sorry for my rant
I like your pics:don't change yourself:just avoid human vegetables

A kiss on your hand,
NIghtswan

 

[TNRkitect2b]

I'll add my two cent worth on this topic, and remeber that that's all it's worth .

Asking questions is not a bad thing. It's how you get to know someone. Just remember that the purpose of asking the questions is to weed out the undesirables. If all you are finding now are undesirables, don't loose heart, better to know up front than later after a lot of emotional involvement.

I met my current SO through asking questions. To be exact, on the Ask a Question thread in the playground. By discovering more about each other, we found out that we were very compatible, (some would say made for each other). We have met in person, and will be spending much more time together this summer, as I will be in the same city she is. It is wonderful to have someone that you connect with mentally, and I recommend it to anyone.

I have dropped my standards in the past to disastrous effects. If the two of you can't connect on a mental level it doesn't matter how good the sex could be/is.

Keep looking, you will find a match. I know it won't seem soon enough, as it never is. Perhaps consider keeping your standards, but expand your acceptable age limits. An older man would be flatered to have the attention of a beautiful young lady such as yourself, and many would be more than willing to discuss any and all topics with you. Just pay heed to the advice of StevenWill above. rephrasing the questions can make all the difference between geting a thoughtful answer, and making them duck for cover.

Good luck in your search... it is worth the time to find someone truly compatible. And the man who finally does manage to sweep you off your feet will be a lucky man indeed.

 

[lost5pints]

Ill be honest every one. IBecause I have to go to work in a few minutes i didnt read the entire thread. but heres my two cents. Unseen if your man feels threatened by your curiosity and your willingness to discuss issues beyond just you as a couple then he might have a couple of walls up. This is my opinion strictly. All I know is that in my proffesion the divorce rate is really really high. Me and my wife have always had two policies. 1.) dont go to bed angry. We may not always go to bed and make up the fun way but we always talk out our arguements. 2.) No secrets. plain and simple. we disscuss everything about our lifes. Religon, politics and other hot issues are strong topics in our house and we dont pull punches when having one of our little debates. So far its worked for usadn I have no regrets about it. Being in the navy only 25 percent of marriages make it past 2 years and weve been at it strong for 4 while all our friends are divorced by now. I promise I will comeback and read the rest when I get home. have a good night.

 

[Richard49]

I try not to get too personal too fast, but I like good conversations. For me, it's important to know someone's favorite color or music (favorite things say a lot about a person) but it's equally important for me to know if they have an intellect. Why does it seem like people just want idle chit-chat? I just don't understand.

You would love the writtings of Ayn Rand

If the person you tryig to converse with
just wants to chit chat ......... why invest a lot in them?
They will not meet your standards

 

[gcoop3]

Questions are a great thing

In this day of instant everyting, things are different. People do not want to waste time. I think it is a great idea to let the other person know what is important to you, and find out if there is any compatability. If not, part friends and move on.

I think it is great when a woman knows what is important and is not afraid to ask. This way, there is no "lead on", and if the two people aren't on the same page, part and do not waste your time.

The only people who don't like questions are either afraid of not being in contro, have something to hide, or really don't have opinnions.

Take care. I would love to have had someone be confident enough to ask the questions. Saves pain later on.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

*update*

So I decided the guy wasn't worth my time anyway and moved on... to no one.

However, after a couple weeks I noticed his car parked outside his apartment (he lives partly in Philly and partly here). So after my workout I decided I'd stop in to say hi if he was still there.

The look on his face when I walked through the door was great. I love making people who blow me off uncomfortable. It's just a nice feeling. I told him that if didn't want to see me again he should've just told me. He made up some excuses. I told him to enjoy his hand and then I left. It was a pleasant night all in all.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

*lol* he deserved it dear, every bit of it! Good luck on your search and keep your chin up!