Tips for talking/writing dirty?

[MagistrateSarus]

I have this girl, I love very much, just, an incredible amount, she means the world to me. I want to talk or write dirty to her, whenever we aren't together. She would be ok with this, just we have never really tried this before, and I don't know if I would do a good job, because I wouldn't be able to tell if she was patronizing me if I weren't.

Any advice/links/tips, anything for this sort of thing? I know what I want to do, just, how can I say it in a way that gets her aroused, what can I do to get her involved, and how can I tell if I am doing a good job?

Please help, she means a lot to me, and I want to be able to talk to her like this, just, I want to make sure I can do it well, and not worry about sounding like an idiot.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

Just write from your heart...

You could write a couple paragraphs of a fantasy and then have her write a few and take turns with it. That allows the story to evolve and involves both of you.

Otherwise, write about a fantasy of hers that you know she likes...

Don't worry about sounding like an idiot. Just have fun with it and make it as realistic and detailed as you can... Have fun with it!

 

[Reba67]

It can be really short messages. Often my boyfriend and I have email sex throughout the day. It might start with saying I wanted to kiss him. right. this. minute. It goes from there.

 

[SweetErika]

We've had some great threads on talking dirty and phone sex in the past.

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When people love each other like you describe, precision and perfection become unimportant, in my experience. While certain things can tickle the funny bone, it's difficult to fail and patronizing shouldn't be part of the equation. So, just say what you feel and don't worry about doing it "right" because there's no one right way for a couple to communicate or express their desires and whatever you say is probably going to come across great to her. It should be pretty clear if she's enjoying herself or uncomfortable, and you can always ask for feedback/her feelings if you sense she's not really into it.

 

[subwannabe]

" I want to talk or write dirty to her"

"She would be ok with this"

"I want to be able to talk to her like this"




Sounds to me like you want to do this more for yourself and she may not be at all interested in it. If she's not interested in it, you could turn her off, even if you do a good job at it. You need to find out through good communication how much she would really like to do this. If you are doing this for yourself only she will not be happy and you will wind up being disappointed in the result.