Tips on talking dirty...
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dramaqueen47
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As weird as this may sound, I love it when my guy looks me right in the eyes and recites Shakespeare. Especially the "To be or not to Be" monologue from Hamlet. It's so sexy because it's so intense. I'm a big dirty talker, something that surprises my boyfriend to no end because if you saw me, you would have no idea. I look extrememly virginal. 
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Reminds me a little of A Fish Called Wandadramaqueen47 said:As weird as this may sound, I love it when my guy looks me right in the eyes and recites Shakespeare. Especially the "To be or not to Be" monologue from Hamlet. It's so sexy because it's so intense. I'm a big dirty talker, something that surprises my boyfriend to no end because if you saw me, you would have no idea. I look extrememly virginal.
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I've always thought talking dirty was so sexy but hadn't been in a relationship where i felt comfortable enough to do it.
My partner and i are getting into it a bit more now though. It just started out as 'fuck me good' and things like that during sex but then we started talking about fantasies and so sometimes during foreplay i might get him to tell me what he wants to do to me (and then we usually end up doing it). It's sexy having him whisper things like 'i'm gonna ram my cock up your pussy so hard you're gonna scream' or just things like 'i'm going to make you cum until you beg me to stop' in my ear...gives me shivers (good ones )
Recently though it's stepped up a notch or two.
We stayed at a hotel and went out to dinner and when we got to the room we went for it. I pushed him in front of a mirror, got on my knees and started to give him a blow job. Then i looked up at him and shyly -is it possible to be shy with a cock in your mouth?- let him know that it would be okay if he wanted to call me a slut or something...
In the everyday course of things if he called me a slut i'd be real pissed but if i'm down there acting like one then that's fine by me so later on when he had his hand wrapped around my hair and i just asked him 'What am I? he said 'Do you want me to call you a slut, a whore?' and i just gushed and blushed and said yes and got back to acting like one.
I think if something made you feel uncomfortable in the moment you could tell them then that it made you feel that way rather than having your buzz killed by something that turned you off. If my SO said he didn't feel right calling me a slut i would respect that and not ask him to..(doesn't mean i wouldn't act like one though) and if hje said/did something i didn't agree with i'd tell him. I think it's all about communicating needs and desires. No one's a mindreader (unless of course they're a mindreader). Damn. That doesn't work does it?
If you do get into it though...it can be very rewarding. I dressed up like a schoolgirl the other night, and we had a lot of fun which ended up in me screaming. 'It's your pussy!' 'fuckyourpussyfuckyourpussy' over and over again.
My partner and i are getting into it a bit more now though. It just started out as 'fuck me good' and things like that during sex but then we started talking about fantasies and so sometimes during foreplay i might get him to tell me what he wants to do to me (and then we usually end up doing it
). It's sexy having him whisper things like 'i'm gonna ram my cock up your pussy so hard you're gonna scream' or just things like 'i'm going to make you cum until you beg me to stop' in my ear...gives me shivers (good ones )Recently though it's stepped up a notch or two.
We stayed at a hotel and went out to dinner and when we got to the room we went for it. I pushed him in front of a mirror, got on my knees and started to give him a blow job. Then i looked up at him and shyly -is it possible to be shy with a cock in your mouth?- let him know that it would be okay if he wanted to call me a slut or something...
In the everyday course of things if he called me a slut i'd be real pissed but if i'm down there acting like one then that's fine by me so later on when he had his hand wrapped around my hair and i just asked him 'What am I? he said 'Do you want me to call you a slut, a whore?' and i just gushed and blushed and said yes and got back to acting like one.
I think if something made you feel uncomfortable in the moment you could tell them then that it made you feel that way rather than having your buzz killed by something that turned you off. If my SO said he didn't feel right calling me a slut i would respect that and not ask him to..(doesn't mean i wouldn't act like one though) and if hje said/did something i didn't agree with i'd tell him. I think it's all about communicating needs and desires. No one's a mindreader (unless of course they're a mindreader). Damn. That doesn't work does it?
If you do get into it though...it can be very rewarding. I dressed up like a schoolgirl the other night, and we had a lot of fun which ended up in me screaming. 'It's your pussy!' 'fuckyourpussyfuckyourpussy' over and over again.
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I realize that it's an over-generalization, but I would tend to say that if something is TOO dirty, maybe "dirty talk" isn't really your thing. However, I can imagine someone instantly coming up with something to prove me wrong.
It's something I have a hard time identifying with because with my last girlfriend -- and to be honest, in my 25 years, my only serious one -- in terms of talk, there were no limits. We both felt perfectly comfortable (or I know I did, and I think she felt the same way) to be as vile and degrading and, frankly, sick-minded as we wanted to be. Somehow, both of us in our first sexual relationships loosened the reins very quickly and let it all out. Even when we started out trying to be romantic -- and outside of the bedroom, we had no problem being gooey-affectionate -- sex would inevitably spiral into a deluge of "sluts" and "whores" and "fucks" and references to all manner of bodily functions if we wanted to cum.
Both of us tend to be more vanilla in our fantasties since breaking up (we remain good friends, and occasionally discuss such things). Our relationship started on-line, meaning we had only fantasies at first, and I guess that's why feeling so comfortable with "dirty talk" so early felt right, but I can't even imagine feeling self-concious about what I was saying if I was going to do it at all. With her, I found I just kept trying to push her limits, until I found them -- which I never really did, at least in fantasy. If there's any advice I have to give, I guess it would be that -- just be brave and see how far you can go before your partner seems uncomfortable, and then try to remember that limit.
It's something I have a hard time identifying with because with my last girlfriend -- and to be honest, in my 25 years, my only serious one -- in terms of talk, there were no limits. We both felt perfectly comfortable (or I know I did, and I think she felt the same way) to be as vile and degrading and, frankly, sick-minded as we wanted to be. Somehow, both of us in our first sexual relationships loosened the reins very quickly and let it all out. Even when we started out trying to be romantic -- and outside of the bedroom, we had no problem being gooey-affectionate -- sex would inevitably spiral into a deluge of "sluts" and "whores" and "fucks" and references to all manner of bodily functions if we wanted to cum.
Both of us tend to be more vanilla in our fantasties since breaking up (we remain good friends, and occasionally discuss such things). Our relationship started on-line, meaning we had only fantasies at first, and I guess that's why feeling so comfortable with "dirty talk" so early felt right, but I can't even imagine feeling self-concious about what I was saying if I was going to do it at all. With her, I found I just kept trying to push her limits, until I found them -- which I never really did, at least in fantasy. If there's any advice I have to give, I guess it would be that -- just be brave and see how far you can go before your partner seems uncomfortable, and then try to remember that limit.
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