Tips for using Magic Wand First-Timer?

[TossHerSalad]

I just got a Magic Wand for my wife's birthday... but I'm not exactly sure the best way to give her a fabulous experience with it the first time.

We have a few vibrators, one (a JimmyJane Form 2: http://www.jimmyjane.com/form-2-vibrator) is quite powerful for a little guy, in fact, more powerful than she can normally handle. I think we get to power 3 of 5 most of the time, though she has handled 5 for almost 30 minutes and loved it. (She called it a 30 minute orgasm...) She's new to the whole vibrator thing, and most likely, I will be using it on her. (Which puts the pressure on to "perform" as it were. lol)

Also, I purchased a speed controller to go with the MW, just to make sure it didn't overpower her.

My plan is to give her a massage on her birthday, and incorporate the wand. I'm all good on the massage part... just looking for guidance on how to pleasure her lady bits with the new toy.

I'm sure I should start slow... and let her reactions be my guide. But I'm sure some of you ladies (or gents) may have some tips, tricks and tactics that would help me.

Thanks in advance if you can guide me.

 

[Privates1stClass]

There are some attachments which fit over the head of the Magic Wand (both for male and female). You might check online for some of those.

The Magic Wand is a powerful vibrator, so don't begin with it directly on her clit. Start off an inch or two away and get her 'heated up' before applying it on or near her clit.

The 'low' and 'hi' switches on the Magic Wand give you only two speed choices, so the speed controller is a great idea. There's one frequency which will stimulate her more than another, so it's your job to try and find what that frequency is. My wife likes a medium speed to begin with, but as she gets turned on, she likes a higher speed.

In my opinion, the MW is the best vibrator there is, but it's also louder than most, so if your walls are thin, or the kids are on the other side of the wall, I'd suggest using it when you and your wife are alone.

Get ready to have some fun.

 

[TossHerSalad]

Thanks, I have some attachments coming too.

 

[TossHerSalad]

This seems pretty informative...

http://ohhhwendy.tumblr.com/post/70661405318/hitachi-magic-wand-vibrator-by-erika-moen-this

 

[SweetErika]

Definitely look into getting the vinyl or pure silicone attachments. We never use our MW without an attachment; I find the Wand itself just makes me itchy and uncomfortable, but the g-spot (curved) attachment is perfect for both clitoral and vaginal/g-spot stimulation. My husband uses the straight attachment for prostate stimulation (the curved one would work great for that as well, but we prefer to have dedicated toys for anal play, even when said toys can be sanitized properly).

LUBE. The MW moves fast, even with a speed controller. Make sure you have lube (we like a drop or two of silicone, since it's super slick and won't dry out) at the ready in case she needs it.

With the scenario you presented, you might incorporate some more erotic massage before turning on the MW. Google "yoni massage" to get some ideas on techniques and how your full body massage could progress. Genital massage might be a good way to incorporate the lube in preparation for the MW.

I'd also suggest giving your wife the option of exploring what the MW can do on her own. Many women prefer having the opportunity to try new toys out in a pressure-free environment. I'm not suggesting you pressure her in any way, just that being with a partner automatically adds more "noise" to an encounter, and that can be enough to prevent relaxation, full arousal and orgasm.

Another trick for reducing the intensity of the MW is using it over panties or with several layers of soft material (like a folded silky scarf or lingerie) in between your wife and the MW. You can also try putting your hand or fingers between your wife and the MW (BTW, that technique can be pretty fun for hand jobs, too).

 

[TossHerSalad]

Fabulous, thanks for the tips.

The MW was delivered yesterday. For fun, I tried it on myself. My gawd, the quality of the vibration is fantastic. Now I know what people mean when they describe vibrators as "buzzy" or "rumbly." The JimmyJane is very buzzy... and the MW is rumble city! (Especially on "low.")

I have to say, personally, I like rumbly much better. I'll soon find out if she does too.

BTW, I wish she would try it out on her own, haven't quite got her there yet... it would sure cut my learning curve!

 

[amofiga]

Like others have said, start off slow. My wife has mixed emotions about the MW I gave her about two years ago.... it's a "guaranteed O" but it's so fast coming that it doesn't give as much build up and so it's not as intense as one that's slow to come with some edging.

 

[TossHerSalad]

Thanks for all of the great tips. After a good hour of erotic massage, I slowly introduced the wand at a slow speed and used the speed controller to ease her in for about 10 minutes. (Very glad I went with that option, BTW.)

After she was ready for more intensity, I turned it up and she exploded twice in about 5 minutes. We tried for 3 O's, but she said she was getting numb... but she loved the experience.

Success!

 

[SweetErika]

I'm thrilled it went so well for you two, THS!

Did you get your attachments yet? You might try switching to g-spot stimulation with an attachment once she's orgasmed via clitoral stimulation.

 

[TossHerSalad]

Thanks Erika!

We used the Nub Tip attachment. So far, she's not into penetrating toys, she says she likes me better in there. lol (Proves toys can never completely replace partners, but we all know that.)

Anyway... we shall see if and when attachments are desired by her. For now, I'm thrilled our once dead sex life is steaming up.

 

[Aphro]

Is it really loud? I have not tried a Hitachi MW, and would love to give it a whirl, so to speak. I worry, however, that the noise will be distracting, and that it will throw me off.

Glad you had good success with it, though.

 

[Privates1stClass]

Is it really loud?

The Hitachi Magic Wand is louder than most other vibrators--it has a distinctive sound which penetrates walls. You probably wouldn't want to use it on yourself if you have thin walls and there are others in the adjoining room. You could turn on a TV or radio to mask the noise.

However, it provides so much enjoyment that when you're by yourself, the noise really doesn't matter. Or, if you have a partner to use it on you, you'll have orgasms that will send you over the moon--to hell with the noise--you'll be moaning and groaning so loudly, they will mask the MW. It has vibrations you can't ignore--you'd have to be dead not to be turned on by it.

It's worth every penny you pay for it. Enjoy!

 

[Mindfondler]

Is it really loud? I have not tried a Hitachi MW, and would love to give it a whirl, so to speak. I worry, however, that the noise will be distracting, and that it will throw me off.

It is fairly loud (and seems even more so if you're self-conscious about it), but I'm fairly sure that won't throw you off. That's why my wife is reluctant to use her MW, or let me use it on her. She knows that, if she starts, she'll find it very difficult to stop.

As Privates1stClass says, there's also the question of the noises that you might start making yourself once you're in the zone. If you're concerned about that possibility, then it's worth preparing something in advance to cover up all types of noise.

I've set up a preset on the radio near our bed to a Hard Rock station that carries a 24-hour stream of music with heavy sounds, thrashing beats and screaming vocals. I reckon that covers most eventualities.
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[TossHerSalad]

As others have chimed in, it is louder than the other vibes we have. More so on the high setting. But my wife didn't seem to hear a thing. She never remarked on the noisiness... just the power.

When the MW was delivered, I pulled it out to see how noisy it was, as I'd heard that as a common complaint. I left it on the bed turned to high, walked out in the hall and closed the door. I couldn't hear it.

So I suppose it depends on how thin your walls are. And I suspect you'll love the feeling so much, the added noise won't matter!