Too BIG- Vib.

[CheekyGiRL07]

Hi, I have just bought some new "toys". Everything from the rabbit to a simple clit stimulator. While the clit stimulator is the best, I still want something in me that moves, I just don't want it to be big. First of all, it just hurts and secondly, I want to stay tight. Also, how healthy is using an anal vib? I don't want to make my ass loose!

 

[SweetErika]

If it hurts (I'm guessing this vibe isn't forearm-sized or anything), wait until you're more aroused or have had an orgasm, make sure you're using plenty of water-based lube and work it in slowly (pushing out with your muscles/bearing down helps, too). The same goes for any kind of anal play.

Yes, using a vibe anally is safe, but you should cover it with a condom for cleanliness, go very slow w/ lots of lube and make sure it doesn't get sucked in and stuck (that's why a toy with a flared base or something that stay outside of your anus is best).

Your fears about becoming loose vaginally and anally are totally unfounded. The vagina is extremely elastic and the sphincter muscles in your anus are well-used and will keep it tight. They both can stretch way out and then snap right back in less than a day. Do kegel exercises and you'll have a strong, healthy vagina/pelvic floor (at least when it comes to muscle strength). Toys won't make you loose unless you're totally careless or stupid (e.g. inserting a large dildo without sufficient warm-up or lube) and seriously tear the muscles and other soft tissues.

 

[CheekyGiRL07]

Well, I am used to humping pillows, or a marker to masturbate with, nothing bigger. While I know about the elastic and even the surgeries for those really loose vaginas, I always think "Maybe I am the exception..."
I wish I could just say "Have a mind blowing orgasm!" & it would occur....damn.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, I am used to humping pillows, or a marker to masturbate with, nothing bigger. While I know about the elastic and even the surgeries for those really loose vaginas, I always think "Maybe I am the exception..."
I wish I could just say "Have a mind blowing orgasm!" & it would occur....damn.

Allow me to pass on a bit of wisdom from a doctor's visit.

I was 16 and having my first pelvic exam because I wanted to get on the pill before I started having sex. When the doctor inserted the speculum, it was really uncomfortable and I flinched and made a joke about the size.

The doc said, "Honey, most penises are a heck of a lot bigger than this, so just take a deep breath and relax."

And, you know, she was absolutely right. When I started having sex, I felt some discomfort, but I forced myself to relax, and it was totally fine. Even now, if I'm tense or not aroused or lubed enough, very small things like fingers and tampons can be uncomfortable, and sex can be downright impossible.

I don't know if you're still a virgin or not, but if you can fit a penis in your vagina, toys shouldn't be a problem--provided you're well aroused, lubed and can relax your muscles and mind. Hell, our pussies are stretchy enough to accommodate 10-pound babies, so toys and penises should be perfectly fine in most cases if you can get your body and mind in sync. If you are a virgin or inexperienced, take heart in the knowledge that the learning you do now with toys will likely allow you to have far better sexual experiences in the future. The toys won't make you lose, they'll make you a better lover because you'll know your body, what turns you on mentally and physically, how to relax and teach your partner how to please you.

 

[CheekyGiRL07]

Thank you!
I am not a virgin, and not to knock past relationships I had fairly small boyfriends...all two of them! Again, thank you very much for your knowledge about toys. I do find it a bit sad, that women are still uncomfortable and do not have the knowledge that men freely are "excused" to know. The fact that women in their 70's have never had an orgasm...well, I'll just let that go, I will fall into my never ending rant.

 

[sunandshadow]

I have had the experience of being fully aroused and wet and still having a vibrator be just too wide to take comfortably. I believe that one had a diameter of about 2 1/2". Certainly I could have gotten used to taking it and become comfortable with it, and I don't believe it would have made me any loser, but I just preferred to stick with toys more like 1 1/2" in diameter which is comfortable even when I'm not that aroused or wet - I prefer that the toy be what makes me aroused, not to have to do a preparatory step before I can play with it.

 

[CheekyGiRL07]

I have had the experience of being fully aroused and wet and still having a vibrator be just too wide to take comfortably. I believe that one had a diameter of about 2 1/2". Certainly I could have gotten used to taking it and become comfortable with it, and I don't believe it would have made me any loser, but I just preferred to stick with toys more like 1 1/2" in diameter which is comfortable even when I'm not that aroused or wet - I prefer that the toy be what makes me aroused, not to have to do a preparatory step before I can play with it.

I instantly got excited when I used my clit stimulator, I watch allot of porn, so maybe this is karma coming to get me...
Right now, while the toys are nice, rubbing myself against the floor still wins!

 

[CheekyGiRL07]

I have had the experience of being fully aroused and wet and still having a vibrator be just too wide to take comfortably. I believe that one had a diameter of about 2 1/2". Certainly I could have gotten used to taking it and become comfortable with it, and I don't believe it would have made me any loser, but I just preferred to stick with toys more like 1 1/2" in diameter which is comfortable even when I'm not that aroused or wet - I prefer that the toy be what makes me aroused, not to have to do a preparatory step before I can play with it.

I instantly got excited when I used my clit stimulator, I watch allot of porn, so maybe this is karma coming to get me...
Right now, while the toys are nice, rubbing myself against the floor still wins!

 

[anoncuriousm]

I instantly got excited when I used my clit stimulator, I watch allot of porn, so maybe this is karma coming to get me...
Right now, while the toys are nice, rubbing myself against the floor still wins!

lol something inside you that moves??? comeon now, a beautiful lady like you with that hot body should not have annnny trouble getting her pick for a cock (and a good looking guy that comes with it)

 

[no1son]

toys

were all different. my last gal had a drawer full of toys, but used three almost exclusively: a toothbrush holder as a dildo,an old electric toothbrush as a clit vibe, and a small thumb-sized vibe as an anal stimulant. with that many toys going at once, she sometimes needed an extra hand. ;]