To all you doms, a question about size

[sissy_sub25]

All you doms, and the subs who can answer this: Does size really matter on a BDSM relationship?, I am talking of course of the male part of the body who all you woman want so much, what do you think of man who sizes were not up to par with another males? are they less man?

 

[MisterSir]

First define "not up to par". Then I can give you an answer.

 

[sissy_sub25]

well lets say the member is small

 

[Bandit58]

I prefer small to average rather than big. My cervix hangs low so anything longer than say 7 inches is painful plus oral and especially anal are much easier with a smaller penis.

Size of dick does not affect the ability to be Dominant. Dominance is in the head not the dick

 

[sissy_sub25]

Arigato dosaimas

 

[cromsgirl]

Width is more important than length.

 

[myinnerslut]

Width is more important than length.

without a doubt

 

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[satindesire]

That's like asking if a woman is less a woman if she has small breasts.

Kind of insulting if you ask me. *shrugs*

Personally, I've had small, average and big. I don't care what size it is as long as it's not a micropenis or gigantic. Oral sex skills and foreplay quality is much more important to my satisfaction than the size of his penis.

What a lot of men THINK (because of I guess too much porn and Enzyte commercials on TV) is that the size of a man's penis is the ONLY thing that's important. Well, trust me, I'd rather be with a man with a small penis who really knew how to rock my world than a man with a large penis who was a selfish lover. 90% of my pleasure is from my clitoris anyway...penises don't do much in the way of turning me into a brainless, drooling mess.

 

[Adakgirl]

I don't know why you are directing your question specifically towards BDSM relationships, because BDSM does not differentiate from any other kind of relationship when it comes to the size of a man's cock. If you mean that a man with a big cock makes for a better Dominant because he can use his big cock to better dominate over others....the answer is no. If you mean to ask if a man with a small cock can be a good Dominant or can be a Dominate at all...again the answer is yes.

If you want to know if I like big cocks the answer is yes IF it is attached to a man who isn't all egotistical and vain about having it.
Men focus their concern far more than women do about cock size believe me

 

[Etoile]

I'm a size queen and even I don't think dick size affects dominance.

 

[Netzach]

I like huge cock that does whatever I want. So - no?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I spent 5 years in a moderately D/s relationship with a man who rarely got an errection, due to medical type stuffs.

So no, it doesn't really matter. There's a lot more to life than penis-in-a-hole sex.

 

[YourCaptor]

All you doms, and the subs who can answer this: Does size really matter on a BDSM relationship?, I am talking of course of the male part of the body who all you woman want so much, what do you think of man who sizes were not up to par with another males? are they less man?

If you are smaller then yes, if someone else is smaller then no.

 

[mylaceratedheart]

That's like asking if a woman is less a woman if she has small breasts.

I once got asked to tell my partner at the time that his cock was the biggest I'd ever seen. It was only really in jest but you should have seen his face when I asked him afterwards to tell me that my tits were the biggest he'd ever seen.

I'm a 32B. Serve him right.

I have no real clue why men are so paranoid about dicksize. It can only be too much porn.

And surely if the OP's a 'sissy sub' what he really wants to hear is 'you contemptible little worm, I've seen bigger cocks on vermin!' anyway?

 

[YourCaptor]

I once got asked to tell my partner at the time that his cock was the biggest I'd ever seen. It was only really in jest but you should have seen his face when I asked him afterwards to tell me that my tits were the biggest he'd ever seen.

I'm a 32B. Serve him right.

I have no real clue why men are so paranoid about dicksize. It can only be too much porn.

And surely if the OP's a 'sissy sub' what he really wants to hear is 'you contemptible little worm, I've seen bigger cocks on vermin!' anyway?

32B may not be the biggest, but they are amongst the hottest. I love small breasts... but then I also like small dicks on my boys so...

Small is sexy

 

[Cattypuss]

hmmmmmmmmmm...........

I must be unusual. I love to be filled by a big cock. A big dildo doesn't feel the same. And as a bit of a cock-worshipper/penetration freak/blow-job lover, I DO get more of a D/s thrill from a big cock, especially when I kneel before it and know I have to take it into my throat and that it's gonna stretch one of my other holes later.

It's not the be-all and end-all, but for me it IS important.

[edited to add - e.g. I cannot stop looking at Hotch's avatar and drooling]

 

[MisterSir]

I have no real clue why men are so paranoid about dicksize. It can only be too much porn.

Yip, sounds about right. That and the locker-room mentality that P.E. forces every male child to go through at some point gives most of the gender a complex we don't get out of for...some years, at least.

 

[EmpressFi]

I have no real clue why men are so paranoid about dicksize. It can only be too much porn.

I think it happens LONG before porn enters their vision. It's probably the same reason that women feel they must alter their breasts, nose, hips, thighs, stomach, vaginas, clitoris' surgically in order to feel sexy towards a person. It's all mental. I tell my husband all the time that while I love that he finds me sexy, that until I can know it in my head, it means nothing, the voices in my head that say I dont fit the "norm" will tell me he's just saying it to be nice, or because he thinks it's what I need to hear.

And to vote, no, I dont think the size of a penis has anything to do with how well someone dominates.

 

[WriterDom]

I think women, especially younger women have way more issues with their own bodies between 8am and 10am on October 3 than most men have in a lifetime. I've never once had a male golfing buddy ask if his pants made his butt look big. Face it, most men don't give a flying fuck about things they can control when it relates to appearance, much less something like penis size. True, some might get suckered into enhancement pills but not many are willing to go under the knife for a bigger cock. I've come to the conclusion that 90% of college age women nitpick about near perfect bodies. And I bet a lot of them look back 25 years later and wonder what the hell they were thinking.

Most cocks are adequate or we would have died out as a race long ago. And usually, I hope, women make the decision to have sex not based on the penis. Checking out my cock has never been a precondition for sex. Yeah it would suck to have a pinky finger sized cock only if you couldn't find a woman to appreciate it. My cock is well under the internet average of nine inches but women still seem to enjoy it.

 

[wouldloveto]

"internet average of nine inches" nice!

One aspect that I have found that has an impact is when the bottom realizes that they are going to have to fit that monster in a small hole...

 

[Etoile]

Haha, love the part about most men not letting a knife come near their dicks, too.

For the record, most dicks don't come as big as I like 'em.

 

[LadyC]

Billy-boy is quite large....long and very thick....and kind of uncomfortable when fucking, but it is fun to play with and good for whipping. I'd rather he had a five or six inch cock like most men, but I'll keep him as he is because I love him and he loves me....and he's such an obedient sub.

 

[RuReal]

I would say men are about as concerned about dick size as women are about breast size. It is all the same just silly. If some guy was truly as big as half of these guys claim to be then you would have women running the other way. Too big and the woman cannot handle it it all my guess being a man is it would have to be fairly small to be of no use.

Hell if I were smaller I would have an easier time with anal sex as it is now it takes a whole lot of patience and time and I am still waiting to fully make it happen.

 

[twiggy_the_spider]

oh for fucks sake. Are we not beyond cock size here.? If im missing half the skin on my back the size/gender/penisiness of the person who did it is so very unimportant.