To older gentlemen who’ve connected with much younger women—what drew them to you?

[Representingmyhotwife]

I’m a younger husband, and my wife happens to be strongly drawn to older men—something she’s open about. I’m trying to understand this better, not out of insecurity but with curiosity and love. For those of you who’ve had genuine connections with women much younger than you—what do you think it is that attracts them? Is it how you carry yourself? The way you listen? The calmness that comes with age?

Any insights would help me grow and be better for her, without trying to be someone I’m not.

 

[Escierto]

My girlfriend is 32 years younger than me. I am 70 and she is 38. For some strange reason, age never comes up between us. We are just in sync.

She said what she loved about me was how caring and loving I was with my grandchildren. She could see how much they cared about me in return and how attached they are to me.

I think she wanted that same kind of love and care for herself.

 

[Representingmyhotwife]

My girlfriend is 32 years younger than me. I am 70 and she is 38. For some strange reason, age never comes up between us. We are just in sync.

She said what she loved about me was how caring and loving I was with my grandchildren. She could see how much they cared about me in return and how attached they are to me.

I think she wanted that same kind of love and care for herself.

I do love and care about her a lottt

 

[hiker283]

My girl friend considers me a safe outlet for her sexual needs since I am married.

 

[Britva415]

what do you think it is that attracts them? Is it how you carry yourself? The way you listen? The calmness that comes with age?

Any insights would help me grow and be better for her, without trying to be someone I’m not.

Yeah, it's those things. It's confidence.

You'll become that person. It can't be rushed.

 

[chrisatb5]

Revenge against their father I suspect

 

[SouthByWest]

I'm really good looking, look 20 years younger than my actual age, have a great body and a really nice dick, and give them orgasms like they've never had before.

And the really smart ones love that I find their intelligence so attractive.

But different girls have all kinds of attractions. One former very young gf had a thing for nasty looking old men. Her fantasy crush was Bernie Sanders. There's no way I could compete with that.

It's probably true, as the poster above said, that most of them have daddy issues. But there are lots and lots and lots of them around these days.

 

[Rockymtnman]

Being handsome and fit help. Other than that, daddy issues.

 

[LeahWill]

Or maybe because, as the saying goes, 'There is no fool like an old fool'....

 

[Rockymtnman]

Or maybe because, as the saying goes, 'There is no fool like an old fool'....

Seen that, at the age now where several friends/ acquaintances have been divorced and gotten taken advantage of by younger women. Two had money, one had serious money and they all had flings with women half their age after their divorces, with varying outcomes. One is now a baby daddy at 55 and on the hook for 17 more years. One married and miserable with a woman that spends every dime he makes and the other wised up and is dating a woman his age.

 

[stiv837]

I would think money is a big draw for younger women when it's comes to dating old men.

 

[Stopokochac]

Many things. I used to always thing, "What is wrong with these girls? And men too." But I now understand the appeal, at least from a male perspective.

Surely, everyone is different, but for me, the biggest reason is my mental age doesn't match my physical age. I have the mental age of a 19 year old, so I find it easier to vibe with much younger girls. I guess in my mind I still think I'm a teenager, because my co-worker thought it was creepy that I was showing interest in teenage girls, but in MY mind, I didn't see anything wrong with it. I was like, "Yeah, their 19, so.......?"

I also missed out on a lot of things in high school/college, so part of it might also have to do with wanting to experience those things now.

I also love the idea of a girl being inexperienced/innocent and me teaching her and being her first.

And maybe a little bit of a taboo element.

But mostly, it's the first thing I mentioned. I simply vibe better with younger girls.

There's other stuff that's too personal, but I hope that still answers your question

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've been with much older men.

It's partially the youth, positivity, willingness to experiment, and sweetness.

I don't have those, but I can see why I might love much younger sissies and trans chicks.

 

[MrDan777]

They seem to want to be with a man who has his life together. The BS and lack of drive in younger men today seems to be an issue.

 

[Britva415]

They seem to want to be with a man who has his life together. The BS and lack of drive in younger men today seems to be an issue.

Another issue is that young men seem to be convinced that they'll go to jail if they flirt.

Well... that's how they tell the story, anyway. I'm not convinced that more than just the very stupidest of them actually believe that. I think it just feels better to say that than to say "I fear rejection" in order to explain why they don't have the brass to approach women.

 

[chrisatb5]

A psychopathic desire to cross something off their list.

 

[Tio_Narratore]

In my case it's pretty much always been sapiophilia, though that wasn't the only reason in my Anthropology of Sex course.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Age isn't really a thing when it's right it's right just plain and simple.
I have a female friend that is 20 years younger and she flat out says that she would be by my side forever if I ever get divorced or widowed. She will not ruin a marriage just because in her mind I am her life partner. Even her parents have told me can't we clone you for our daughter?
We try harder to stay apart than most people try to stay together.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Actually it was nothing in particular except she was a really nice looking woman. It all started off casually I was away on vacation. It small talk, laughing. We danced, I wouldnt call what I do dancing, She asked me if I wanted to go to another place with her which I did. It wasn't quite as busy as the first spot at that point we were both pretty drunk.
We ended up back at my hotel room. I was eating her out and she was fully enjoying it I remember that's when it first hit me she was half my age. We were laying in bed and she told me nobody ever went down on her like that before.
We met up again and hung out together most of the next day. we ended up back in my room in the afternoon. Her friends were getting pissed at her so we ended up going our separate ways.
It honestly made me feel good and of course was an ego boost.

 

[Scotchlander]

It’s sure is an ego boost.

I had a girl half my age start chatting to me in a restaurant bar.

She was around half my age and a pretty girl and I definitely did not think I would have a chance with her, but offered to buy her drink that she accepted.

Later ‘she’ asked me if I fancied going elsewhere for drink, so I agreed and we left together to another bar.

It turned out she had recently split with her older long term boyfriend and she was now single. She said she preferred older guys as they were more kind and confident and then laughed and said their bedroom skills were better also.

A few drinks later she started getting real close to me. So I asked her if she wanted to go to my hotel for a night cap and she accepted.

Soon we were going like rabbits and I must say her previous older boyfriend had taught her well.

That was around 6 months ago. I met her once more after that and since then she has been sending me pictures and videos and begging me to return to her city.

 

[NewbieHere]

I’m a younger husband, and my wife happens to be strongly drawn to older men—something she’s open about. I’m trying to understand this better, not out of insecurity but with curiosity and love. For those of you who’ve had genuine connections with women much younger than you—what do you think it is that attracts them? Is it how you carry yourself? The way you listen? The calmness that comes with age?

Any insights would help me grow and be better for her, without trying to be someone I’m not.

I was in my late 30s when I was with 18-19 yr olds. Some wanted an experienced man who could take his time with them and take them out to nice places and buy them stuff boys their age couldn’t. I knew it was all transactional. I got someone who was inexperienced but willing to learn and they got someone who was willing to teach them.

I just wanted playthings. I didn’t want anything long lasting. You’d be surprised how many of them see your car and be impressed with it and think you’re their ticket to nice things.

I got addicted to young and fresh and girls willing to let you do anything to them because they saw it in porn and thought that’s what sex is about. I never forced them to do anything they didn’t want to do. They wanted to do it because they thought it would please me.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I’m a younger husband, and my wife happens to be strongly drawn to older men—something she’s open about. I’m trying to understand this better, not out of insecurity but with curiosity and love. For those of you who’ve had genuine connections with women much younger than you—what do you think it is that attracts them? Is it how you carry yourself? The way you listen? The calmness that comes with age?

Any insights would help me grow and be better for her, without trying to be someone I’m not.

If you really want to know why your wife is attracted to older men, ask her. This is a fairly common dynamic, but I suspect the basis of the attraction varies from one woman to another. There is no set answer.

I have been with two younger women in my life, both times when I was in my mid 40s. The first time I was 46 and she was 23. She sought me out, and let me know that she had a thing for older men and I was her type. She explained that she lost her virginity at 13 to a guy who was 27. Ever since, she has preferred older -- indeed, much older -- men than herself. I'm no psychologist, but I suspect something about that first experience imprinted a conception upon her of what to expect in a sexual situation. We hooked up a few times, but I could not connect with her on an intellectual level and lost interest rather quickly.

 

[Medhaa]

In my case it's pretty much always been sapiophilia, though that wasn't the only reason in my Anthropology of Sex course.

Do you give sex courses?

 

[Tio_Narratore]

Do you give sex courses?

I've retired, I'm afraid.

 

[wouldloveto]

My only experience in this area was someone who was into the "Daddy" thing. It did not go anywhere, but it was flattering... if a bit weird.
She was not attracted to anyone who was not at least old enough to be her Dad. She told me that old guys knew how to use what they had, and young guys are too selfish.