Tips for the Future

[Snazzona]

Hi. Let's say that someone was writing a book on the BDSM lifestyle and asked for your input. What are the 2 things that you would want to tell future generations.

Example: That there isn't any such thing as a *no limits* relationships. But there are different levels of *no limits.*

This is strictly for input on the BDSM lifestyle. I will not be using any replies in a book. It is strictly a hypothetical book. Smile

 

[WillowPuss]

Not being awfully experienced, I have only one suggestion ... find yourself a good forum (such as this) and learn all you can from those who have actually lived the lifestyle for longer than you.

 

[lilredwolph]

Fly swatters sting and Mr. Cane can be your friend, if only you take a chance to get to know him.


Now really, I would stress there is no perfect, what is right for one relationship maynot be right for another. Be true to yourself and DO NOT give up any part of yourself just because somebody says it's the right way.

lilred

 

[MissTaken]

Submissive does NOT equal doormat!


Safe, sane, consensual play is paramount.

 

[WriterDom]

1. Safe, sane, and consensual. Just as "safe" leads off the creed, keep it foremost in your mind and in your play.

2. Realize the responsibility you are taking on with a submissive who is new to bdsm. A bad first experience is really hard to overcome. If done correctly, she should be climbing the walls with excitement over her second trip down the kinky path.

 

[cellis]

Question everyone and everything in the beginning.

Accept nothing at face value.

 

[WillowPuss]

Open and honest communication between partners is a must.

 

[shy_roamer]

advice?

i think if it doesn't seem to take wayyyyyy too long to find your Dom/me, then you didn't do enough "research"

 

[Quint]

1.) Learn together. Love together.

2.) Liberal lube.

 

[Rooster]

I'd say Study, Communicate, and take it in phases and steps you and your partner are comfortable with.

 

[WillowPuss]

Subs have the right to say 'NO'.

In fact ... subs have rights!