Tips on talking dirty...

[Kpooh]

Any one have any tips on how to release those inhibitions & say whatever you want???


How about tips on what to do if your partner says something TOO dirty? Do you ignore it or bring it to their attention?


Tips on things to say to turn your partner on?

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[Kpooh]

No tips. I just want to know too, because I love the idea of talking dirty, but I've never had a long-term partner who really did. They always just find it funny and want to giggle.

Have had little past experience there...but... same thing here.

 

[His_pita]

I saw or heard recently that the tip to talking dirty is to just describe what is being done to you or what you want done. Like if he is kissing your breast you could say, "I love how hot your mouth feels on me,” or "Yes, suck my nipples baby! You make them so hard"

I do think it's harder to deal if they get to carried away with the dirty talk. I would let it go and wait until it’s a non sexual moment to bring it up if it's bothering you or taking away from your arousal.

 

[Kpooh]

I saw or heard recently that the tip to talking dirty is to just describe what is being done to you or what you want done. Like if he is kissing your breast you could say, "I love how hot your mouth feels on me,” or "Yes, suck my nipples baby! You make them so hard"

I do think it's harder to deal if they get to carried away with the dirty talk. I would let it go and wait until it’s a non sexual moment to bring it up if it's bothering you or taking away from your arousal.

Would you expect your lover to do the same though? Are you sure they would?

 

[Scepter]

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Would you expect your lover to do the same though? Are you sure they would?

Yes...If you both have honesty and respect in your relationship.

When not making love...But both of you getting a bit horny....Bring up the subject of adding dirty talk to your sex life, if he / she likes the idea go for it!

Regarding getting carried away, best to wait until the next day to bring that up. Wouldn't want to kill the moment.

Communicate!

 

[sweetsparkles]

Any one have any tips on how to release those inhibitions & say whatever you want???


How about tips on what to do if your partner says something TOO dirty? Do you ignore it or bring it to their attention?


Tips on things to say to turn your partner on?

What is too dirty??

 

[Kpooh]

What is too dirty??

I guess that would be for each person to decide.

 

[Rattlesnake1775]

Naaaaaaaaaaaaaasty

The three things I do if I'm going to talk dirty to le' love of my life...

1. Drink a Crown & Coke
2. Visualize what I'm talking about
3. Whisper it softly into her ear as I wrap her up in my arms

Now, for us talking about sex is a ten times an hour occurence, and so talking dirty to me is the defined act of holding her in place and talking her through an entire sexual encounter without quitting, to get her horny beyond belief. This requires some discipline, and at the end it is serious fucky-fucky time. The exception is if we are in a car on a road trip, then we just talk about what we would like to be doing other then driving down boring ass interstates...

 

[SweetErika]

Any one have any tips on how to release those inhibitions & say whatever you want???
Tips on things to say to turn your partner on?

There are TONS of great, comprehensive threads on this. By searching for thread titles that include 'dirty' in How To, you should find everything you want to know, and then some.
A couple to get you started (by NO means comprehensive):
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=357138
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=13684383
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=311415
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=227903
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=174642

Check The Blank Manual as well, specifically "Verbal Sex...Yes!" under the "Spice things up" category.

How about tips on what to do if your partner says something TOO dirty? Do you ignore it or bring it to their attention?

It depends on what it is. If a partner says something that hurts or really bothers me (one example might be, "I want to take you in the bedroom and rape you," where 'rape' is used as a synonym for 'fuck,' not literally), I'll definitely bring it up. I had to do this last week, and I just said, "Honey, that's not a good thing to say to me." He apologized, I told him it wasn't a big deal and knew his intentions but I wanted to let him know because it might have the potential to become one. He thanked me, and we moved on. Likewise, I'd want to know immediately, as opposed to risking upsetting them by repeating it in the future, so I see it as a respect/trust/honesty issue.

If it's something I just don't find arousing, or that I'd never consider doing, I'll generally assume it's a heat-of-the moment kind of thing, respect that it's arousing to THEM, and let it go. I want my partners to fantasize and express themselves, whether we share the kink or not; their enjoyment and openness are extremely important to me. If it was something that really turned me off and was mentioned frequently, or I felt they were trying to "convince" me to do it by bringing it up a lot, I'd talk to them about it when we finished. However, I tend to talk about limits and turn-offs early on, and believe most people would avoid bringing something up if they knew it really grossed me out.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Erika's right, the key is discussing limits early on. The first girl I ever slept with and I ran aground of this reef. She told me she wanted me to rape her one night, and I freaked. I couldn't even fathom doing that to someone and it really upset me. So I tried to but I just couldn't do it and in the end I was so upset I couldn't ever get aroused. This upset her, and it all deteriorated.

Well after we both calmed down and talked about it all she really wanted was to go at it harder and faster than we had before. Well shit I had no problem with that, but using the terminology she did just floored me. Like I said, young, inexperieinced and not really sure what we were doing, but I think it taught me a very important lesson. Don't be afraid to be very clear, even if you think it will kill the mood, as to what you want. It will save a disasterous encounter in the end.

The best advice I can give is start slow and work up to it. Even better, watch a porn together, ask him if it turns him on when she talks like that. It's a great way to start a discussion on the topic. Also if you agree that if one of you goes to far to say something, and not get upset, then you can feel safe and just have fun. It's just like anything new, one partner can't be afraid to say when enough is enough, and the oher can't get upset when the other says enough.

Did that last sentence make any sense?

 

[stageleft]

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Any one have any tips on how to release those inhibitions & say whatever you want???


How about tips on what to do if your partner says something TOO dirty? Do you ignore it or bring it to their attention?


Tips on things to say to turn your partner on?

my g/f is a godsend in this dept!!!im softhearted,shy & often to respectful..my g/f has learnt to tap into what i love most of all.recently i was straddling her chest gently rubbing my stiff cock on her lovely face.she smiled up at me & crudely encouraged me to cum on her face!!it was wonderful & her eyes were ablaze with lust as she urged me to make a sexy mess on her face!!focus on your fave turn ons...highly recommended!!!

 

[asian_princess]

It constantly amazes me how much effect well constructed and well placed dirty talk can have on a man.
I've found a detailed description of where i want him to cum and what the subsequent cumshot will look like on my skin has led to a quick one two jerk, a grunt and what do you know, ...just where i requested it ;-)

Anticipation created by your words is always a safe bet...low, hot whispers in his ear mixed with a sot nibble here and there on his ear lobe while you're describing just how much you want his "rock hard cock" or insert preferred adjective, and how you're baout to give him the sucking of his life, decribe what you're going to do, how long you'll do it...and again, how it's all to end.

As for me, aren't we all a bit guilty when it comes to a bit of heightened emotional sensitivity when it comes to sex? be it physical...or verbal ;-) as with most sexual issues, i find it easier to set the boundaries prior to sex in a safe and open and honest environment. Personally, i don't find non-consentual fantasies a turn on. Completely a personal thing. My partner tried to broach the possibility of us role playing once and i told him, in what i thought was in a sensitive tone, that, while i was happy to discuss his interest and verbally go through his fantasies with him, i wasn't comfortable acting it out. He spent the next wk feeling afronted because I didn't share him fantasy and then the rest of the relationship thinking that i judged him ( i didn't, hello? i'm addicted to lit.com)

rambing = be as sensitive but as honest as you can I guess, but don' be forced into anything you're not comfortable, whether it's just verbal or otherwise

Now, how many different wways are there to say "fuck me hard, joaquin phoenix*..."

*insert preferred hot sex celebrity

 

[covariant]

It constantly amazes me how much effect well constructed and well placed dirty talk can have on a man.
I've found a detailed description of where i want him to cum and what the subsequent cumshot will look like on my skin has led to a quick one two jerk, a grunt and what do you know, ...just where i requested it ;-)

You're so right, it works exactly that way on me. Our most important sex organ is the one between our ears...

Personally, i don't find non-consentual fantasies a turn on. Completely a personal thing. My partner tried to broach the possibility of us role playing once and i told him, in what i thought was in a sensitive tone, that, while i was happy to discuss his interest and verbally go through his fantasies with him, i wasn't comfortable acting it out. He spent the next wk feeling afronted because I didn't share him fantasy and then the rest of the relationship thinking that i judged him ( i didn't, hello? i'm addicted to lit.com)

rambing = be as sensitive but as honest as you can I guess, but don' be forced into anything you're not comfortable, whether it's just verbal or otherwise

Well said, I agree completely.

 

[TBKahuna123]

It constantly amazes me how much effect well constructed and well placed dirty talk can have on a man.

We're simple creatures after all. A princess in public and freak in the bedroom, that's what we all secretly crave.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[Dallass_Drake]

I once had a rather prurient liason with a charming girl who lambasted me quite severely as I plunged into her depths, mocking my lack of performance and graft. "[Flop] sake! I can't feel a [flapping] thing you [canoe]!" and things of that nature. Naturally I was quite alarmed, being a romantic chap I was proud of my attentiveness and resulting deliberate teasing pace, but soldiered on regardless. As my discharge built up I became quite tired of the demonic language flowing so freely from my rose and threw all notions of chivalry to the wind, Stalingrad suffered a lesser pounding from the hands of the German First, and she responded by begging forgiveness and mercy. Inexplicably this eliminated any immediate prospect of a discharge but not my lustings, and I continued as best I could at that pace, joining in with the banter. "Please! Just [fudge] me like a good girl!" she'd exclaim, "But you don't deserve it you unholy [strumpet]!" I'd retort triumphantly, and better yet thus yearning for punishment allowed me the pleasure of further debasing this angel at the moment of discharge, not only enmoistening her face but flailing my construction around and slapping her playfully

It was a very good experience, certainly I now have a penchant for beauties who scream filth at me, although since then I had experiences with ladies who couldn't offend a kitten with an air rifle that have been significantly less gratifying. Certainly though, I'd say any woman endeavoring to improve her dirty talk deserves an applause as she'd be gaining definite favour from a man such as myself, and I reckon such exploits would prove beneficial to any relationship assuming both participants develop a liking for it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'm trying to imagine Dallas talking dirty with that delightfully sophisticated drawl of his. That makes me wonder, how would you ladies feel about someone reciting dirty victorian poetry while you made love?

 

[asian_princess]

That makes me wonder, how would you ladies feel about someone reciting dirty victorian poetry while you made love?

lol i imagine you mean the reciting is done by the partner with whom you are making the hot passionate love but for some reason i was imagine a richard attenborough type voice booming out on the microphone reciting the poetry as though it were the commentary of the performance.

"...There was a young woman from Harlesden
Who sucked off her man in the garden
He said, "I want to know
Where does my sperm go?"
She swallowed and said, "Beg your pardon?"..."
- limerick, anon

 

[Eilan]

That makes me wonder, how would you ladies feel about someone reciting dirty victorian poetry while you made love?

As long as it's not "Porphyria's Lover." That's not really "dirty" per se, but still.

 

[Pyro Paul]

its always easyer if you just slowly roll into it,

simply saying not so dirty things in a more vocalized manner.

"oh, i want you so badly right now, I want you inside me"
simple kinda dirty sentence.
"oh, i want you to fuck me so hard right now, i want your cock reaming my tight hole"
the same sentence even dirty-er.

talking dirty is basicly adding vulgar language to what your saying normaly. that is all really.

"take me" not dirty
"Fuck me" dirty.

also, using this is easyer as its harder to offend some one through this. as you are basicly saying the same things you would normaly say, but just saying them in a more vulgar manner.

hope this helps.

 

[Kpooh]

Thanks PP....that sounds like a really good way to get started. Then just work my way up? I dont think I really have a problem with talking dirty as much as a problem with saying it loud enough to be heard...I think maybe I might be a little shy?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Sounds like a matter of safety and comfort. Start off small, see that he has a positive reaction, and take that as proof that you can talk dirty with out being embarassed.

 

[FurryFury]

Thanks PP....that sounds like a really good way to get started. Then just work my way up? I dont think I really have a problem with talking dirty as much as a problem with saying it loud enough to be heard...I think maybe I might be a little shy?

I've been working on this for a while now. I was raised to believe it's just wrong for a lady to do this but he loves it so, I work on it.

It helps me to write it and think about it, then try to say or do just one thing during. It gets easier as you work on it. The look on his face, the sharp intake of breath he does, the extra hard pounding, is priceless when I gift him with one or more of those dirty talk moments.

Fury

 

[Scepter]

I'm a guy, but I have a girlfriend who I'm trying to get into the dirty talking thing. She's learning!

Something about using really dirty language removes the last vestiges of any inhibitions I might have.