toe in the water...trying to figure it out.

[angel_girl]

*deep breath

Hi. I don't really know where to start... After a lifetime of regular relationships, and lots of success professionally I find myself, not really unhappy, but unfulfilled emotionally, sexually, mentally. I have always been the strong one, the woman who got it done and made it right...both personally and at work. And, I've thrived on that reputation. But lately I've been feeling very much like I need someone to take care of me. Someone who will make decisions and take most ( ) of that control from me. Especially sexually. I don't know what this means or where this really puts me in the grand scheme of things but I want to explore it a little further.

I read a story written by a former 'friend' that was gently forceful...meaning that the woman was blindfolded and at the mercy of the man but he was sweet and loving while encouraging her to do what he wanted. I was so turned on by that story and it has stayed with me.

And, now, reading what I've written here I know I'm not being very clear. I guess I'm looking for some gentle introductions to what it means to be a sub and if it's something that would fill this void I have.

Have a great night!

angel_girl

 

[CutieMouse]

This Link will take you to the past threads on submission, from the BDSM Library pinned at the top of the forum.

There are lots of lovely people here- read bunches, ask questions, join in the jokes, and welcome to the BDSM forums.

Oh- I should add the obligatory warning to watch out for Gracie and ShySlave, they both have a bad habit of stealing cybercookies.

 

[Stegral]

This Link will take you to the past threads on submission, from the BDSM Library pinned at the top of the forum.

There are lots of lovely people here- read bunches, ask questions, join in the jokes, and welcome to the BDSM forums.

Oh- I should add the obligatory warning to watch out for Gracie and ShySlave, they both have a bad habit of stealing cybercookies.

yes they do... but they are sooo nice about it

Welcome Angel_girl... I am extremely new as well & most people are very nice
in here

 

[rthnck]

little baby steps

You're on the right track. It takes an understanding partner and lots of communication but with submission, the journey is often the reward. Here's one of my stories to help you in your explorations...

http://english.literotica.com:81/stories/showstory.php?id=239674

 

[mcgill82ferret]

Hi all.

Read through a bunch of threads and posts. Looks like this is a good place with sensible folks. I'm not new to BDSM and always willing to learn more, which I think may happen with present company. May take me a while to learn my way around this site tho. Waves hello.

 

[myinnerslut]

the first step is knowing that you want to learn more about BDSM... admitting to yourself that you might be intrested (which is very tough for some people). youve already done that, so congrats and welcome.

 

[Dread_Pirate_Roberts]

It could be that you are looking for a "bear" kind of person. Someone who makes you feel adored, loved, and protected. The kind who will put his/her arms around you and you instantly sigh with contentment and feel safe.
Sometimes, people who have always been the strong one in the family or in a relationship, will wonder about the possibility of having someone else take the reins from them. It may not have to do with a D/s relationship at all.
Check out some of the threads on here and read the BDSM stories in lit. There is a wealth of information to be found here and people that will give you solid facts and great suggestions.
Cheers,
Dread.

 

[angel_girl]

It could be that you are looking for a "bear" kind of person. Someone who makes you feel adored, loved, and protected. The kind who will put his/her arms around you and you instantly sigh with contentment and feel safe.
Sometimes, people who have always been the strong one in the family or in a relationship, will wonder about the possibility of having someone else take the reins from them. It may not have to do with a D/s relationship at all.
Check out some of the threads on here and read the BDSM stories in lit. There is a wealth of information to be found here and people that will give you solid facts and great suggestions.
Cheers,
Dread.

hmm...a 'bear' personality...that's certainly a possiblilty. I'll keep reading and researching and searching.

Thanks for the advice.

~angel girl

 

[angel_girl]

Everyone!

Thank you for all the great advice!



~angel girl