Today was not a very nice day...

[abiamarie]

What do you do when you feel your relationship suddenly seems to revolve more on lust than love and the only time love is expressed is when it's covenient for him but lust is expressed almost anytime & anywhere?
[Example: This afternoon we were in a group of people, my s.o. and I, and he leans over and tells me that it is impossible for anyone to love anyone more than he loves me and that he hopes I feel the same way towards him, and I do. But then later I'm in his car, getting him so very turned on I had to stop or he would have made a mess out of his pants, and some idiot runs up to the parked car and calls me naughty and bad and knocks on the window, and suddenly, my s.o. drives far from that guy and practically pushes me out of the car and drives away pretty darn fast.]
GRrrrrrrr.... does he even mean what he said about how much he loves me if he just get rid of me rudely although temporarily after he has some fun like that?

 

[BirdsWife]

Was this an isolated incident or has he done things like this before?

If this is the first time, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he was just embarassed about being caught almost in the act. Give him some time to cool off and then see how he responds. On the other hand, if he does this kind of thing constantly then you might need to consider whether this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.

How does he treat you otherwise? Many men have a hard time expressing their feelings so they do it in a sexual manner. Others are just horny jerks who will say whatever they have to to get laid. Only you know him well enough to decide which kind of guy he is.

 

[abiamarie]

Was this an isolated incident or has he done things like this before?

If this is the first time, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he was just embarassed about being caught almost in the act. Give him some time to cool off and then see how he responds. On the other hand, if he does this kind of thing constantly then you might need to consider whether this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.

How does he treat you otherwise? Many men have a hard time expressing their feelings so they do it in a sexual manner. Others are just horny jerks who will say whatever they have to to get laid. Only you know him well enough to decide which kind of guy he is.

He has never done anything like that before.
He is sweetest person ever and I am the only girl he has ever felt this way about or done anything with (he's only had two other girlfriends before in his life and they hardly even touched during their relationship). He calls every day, sometimes just to tell me he loves me, and he does it in a non-annoying manner. He treats me wonderfully.

 

[PhilLusty]

ON love and Lust

well if he calls always to say I love you just cuz, thats a good sign.

The car inciddent was probably out of shear embrassment, since he is fairly new to relationships and touching. So when caught he freaked, or maybe he was freaked that you almost made him "mess" his pants So I would let him slide on it.. this time

Some men dont know how to act when they first fall in love, some will say EVER,,,,, but from what you have said i would tend to believe he loves you, and his problem is acting on the lust side. He is proabably afraid of his lust at this juncture in his life. he need to learn that its ok to be in love and have lustful desires.

communicating is the key to understanding each other

you can have both you know? and when both are in concert oh baby thats when the good times happen.

so good luck to you
... one who knows Love and Lust

Phil N Lusty ( my alter ego because I have tons of lust)

 

[bbwforsugar]

Well if he left you stranded somewhere when you couldn't get home, I think that is horrible! How could a man that says he loves a woman throw her out of the car and just race off? Anything could have happened to you! I think that was just horrible!! I would have been past scared!

 

[abiamarie]

Well if he left you stranded somewhere when you couldn't get home, I think that is horrible! How could a man that says he loves a woman throw her out of the car and just race off? Anything could have happened to you! I think that was just horrible!! I would have been past scared!

It was at a train station. He drove me there half an hour early.
Thank you for being concerned that something bad could have happened to me though

 

[abiamarie]

We talked... it's all right. He didn't realize what he was doing.
He drove me again and the same stupid guy came up with like 5 of his buddies and jumped on the car from all sides!!! He pulled out of the parking lot and the idiots were running after us! If I didn't know who those people were, I would have been so freaking scared.
Anyways he drove me back to the train station later and gave me a proper goodbye and did not speed off this time. All is well again... except for the annoying people I wanted to run over.