to pursue or surrender?

[blue112]

So heres the story, my girl and I got together last fall, then i ended up going back to an my ex for a few months and then came back to Steph, things were fantastic the first time and the second time around there was little passion that slowly died off. I tried to reignite the passion but shes not feeling it anymore and we decided to let things go depsite an enormous amount of love between us. I want her back and I want to rebuild the passion but she doesnt want to have to work at this any longer.

So basically Im looking for opinons on whether I chase and pursue her and how or should I simply bite the bullet and let the one I thought was meant for me walk away?

 

[dollface007]

Relationships require work. If she's not willing to work, there's nothing you can do about it. Move on to someone who's willing to work for you as hard as you are willing to work for them.

 

[bobsgirl]

Sadly, it doesn't sound like she is the one for you. Keep the fond memories and move on. You deserve to find someone who thinks you hung the moon, not one who "doesn't want to work at it."

Good luck to you.

 

[jaded_lily]

keep searching sounds like this one doesn't want to make it work

good luck

 

[sheath]

Re: Re: to pursue or surrender?

Relationships require work. If she's not willing to work, there's nothing you can do about it. Move on to someone who's willing to work for you as hard as you are willing to work for them.

I totally agree with this. Sometimes you've just had enough, and you can no longer work at it. It's not that she doesn't love you, you know that already...it's just that she's tired. On so many levels.

But you can be confident that you both gave it a good shot, right? And move on, taking along the lessons you learned this time around.

S.