To write, or not to write

[Hypoxia]

I write as a way to explore my sexual psyche, so--since I left behind a moral struggling with sexuality a long time ago--no, I don't and have never had a struggle with writing this kind of material.

Many of the stories I flavor from my life explore what-if's: paths not taken, lives not won or lost; fucks not gone awry; different twists of fate. It's unknown turf.

 

[Varishe]

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[ChloeTzang]

I recently joined as a member after years of enjoying articles. I am not new to writing, but have never written (for publishing) material of the adult nature. I have had several female partners benefit from erotic stories I wrote for them.

My question to other authors out there: Does (or did) anyone have some sort of moral or ethical "struggle" about writing adult material? If so, how did you overcome and proceed? Just curious.

None at all, and I’m Catholic and go to Mass most Sundays. I have absolutely no moral or ethical struggle writing erotica. I enjoy it and it gives me a great deal of satisfaction knowing I bring some enjoyment and escapism from the sometimes harsh reality of life to the lives of my readers. I’m a social benefit, I am

On the other hand the only person I know who knows I write this stuff is my husband, and he’s the one who encouraged me to start and my #1 fan. Don’t have any struggle with that either. No point in upsetting my family and people I know - it’s just not a quandary or struggle for me at all. My writing is very separate, altho it’s a big part of who I am. But I’m very secure about myself and I don’t go thru big internal debates with myself. I just do what I want.

 

[Vix_Giovanni]

None at all, and I’m Catholic and go to Mass most Sundays. I have absolutely no moral or ethical struggle writing erotica. I enjoy it and it gives me a great deal of satisfaction knowing I bring some enjoyment and escapism from the sometimes harsh reality of life to the lives of my readers. I’m a social benefit, I am

On the other hand the only person I know who knows I write this stuff is my husband, and he’s the one who encouraged me to start and my #1 fan. Don’t have any struggle with that either. No point in upsetting my family and people I know - it’s just not a quandary or struggle for me at all. My writing is very separate, altho it’s a big part of who I am. But I’m very secure about myself and I don’t go thru big internal debates with myself. I just do what I want.

Ditto on all of this.

 

[SamScribble]

I have never had any ‘struggle’ writing ‘adult material’. But I have a line that I do not cross. My stories are about pleasure – the pleasure of anticipating, the pleasure of doing it (or watching others do it), the pleasure of remembering. Reluctance, coercion, etc, are not in my bag. No characters are harmed in the making of my stories.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I recently joined as a member after years of enjoying articles. I am not new to writing, but have never written (for publishing) material of the adult nature. I have had several female partners benefit from erotic stories I wrote for them.

My question to other authors out there: Does (or did) anyone have some sort of moral or ethical "struggle" about writing adult material? If so, how did you overcome and proceed? Just curious.

Everything I've written. so far be it published here or in 'clips' on my thread, is true. The only hesitation I had for a little while was someone we know reading it and figuring out it is us.

Hubby looked at me one night and said, "Hell, write what you want. If someone figures it out, so be it. Those that don't, we'll leave the site address in our will for them so they can see how much fun we had!"

Hesitations gone... lol.

 

[Inkhorn]

Moral or ethical concerns? No. I maintain anonymity more out of a desire for privacy than I do for “decency.”

I do, however, have problems. Unlike what some folks have said about their partners bring supportive, mine is... and isn’t. One of the reasons I write erotica is because of a sort of compromise we have reached. Our sex life has greatly diminished over the years thanks to a horrible combination of medical issues and post-traumatic stress. So I write as a way of letting out some of my own sexual frustrations and fantasies. I am too much in love with her to consider seeking outside solace. Not all of my writings are erotica but enough. She is not thrilled with me writing such things but understands my need for it. Better that I’m writing on the computer where she can see me than my cheating on her. Consequently she knows that I write erotica, but she doesn’t want to *know* what I’m actually writing, if you catch my drift.

An imperfect solution in an imperfect world.

 

[Hypoxia]

I have never had any ‘struggle’ writing ‘adult material’. But I have a line that I do not cross. My stories are about pleasure – the pleasure of anticipating, the pleasure of doing it (or watching others do it), the pleasure of remembering. Reluctance, coercion, etc, are not in my bag. No characters are harmed in the making of my stories.

Many of my tales feature pleasure -- but drama requires conflict. Without a challenge, it's too nicey-nice. I may include reluctance / non-con or worse for parody, or to provide a target to punish. I may severely damage characters to arouse sympathy and tears -- tragic demises grab votes.

I "struggle with" and mostly don't cross "moral lines" into certain fetish- and pervo-fun areas, but some may leak into the texts. My comfort zone seems permeable but I feel no need to write for every LIT category.

To write pr0n, or not to write pr0n? I guess that depends on our compulsions.

 

[PennameWombat]

<snip>My question to other authors out there: Does (or did) anyone have some sort of moral or ethical "struggle" about writing adult material? If so, how did you overcome and proceed? Just curious.

My qualms were not around writing erotica but around publishing it, revealing it to anyone. I'd written some many years ago for my then fiance (now spouse) but that was only for us and I'd fallen away from that. That was all focused just for us and not meant to be written as stories. So the idea of exposing my work to a broad audience was a bit of a hurdle to get over.

No. By the time I wrote my first erotic story, which I published at Literotica in December 2016, I had been reading erotic stories here and elsewhere for at least 15 years. If I had any reservations before, I had long since overcome them.

I'm not public about what I do, however. No one I know knows that I write these stories. So I suppose you could say that I harbor some reservations about writing the stories, at least in the sense I don't want people to know that I write them.

I only found LitErotica a few months ago (coming up on a year) after having encountered other sites over the last twenty years. One had some decent quality stories but also happily published stuff with hypersexualized young teens (and even pre-teens) that it was creepy, so I never wanted to release anything into that pool. So Laurel's rules went a long way toward convincing me to post here. It was also the quality of this Forum that helped me to actually start submitting.

As to being anonymous, my issue is more that I can handle criticism from strangers more readily than from people I know (or, I trust their criticism more). Weird, yeah. I've posted on my public Twitter feed when I've released stories, if you tag @LitErotica they'll happily retweet. No idea if that's brought me any additional readers, but I can handle that but telling my friends and family? That's harder... If any follow me on Twitter, well, they haven't told me.

I didn't, but a friend of mine is trying to write his first story. He (and I) read incest and he's finding himself squeamish writing about a brother and sister having sex; something he's never felt reading about a brother and sister having sex.

I don't force myself into these areas that don't 'fit' for me. Male gay, trans* and similar I simply lack understanding to not make a fool of myself. I/T, NonCon, BDSM, MindControl, I'll touch on these but they won't be the focal points of my stories (I had an alien take over a beautiful human female and use that body to seduce men and women to have sex with them and absorb their essences).

I don't write about sex or erotic issues that make me squeamish but where I've had violence as part of a story, those things make me squeamish. But they're necessary if that's what the story is (a drug deal gone bad... well, sh*t's gonna go down!)

The difference for me is that the range of sexual attraction and sex acts that I can write about are broad enough I have no reason to go after that what I have no understanding nor appreciation of. But away from sex, things like violence and such exist and the kinds of stories I can tell without sometimes going there is too limiting.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

None at all, and I’m Catholic and go to Mass most Sundays. I have absolutely no moral or ethical struggle writing erotica. I enjoy it and it gives me a great deal of satisfaction knowing I bring some enjoyment and escapism from the sometimes harsh reality of life to the lives of my readers. I’m a social benefit, I am

On the other hand the only person I know who knows I write this stuff is my husband, and he’s the one who encouraged me to start and my #1 fan. Don’t have any struggle with that either. No point in upsetting my family and people I know - it’s just not a quandary or struggle for me at all. My writing is very separate, altho it’s a big part of who I am. But I’m very secure about myself and I don’t go thru big internal debates with myself. I just do what I want.

Remarkably, ditto on most of this for me, too. Except I haven't been to Mass in more months than I care to admit.

 

[yukonnights]

I have never had any ‘struggle’ writing ‘adult material’. But I have a line that I do not cross. My stories are about pleasure – the pleasure of anticipating, the pleasure of doing it (or watching others do it), the pleasure of remembering. Reluctance, coercion, etc, are not in my bag. No characters are harmed in the making of my stories.

This is pretty close to my own experience. I might take it bit farther and say that I intentionally write to the LGBTQ audience as a way to offer positive stories that might inspire hope. I sometimes feel like it borders on propaganda selling the idea that life really can be wonderful. One good friend here once described my stories as "sappy"...but English is not his first language so I took it as a compliment I don't think I could publish a work I thought was harmful or distasteful...just not me.

In regard to conflict; I think human sexuality and the way most people think about it provides more than enough conflict through guilt, self-doubt, shame, unfulfilled life dreams, etc. Thus, I just use their own thoughts, and the working through them as the conflict for the most part. Although, I've written a couple of western themed stories and conflict is easy in those

 

[vanmyers86]

No ethical issues for me. The characters in my stories tend to have moral qualms or other struggles, but, like many here, I steer clear of categories that would trigger issues for me. As a crime reporter, I heard quite a bit of heartbreaking testimony, so that influences where I am willing to take a story. For instance, it's very unlikely I would write about a non-consensual encounter. I have other themes I prefer to focus on.

Fortunately, there's room for us all. I appreciate the diversity of viewpoints and experience I find here.

 

[Hypoxia]

Remarkably, ditto on most of this for me, too. Except I haven't been to Mass in more months than I care to admit.

Mom was shocked when I said my partner and I, solidly atheistic (we don't deal with gods we don't carve ourselves) were going to mass. Then I said it was Bach's Mass in Fm at a local vintage church, and she exhaled.

Oh yeah, vintage churches. Some may be covered or at least spotted with horny, droll, and/or vile decorations. And don't forget that 'nunnery' meant 'brothel" back in the day.

Morality in pr0n? Happens all the time.

 

[SamScribble]

Many of my tales feature pleasure -- but drama requires conflict. Without a challenge, it's too nicey-nice.

My most recently published story ( https://www.literotica.com/s/the-assistant-10 ) has a successful novelist who isn't sure why his novel was a success and is, therefore, finding it difficult to write a follow up. And this is leading to a strained relationship between the novelist and his publisher. The publisher's 'solution' is to send the novelist an assistant. But this only makes matters worse. The novelist can't abide having anyone around while he's trying to write.

Is that enough conflict for you?

 

[BigMadStork]

Nobody is forced to come here. Nobody is forced to select your category. Nobody is forced to read your story to the end. As long as readers have free will, write what you want.

A common thing I see is that if you are writing for a category like incest and include water sports, bondage, or gay, many authors will warn the readers about the contents in the first paragraph because you are crossing categories.

 

[Hypoxia]

Is that enough conflict for you?

Well, that's only a little existential angst, maybe with blowjobs. Got any suffering, sinning, redemption, etc?

Writer-publisher conflict IRL: Seeking payment, big writer dangles small publisher by ankles from high window. Throw in some sex and the story writes itself.

 

[Oanfeko]

Many of the stories I flavor from my life explore what-if's: paths not taken, lives not won or lost; fucks not gone awry; different twists of fate. It's unknown turf.

I think you should try writing. There is nothing like this. I think after you write it, you have a lot to look at. If you have difficulty writing, you can contact my assignment help review these guys

 

[MichaelGH]

Don’t you hate it when stories are hard to write? Wouldn’t it be better if they were easy to?

 

[takkatajim]

Don’t you hate it when stories are hard to write? Wouldn’t it be better if they were easy to?

The hardest stories to write are often the best ones. Maybe not at first, but once you get the words on paper/disk they're almost always a lot easier to move around.

 

[Hypoxia]

I think you should try writing. There is nothing like this. I think after you write it, you have a lot to look at.

Yes, I should try writing more. Tell the voices in my head to start insisting. They've been muted too long. Yes, so much to tell, suitably LITenized.

Should moral quandaries inhabit more of my stories? Should I *pretend* to be bothered by ethical issues? When in doubt, throw in some priests.

 

[eroticstoryspinner]

None at all, and I’m Catholic and go to Mass most Sundays. I have absolutely no moral or ethical struggle writing erotica. I enjoy it and it gives me a great deal of satisfaction knowing I bring some enjoyment and escapism from the sometimes harsh reality of life to the lives of my readers. I’m a social benefit, I am

On the other hand the only person I know who knows I write this stuff is my husband, and he’s the one who encouraged me to start and my #1 fan. Don’t have any struggle with that either. No point in upsetting my family and people I know - it’s just not a quandary or struggle for me at all. My writing is very separate, altho it’s a big part of who I am. But I’m very secure about myself and I don’t go thru big internal debates with myself. I just do what I want.

There are certain things I won't write, but I started writing erotica as a writing exercise and my only reservation is making sure that it is separate from my other work.

 

[oggbashan]

I am writing to clear my backlog of incomplete stories before I die.

Unfortunately plot bunnies keep breeding faster than I can write.

 

[JPGmvny]

For the record, a long-since lapsed Catholic (most of my characters are raised Catholic and it's part of who they are, however slight the influence).

Once I accepted that sex is part of relationships, I decided to go with it, but it's only part of what my characters do. But an important part. I don't view writing about it as ethically challenged.

My spouse frowns on it, but I have family members who give me good feedback; once I sent some erotic stuff, it became easy.

 

[Varishe]

Don’t you hate it when stories are hard to write? Wouldn’t it be better if they were easy to?

Agree

Frankly speaking I never liked to write something on the set subject. An essay or term at the institution. I couldn't do it on my own. All bought using sites such as
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[SimonDoom]

Don’t you hate it when stories are hard to write? Wouldn’t it be better if they were easy to?

I don't know if I agree with that or not. Sometimes the fact that something is difficult makes it more rewarding.

I'm reminded of the Tom Hanks quote about baseball in League of Their Own: "The hard is what makes it great."