To Facial...?

[HerbieHancock]

Hey, I was just looking for some advice on talking to my girlfriend about cumming on her face without sounding like a pervert. She loves to swallow my load and always asks me to cum in her mouth when we have sex so I feel about 75% confident that she would cool with it, but I am just not sure and I don't want to make anything awkward.

Any tips?

 

[Bleedyearsnixon]

Dude, I'm not Dr. Ruth but I think that if a girl is willing to give you the swallow she'd def be willing to take one on the face. But if you're that uncertain, give it a try in the heat of the moment, when shes dying to have you cum. After all, even ass to mouth is ok in the heat of the moment.

 

[rbone04]

Dude, I'm not Dr. Ruth but I think that if a girl is willing to give you the swallow she'd def be willing to take one on the face. But if you're that uncertain, give it a try in the heat of the moment, when shes dying to have you cum. After all, even ass to mouth is ok in the heat of the moment.

"Never go ass to mouth"

As for definitely being willing to take one in the face... maybe. She could also be completely appalled by the idea and consider it degrading. Here's a virtually no-fail method on bringing any new sexual ideas to the table your just not sure about--bring it up in a joking, light-hearted manner when you two are in a good mood, and maybe even skirting around the topic of sex. Read her from there. If she says no fucking way, immediately tell her you're totally kidding and stick to it. She'll know you're full of shit, but just stick to your guns and the subject will be forgotten soon enough. Besides, I'm pretty sure 99.9% of all women are well aware of the fact that most guys would love to fire one off on their face.

 

[romantic_always]

Just because she's into swallowing your junk when you come does NOT mean she's definitely into the idea of a facial. Personally, I am one of those girls who finds it degrading and gross, but I do enjoy the former thoroughly. Honestly, do not wait until the heat of the moment, that's never a good way to ask something. Ask her beforehand, or she might feel cornered or put off by it. It could totally kill the mood.

Just be straightforward and ask her if she's into it. If not, see if she'd be interested in you coming on her breasts, that's another option.

But don't just assume! Bad idea!!!

 

[SweetErika]

Just because she's into swallowing your junk when you come does NOT mean she's definitely into the idea of a facial. Personally, I am one of those girls who finds it degrading and gross, but I do enjoy the former thoroughly. Honestly, do not wait until the heat of the moment, that's never a good way to ask something. Ask her beforehand, or she might feel cornered or put off by it. It could totally kill the mood.

Just be straightforward and ask her if she's into it. If not, see if she'd be interested in you coming on her breasts, that's another option.

But don't just assume! Bad idea!!!

Yes! Heed this advice!

I'd probably try it if it were a major kink of my partner's and clearly wasn't done in a degrading context, but it doesn't sound enjoyable or anything like coming in the mouth at all.

On my breasts or just about anywhere else would almost assuredly be fine, probably because of the easier clean up.

Just tell her you'd find it incredibly hot to come somewhere other than her mouth, and ask what, if anything, she'd be comfortable with. If she asks for examples, give a few, including her face. Then you're not pushing her into anything, and her taking an active role in the decision/activity will probably improve her feelings about it and the outcome overall.

 

[darjingle]

I personally think facials are one of those things no one thought was erotic until it started to be done (ad nauseum) in porn, and suddenly it became like some icon of sexual behavior that everyone wanted to emulate. I had a girlfriend once who offered it and when I declined, saying it wasn't a particular turn-on for me she expressed great relief, and said she thought it was something guys expected.

I'll happily cum anywhere she wants me to cum, and all I ask is it isn't the same every time because for me it's fun not knowing.

 

[Jack_Samuel]

i agree with the girls. Heat of the moment = bad. a lot of relationships have broken up in the heat of the moment.

Talk to her outside of the bedroom, when your in a good mood. be upfront and honest and most girls will oblige

 

[SweetErika]

She might also be more encouraged if you ask if you two can try it just once, and if she doesn't like it, you never have to do it again. Sometimes new and/or unappealing activities are daunting to try because there's a fear our partners will want them often thereafter. But for me at least, it's generally fairly easy to talk myself into an 'I'll try this once or twice, and if it's awful, this will be the last time unless/until I change my mind about it. I can do just about anything once, and this can't be that bad' mindset.

Of course if you ask her to try it just once, you'll need to stick to your promise and not suggest or ask for it in the future if she doesn't want to do it again. To do otherwise would violate her trust, be disrespectful and likely hurt her and your relationship.

Basically, be willing and able to compromise on something like this.

 

[Hanon435]

get some on the lips? baby steps.


or beforehand (or mouth?), tell her to wait. maybe tell her you got her a gift? then get out either safety glasses or swimming googles. give those to her and tell her she might need them. you don't want to get any in her eyes.

an maybe an umbrella too.

 

[subwannabe]

Speaking of ad nauseum in porn, that was my idea. Watch a porn movie together (probably just about any one will do) and comment about how hot you think that is. Either that or just get up the balls to ask her in a nice way. People shouldn't be afraid to bring things up in conversation as long as the other one trusts you enough to not press the issue if they aren't interested.

 

[night&day]

Give Me A Break..

you must be fucking kiding! Any woman who takes a guy's load in her fucking mouth ain't going to be terribly opposed to taking it in her face!

Send her to my house and I'll train her for you, it wouldn't be difficult!

 

[KarennaC]

Um... yeah. Obviously you're an expert on women. *eyeroll*

Taking a man's cum in the mouth, as has been stated a few times already, is not even close to being the same thing as getting it on one's face. In the mouth, it's easily swallowed (or spit out, if one's inclined that way) and it's not messy.

There are a lot of reasons why women might not like cum on their face. Some, as mentioned, find it degrading. Personally, I love to have my man come in my mouth, but I can't stand to have anything- ANYTHING- on my face, for various reasons. (I won't even wear makeup.) I don't particularly like having a guy come anywhere *on* me anyway; it's messy and makes me feel like they're just using me as a jerk-off aid. But I'll tolerate it on my belly, ass, or tits. NEVER on my face.

 

[darjingle]

but what if the porn babe hates it?

Subwannabe has a good point about watching porn together and telling your woman how hot you think the facial thing is. But! The more I study porn the more often it appears to me the woman actually DOESN'T like the facial. Look how often they grimace or flinch; look how often their eyes are tightly closed (against the sting if the cum lands there)....I mean, it doesn't offend me or gross me out, but I really can't believe this is a behavior that would have much erotic mojo at all if it weren't for porn. And only RECENT porn at that.

 

[cebalrai]

I'd maybe try working up to it... I had a fantasy of cumming on my ex-gf's breasts, but she was skiddish about anywhere but inside her pussy. We started with on her vulva, then belly (she really liked the belly thing it turns out) and then breasts. Turns out we only did the breasts thing once (and I was mostly just curious to try it once), but we stuck with the belly thing. She said she liked to look down and watch it shoot out!

So... baby steps IMO.

 

[bambikiller]

I've done it, two different girls.

I disagree I think in the heat of the moment is the time to do it.

When she blowing you and your getting ready to cum soon tell her
"Baby I'm going to (or I want to) come all over your face and pull out of her mouth"
You'll get a reaction. If she says no then stick it back in her mouth.

The second girl had an advertion to swallowing.
So I started asking her if she was going to swallow or not as she was sucking away.
She'd shake her head no and then I'd pull out and soak her face with my load. I didn't ask I just did it. She didn't like it but never said anything about it. After about two months she started swallowing.

Maybe this will or will not work for you, it did for me but then again I hang out in the BDSM side of this board.

 

[dave's thing]

you must be fucking kiding! Any woman who takes a guy's load in her fucking mouth ain't going to be terribly opposed to taking it in her face!

Send her to my house and I'll train her for you, it wouldn't be difficult!

Oh now there's some real macho good advise. And this from such a worldly, femmine friendly guy!!

 

[thegirth]

Try not to fire any in her eyes if you get there.

It hurts like a b*tch and takes away the glory of moment watching your lady squeal with a salty eyeball!

 

[rbone04]

I've done it, two different girls.

I disagree I think in the heat of the moment is the time to do it.

When she blowing you and your getting ready to cum soon tell her
"Baby I'm going to (or I want to) come all over your face and pull out of her mouth"
You'll get a reaction. If she says no then stick it back in her mouth.

The second girl had an advertion to swallowing.
So I started asking her if she was going to swallow or not as she was sucking away.
She'd shake her head no and then I'd pull out and soak her face with my load. I didn't ask I just did it. She didn't like it but never said anything about it. After about two months she started swallowing.

Maybe this will or will not work for you, it did for me but then again I hang out in the BDSM side of this board.

My friend... you are lucky to be alive.

 

[romantic_always]

Subwannabe has a good point about watching porn together and telling your woman how hot you think the facial thing is. But! The more I study porn the more often it appears to me the woman actually DOESN'T like the facial. Look how often they grimace or flinch; look how often their eyes are tightly closed (against the sting if the cum lands there)....I mean, it doesn't offend me or gross me out, but I really can't believe this is a behavior that would have much erotic mojo at all if it weren't for porn. And only RECENT porn at that.

BINGO.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm happy to receive facials but I'm very submissive so the fact my Master wants it is good enough for me. Getting cum in the eyes is uncomfortable but it only takes a minute or two to rinse away. You could cum on the lower part of her face or the side and avoid her eyes.

Most girls who have watched porn understand men's attraction to 'the money shot' and don't see it as degrading (unless that's their kink and they want to). I think that most of the women who find facials gross don't enjoy porn or have never watched it. It's a strange but undeniable fact that most women see female porn stars as exploited women and male porn stars as assholes when by and large, mainstream porn actors are all working in their chosen profession as equals and everything that transpires is by mutual consent. It's a difficult mindset to override but it can be done if you can watch porn together and talk about it openly.

You won't know if she thinks it's degrading unless you ask. I think bambikiller's first suggestion:

When she blowing you and your getting ready to cum soon tell her
"Baby I'm going to (or I want to) come all over your face and pull out of her mouth"
You'll get a reaction. If she says no then stick it back in her mouth.

Is a reasonable way to go. If she refuses, you can cuddle up with her and talk about why afterwards. If she doesn't, congratulations, you have given a facial!

 

[infinity706]

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Most girls who have watched porn understand men's attraction to 'the money shot' and don't see it as degrading (unless that's their kink and they want to). I think that most of the women who find facials gross don't enjoy porn or have never watched it. It's a strange but undeniable fact that most women see female porn stars as exploited women and male porn stars as assholes when by and large, mainstream porn actors are all working in their chosen profession as equals and everything that transpires is by mutual consent.

Equals? I wouldn't go that far. Women are far more valued than men. A female 'straight' pornstar tends to make $1200+ whereas guys tend to run about $300 and even then, you probably need to be a muscle guy unless you're shooting your own porn. Even a 500 pound woman can almost certainly get a porn contract if she wants. The only way guys equal the women is when they're fucking another guy. That gangbang shoot? Chances are, the one female starlet raked in as much as all the guys combined. Any kind of modeling, adult or otherwise, is heavily slanted toward the women.

As far as the mutual consent, the actresses really call the shots. It's easy to just pick the next guy in line, but a big name chick can be the diffierence between making profit and making stupid huge profit. Even the muscle stud with the foot long cock's porn days can be done if there isn't a woman willing to fuck him.

 

[ChaperonRougeUK]

When she blowing you and your getting ready to cum soon tell her
"Baby I'm going to (or I want to) come all over your face and pull out of her mouth"
You'll get a reaction. If she says no then stick it back in her mouth.

I personally don't like it at all, although I love it in my mouth & on my breasts/stomach. I think Bambikiller has the right idea. One guy did that to me & I said no, so I swallowed instead. If someone just went ahead & did it to me, it would be curtains for that relationship. Communication is so important & often overlooked.

 

[KarennaC]

Most girls who have watched porn understand men's attraction to 'the money shot' and don't see it as degrading (unless that's their kink and they want to). I think that most of the women who find facials gross don't enjoy porn or have never watched it. It's a strange but undeniable fact that most women see female porn stars as exploited women and male porn stars as assholes when by and large, mainstream porn actors are all working in their chosen profession as equals and everything that transpires is by mutual consent. I!

I can't speak for other women, but I do enjoy porn and don't consider the actresses to be exploited for the most part. But even seeing a woman in a porn film getting a facial completely squicks me, probably because of my own issues on the subject.

I know Velvet said "most women", not "all"; I'm just reinforcing that not liking or not having seen porn isn't the only reason a woman might be against the idea of a facial. Like most of the people on this thread have said, the only way to be sure is to talk to her about it. Preferably in advance; "Hey, honey, I'm about to come on your face" doesn't really cut it as communication, in my opinion.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Equals? I wouldn't go that far. Women are far more valued than men. A female 'straight' pornstar tends to make $1200+ whereas guys tend to run about $300 and even then, you probably need to be a muscle guy unless you're shooting your own porn. Even a 500 pound woman can almost certainly get a porn contract if she wants. The only way guys equal the women is when they're fucking another guy. That gangbang shoot? Chances are, the one female starlet raked in as much as all the guys combined. Any kind of modeling, adult or otherwise, is heavily slanted toward the women.

As far as the mutual consent, the actresses really call the shots. It's easy to just pick the next guy in line, but a big name chick can be the diffierence between making profit and making stupid huge profit. Even the muscle stud with the foot long cock's porn days can be done if there isn't a woman willing to fuck him.

Ok, so equals was the wrong word. I hope we can agree that most porn actresses are far from exploited.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I can't speak for other women, but I do enjoy porn and don't consider the actresses to be exploited for the most part. But even seeing a woman in a porn film getting a facial completely squicks me, probably because of my own issues on the subject.

I know Velvet said "most women", not "all"; I'm just reinforcing that not liking or not having seen porn isn't the only reason a woman might be against the idea of a facial. Like most of the people on this thread have said, the only way to be sure is to talk to her about it. Preferably in advance; "Hey, honey, I'm about to come on your face" doesn't really cut it as communication, in my opinion.

Yeah, I was thinking more asking that announcing an imminent facial. There are always things that squick people and are non-negotiable but unless the OP asks, he'll never know. He will be able to brush this off more in the heat of the moment than by bringing it up as an issue outside the bedroom. I think that sitting his missus down and discussing facials would make it more of an issue than it probably is.