Tips on Fingering

[drdoom45]

few months ago finnaly got to 3rd base w/ a long time friend and needless to say, i had no idea wtf i was doing.

that was my first time that far with any girl and i could tell she was bored.

any tips for giving a girl an orgasm when your fingering?

 

[old_scratch]

few months ago finnaly got to 3rd base w/ a long time friend and needless to say, i had no idea wtf i was doing.

that was my first time that far with any girl and i could tell she was bored.

any tips for giving a girl an orgasm when your fingering?

I can’t believe someone asked this question, but ok.

First you stimulate her clit with your finger, (rubbing, rolling, gently pulling, etc). If you don’t know where the clit/clitoris is, Google it.

When it starts to feel good to her, she will open her legs to give you better access. Take notice how she responds to your stimulation, and adjust to her reaction.

You can make her orgasm this way, or if you like, (when she is aroused), slide you finger into her vagina and find her G-spot. (Make sure she is wet before you insert your finger). Her G-spot is located on the front side of her vagina within easy reach of your finger, and is about the size of a dime or smaller. When it swells from being stimulated, it will feel kind of spongy. You can stimulate her G-spot by stroking it with your finer back and forth, or in a circular motion. Whichever works best.

If after you stimulate her G-spot for a while, she may feel like she is going to pee. Assure her it is not pee, she is just going to ejaculate, and continue fingering her until she squirts.

If she is really aroused, (hot), from this stimulation, kiss her on her tummy. If she doesn’t try to pull your head away, continue kissing her lower and lower until you reach her clit. Then lick and suck her clit. She will have likely orgasmed several times by now.

If she still seems bored after all of this, check her pulse and see if she is still alive.

 

[Panama Hat]

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[Reba67]

Was she wet at all? If she's not wet herself you need to add some lube. It gets pretty uncomfortable poking around down there when it's dry.

 

[CWatson]

Okay, first step: swallow your frakking pride and ask her for advice. We can give you very generalized instructions and plenty of ideas for things to try, but there's only one person on earth who knows what works on this girl of yours and what she'd like to have done to her. Maybe you should be asking that person first. =P

If she's not wet, you have much larger problems than the fact that you can't give her an orgasm.

Historically what has worked for me (the, you know, three times I've ever done it in my life--yay, one-fuck-every-nine-years lifetime average!) is to get her clit between two of my fingertips and just move those fingers in circles. The clitoris is what it's all about. Sticking stuff inside her ought to feel good, but (Freud notwithstanding) all orgasmic activity flows from the clitoris. So, even if you do put fingers in, make sure you're still stimulating her clit, either with the web between your fingers (if they're that long) or just with your palm. (And keep in mind that most of the time I still need to ask my lover to help me find her clit, so I am about as far from "good at sex" as it is possible to get while still being in contention.)

And finally, don't just go straight for the into-her-pants. Seduction (not to mention proper arousal) involves all body parts: lips, arms, legs, hands, ears, feet (if she's into that--ooh, that reminds me, I wanted to try that some day)... And, most importantly, head, mouth and heart. On a purely technical level there's something to be said for working your way down slowly and being a tease about it; anticipation is one hell of a drug, after all, and the largest erogenous zone she has is her skin. But seriously, you need to get her brain into it; the most powerful erogenous zone she has is her brain. The clit is just an afterthought.

How old are you, anyway, kid?

 

[SweetErika]

Okay, first step: swallow your frakking pride and ask her for advice. We can give you very generalized instructions and plenty of ideas for things to try, but there's only one person on earth who knows what works on this girl of yours and what she'd like to have done to her. Maybe you should be asking that person first. =P

Pretty much, yeah. Try some different things, ask her to give you lots of feedback so you can please her, then actually listen to said feedback. Great sex requires active participation from everyone involved, so if she refuses to tell you what does and doesn't work for her, you likely need a new partner who IS willing to help you please them.

And don't listen to anyone who claims to have THE instructions for pleasing your partner or all women. Plenty of women don't respond to g-spot stimulation. Relatively few ejaculate (so, no, don't keep going until she ejaculates because she may very well not). Some HATE having their tummies kissed and/or receiving oral sex, but really respond to other things. People who believe in one-size-fits-all techniques/advice are terrible lovers because they should be listening to their individual partners' feedback, rather than marching on with their own interpretations of what works for women or men on the whole.

 

[CNYCarol]

I could put in my 2 cents, but Watson and Erika are on it. If your partner won't communicate her desires, it will be a hit or miss affair.

"If you can't communicate, masturbate!"